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aibu to take an unscheduled night off

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NamesNick · 24/10/2014 18:04

every night we get home from work/school/nursery around 6pm.
I come in get dinner ready, respond to everyone's varying needs. ..juice, tv, fruit, dinner, games, pyjamas etc etc. ..while dp sits on couch and mucks around on his phone.

tonight after a tough day at work I have come home packed dd off to her dads and filled the bath with roasting bubbly water and took a soak with MN and a glass of wine.

dss 1,2&3 yet to be fed and I hear no stirrings of cooking downstairs

the back story here is that I complained to dp this morning of being treated like a housekeeper/cook. his response was to tell me its all in mind Hmm

in short im fed up and decided to leave them all to it

cheers everyone Wine

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NamesNick · 24/10/2014 19:15

help quick.
do I empty the pisswater?
it was only a little trickle if im honest?

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ThisFenceIsComfy · 24/10/2014 19:15

Go go OP, just sit on the bed MNing. If he asks what your doing just say "I'm drying off". Offer no further explanation of your plans

ThisFenceIsComfy · 24/10/2014 19:16

Umm x post.

Empty bath I think

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NamesNick · 24/10/2014 19:22

pisswater emptying. had to explain to dp why. .

leg shavings, dirty hair etc etc

still on bed though drying off.

I have encouraged all kids to bathe now Grin

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NamesNick · 24/10/2014 19:24

bedtime is normally 7.30pm under my regime

cant see bedtime before half eight. I will be pissed by that time Grin

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laurentperrier · 24/10/2014 19:30

Op I think I love you!

BeetlebumShesAGun · 24/10/2014 19:33

I also love OP Grin

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 24/10/2014 19:34

This is brilliant! Enjoy it.

Bet he chirps up with a "well it isnt that difficult is it?" which I would take as his acceptance to do it every night.

duckbilled · 24/10/2014 19:35

Once you have completed your beauty regime, I am sure there is a long phone call in order Wink. Or at least be ready to pretend hanging up if he enters the room Smile

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NamesNick · 24/10/2014 19:38

aww I love the solidarity!

OMG dss3 (3 YRS) has just shit in the bath Grin Grin Grin Grin

guilt setting in. do I assist?

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number2093847 · 24/10/2014 19:39

Maybe you will feel too light headed again to help with bath/bed time and will need to lie down instead?

Sundaedelight · 24/10/2014 19:41

Health and safety says if you are feeling light headed to stay away from water and children. But not wine.

IMurderedStampyLongnose · 24/10/2014 19:42

Do not assist!well done you,keep lying on the bed.i am envious.

BettyFocker · 24/10/2014 19:42

Enjoy OP. If I did this, I'd be getting out and DP would be asking, "So what are we having for dinner?" He attempted to cook once and had to ask me which spoon was a tablespoon. He doesn't know which knob (nob? I never know which is which) controls the grill, how to use the coffee machine or that cheese on toast requires both sides to be grilled, not just the side with cheese on. Maybe I should disappear at dinnertime one day and see what happens. My guess is he and DS would starve.

Nightowlagain · 24/10/2014 19:43

Only help him if he would help you! Well done op, sounds like he needs a wake up call. Do you both work full time and yet he lets you do everything? That's not on. Good luck with getting him to step up long term, I'm sure you'll find lots of advice here if you need it!

Wine cheers!

tiredvommachine · 24/10/2014 19:45

Good on yourself OP! Wine

AlbaGuBrath · 24/10/2014 19:50

Shamelessly place marking for this evenings progress

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NamesNick · 24/10/2014 19:50

nightowl. I am having a bit of fun with it tonight but I do realise there are issues to be sorted if we are to live together like this.
we both work fulltime yet I seem to have inherited the role of general dogsbody.
I am leaving him to it tonight and he is surprisingly rising to the challenge (not that it should be a challenge)
perhaps I should delegate more as opposed to being the martyr?

I don't know. but for now im in my pj's, nice and clean, relaxing on the bed with wine.

deal with ishoos tomorrow

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NamesNick · 24/10/2014 20:04

all kids in bed
this is normally the bit where I start on our dinner.
I am hungry. I am sure dp is hungry
I have wine. he has beer.
he is watching big bang theory

do I do dinner?

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glenthebattleostrich · 24/10/2014 20:09

Hell no. Ask him what take out he's getting for you also known as dh's idea of cooking

Wishtoremainunknown · 24/10/2014 20:15

Christ no. Ask him what's for dinner.

number2093847 · 24/10/2014 20:18

No don't. I think he actually needs a few days of being in charge of all things domestic to get the full feeling of what it's like to be responsible day in day out

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NamesNick · 24/10/2014 20:19

something is not right.
he knows! and is playing the game.

just asked what's for dinner.

he replied with would you like me to do dinner. I said do you want to?
and then he said. I never want to make dinner but
I realise ive only made dinner once to your 1000 times. I will gladly make dinner once big bang theory is finished

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number2093847 · 24/10/2014 20:20

sneakily grab a digestive biscuit to keep your strength up

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NamesNick · 24/10/2014 20:21

number ive been stealing marshmallows from the kids leftovers for the past hald hour Grin

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