aibu to think my sis should wait before dumping her cat?

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I need some grounding here, as I am so v mad at my sister, all I am seeing is red mist! Or am I being a complete cow/unreasonable?!

My sis is a single parent to 3 boys, (12,7 and 14 months). She is in rented accom which is too small for all 3. (The youngest is with her 3 nights/wk - don't get me going on that one!) Her cat she has had for about 5 - 7 years I think.

However even though she is not out of contract on her current house, so no risk of being homeless etc, she has seen a bigger one that she loves and has decided she wants it. But the cat can't come.

Now personally, I would wait for a house that accepts one cat, rather than dumping it on already stretched rehoming centers. I have volunteered in one of these centers and it destroys the animals. They come in scared and timid. If they don't adapt, I have seen them stay in the shelter indefinitely. With my sis cats age, I fear she will be in shelter for a long time.

It just feels that because her cat doesn't fit into her plans then she is being treated as collateral damage to be passed on/forgotten. I know its hard and I do sympathise with her situation, but it just feels she is rushing into things a bit.

I would love to give her cat a forever home, but I have 2 myself, and they would never forgive me!

Aibu to expect her to wait until another property comes up? Feel free to slap me if I am!

But she is not getting evicted or facing other desperate circumstances. She could still look for a cat-friendly place or negotiate with the landlord, e.g. Pay an extra deposit.

Where's her baby the other 4 nights a week?

The op didnt say it was shared custody with child's dad. She said "don't get me going on that one" so left it open to assume it wasn't something done in best interests of child or even a misguided idea of what might be her best fir the child.

I really struggle to understand people you can give up their pets without a second thought. It makes me think they are selfish and sort of heartless inside. Once you give up your animal you have no idea where it will end up and the treatment it will receive. It might end up with some nutcase who does nasty things to it, films it and sticks it on fb.

Genuine reason than fair enough.

Once you give up your animal you have no idea where it will end up and the treatment it will receive. It might end up with some nutcase who does nasty things to it, films it and sticks it on fb.

Not if you have it PTS. If that is what is best for her and her children, that is what she should do.

You say the problem is when her youngest stays? Then is she is trying to get the best for her children when her youngest does stay. There is not enough evidence to judge whether your sister is dumping her cat "without a second thought" as other posters have suggested.

Children come first. Perhaps the decision is not an easy one for her. We have way of knowing how easy it is to find a suitable house in her circumstances or how difficult the decision to rehome her pet is. You say it's not fair on your cats to rehouse the cat yourself but it's not fair on her children to be in cramped conditions when she has all of them.

I have moved countries and brought my cat with me. I am fully committed towards his care, but I still don't think he really is "part of the family" and he would never take precedence over the welfare of my family.