DD's latest tic is making me murderous.[title edited by MNHQ]

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It's a revolting little throat noise. Over and over and over again.

I thought the random clicking from a few weeks ago was bad enough, or the rhythmical sniffs or last week's tap tap tap but OH MY FUCKING GOD all I can hear now, even over the hubbub of Sunday dinner, is mm mm, mm mm from the back of her throat.

I've had to leave the table and I'm on the verge of tears. If anyone has ANY idea how I can get through this, please share.

No idea why she tics, by the way, she always has. It is actually torture to not react or scream at her to stfu .

I'm posting to take my mind off it tbh.

When DS left his infant school I was told by one of the teachers that they "hid" my son under a piece of gym equipment as the head couldn't bear her eyes being drawn to DS tics. He used to have whole body tics as well as vocal ones. These tics were always worse when he felt stressed or knew he was bothering people. I know I should of felt horrified, but was so glad to out of there and could see the motivation of the teacher protecting DS from the "witch"!!

Vent away fuchyoushera, that's what mn is for.

I hope you can find some kind of release IRL too.

Those of you who are barraging all over the OP I think you need your own thread so you can blow your own trumpet as to how wonderful you manage to suppress your rage at your own Dds tics.

Fwiw I cannot stand anyone sucking their teeth or slurping their food.
It brings me out in the screaming heebies with indiscriminate stabby reflexes, but I've never been dx that I have a condition with a long name!
I think I've just a had a Victorian upbringing, where it's bad manners to slurp or teeth suck, or bang/rap/ make noise unsociably.

I feel for you if you're also worried how your dcs will fit in later on when they're with those who don't particularly know or love them.
Having said that, theres none so wuare as folk- I know I had to stop moving my leg when I started out at uni as my roommate threatened to throw me out the window if I kept jigging it watching the telly.

Who knows what sets some off and their teeth on edge?
I suppose being open to communication and change and realising that some habits are annoying is the way to go.

Backbystealth your post is awful. The OP is sharing her feelings not judging her DD or anyone else with a tic or similar. Try empathising and not judging. Yes we all realise how hard life is for people with tics etc but we are hardwired to find somethings challenging.

My son tics relentlessly and has done for about 3 years. It drives me nuts! Absolutely nuts.
The feeling of relief when a particularly annoying tic starts to phase out is amazing. Sometimes I have to leave the room or bite my tongue so I don't say anything.
Thankfully other kids don't seem to find it as annoying. Yet.
You are not alone

I found tics a lot easier to deal with when I got my head round it being something they suffer, than something they do on purpose.
My kids tic a lot - it's definitely not an easy situation to live with

YANBU. It's a noise that is annoying you.

Yanbu. You're allowed to find to annoying, nobody (except one) here doubts that you support your daughter.

You can still find the tics annoying, you're only human.

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My ds1 has tics, used to be a jaw clunking thing and now is a sniffing one. He has severe anxiety issues.

I understand that sometimes these tics can be irritating but I've never felt angry about it, just more frustrated that ds does it as he hates it. If possible get a referral to a good psychologist at the local camhs ours have been brilliant with ds1.

I have tics (silent ones).

It's never occurred to me that they could annoy anyone anywhere as near as much as the annoy me.

Not quite sure what to do with the information this thread contains now, that I must really piss people off.

Sympathies though, OP, both of my DC wet their beds every night to the point of soaking their sheets through pull-ups and it's a pain in the butt washing 2 sets of duvets and sheets every single day, so i understand it's just bloody frustrating when things happen that they can't help.

i will join you in

I have OCD and have many similar tics.

Used to drive my mum up the wall, now I drive dh up the wall instead.

I also have a child who has throat tics and it drives me mad too.

I also have that misog.... thing. I have a strong dislike for most noises, it is actually awful and I have to have music on to drown out the sound of people eating and sometimes I have to leave the room for a bit so I don't make everyone uncomfortable with my obvious hate of noises.

My DS both had tics. The mm mm mm one DS2 did in his mid teens used to stress me and DH out. I knew he couldn't help it as I had a silent tic as a child. Most do grow out of them and are best ignored but that is hard I know. I wish I had been on mumsnet back then so I could vent. I suppose I just want to say I understand

Continue to vent op. Saintly poster can hide the thread.

My ds has partial hearing. There are some days I want to scream if he says one more 'pardon?' or I have to repeat myself, again, for the nth time. It is so, so annoying. I love him to distraction but this makes me tear my hair out.

/ / whatever helps.

Please could some of you go easy on Backbystealth - don't you have the gumption to see that Back is hurting (anxiety over her own dd and worries about the future etc) hence her venting at the OP - which may not be fair, but is understandable!

My ds used to have tics when he was about 6. It drove me potty.

I tried to ignore but sometimes I just couldn't. He grew out of them, thankfully.

Whether Back is hurting or not thats not an excuse really to take it out on someone else because they are struggling too.

OP i sympathise.

OP my ds1 (ASD) has multiple vocal & verbal stims, I do my best but at times I find them incredibly (nails on blackboard) annoying & hard to deal with (go into garden for a few deep breaths & some peace). On top of that my youngest two (both NT) have started mimicking the stims (probably subconsciously because ds1 does it so often - they aren't being mean or anything) - so I often have all three of them humming etc. Some days I want to block my ears up.

Oh & my eldest daughter & dh both tic when stressed or tired.

You have my sympathy.

What you felt is perfectly understandable. When DD wakes in the night, which she does pretty often, I feel thoroughly murderous to have been dragged from a deep sleep. She can't help it and I can't help feeling angry. I try hard not to show it but after 4 sleep deprived years I know how you feel.

Ive had twenty years of hair twiddling, sniffing, weird throat noises and nose flicking. There are times when I could scream into a cushion. You go ahead love.

I can see where Backby is coming from. My NT DS's singing drives me up the wall, as did my ExPs food blowing. But my other DS's tics are just that, tics that he can't help. It wouldn't occur to me to pissed off with it and I suppose it is a bit shocking to think that people would get that irritated about a tic.

BUT, I can see the OPs point. OK to sound off about it here in the same way that's ok to sound off about how you feel about your child's disabilities.

Oh love :( im sure she will grow out of it. I did-all sorts of random ocd things. They got much much worse when I was upset or stressed. Is she okay in school and stuff? Mine got crazy when pets died/scary things in news/exams etc

my dd did the face stretching , nose twitching , blinking eyes , she would do it for weeks then stop and start a different one , it drove me mad , i got upset and annoyed , when i mentioned it she got worse ,i thought people would pick on her , i only stopped when she said this is how im wired i cant help it , it doesnt bother me if it bothers any one else thats their problem , so now i dont say a word .