To be pissed off with DH who chooses the only day I am not at work to Work from home

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I should be watching my player list whilst gently cleaning and ironing at my own pace I know he's going to drive me mad. AIBU to think this is my head space time he is invading with his work (we have no study he's in the front room)

DH did this about two years ago. I have not yet forgiven him.

can you go out for the day? I know the feeling when you expect a peaceful day and someone has the cheek to stay at home :)

There's no law saying you have to acknowledge his presence

YADNBU!

Im going against the grain here because I would like this! I'd consider it an extra day together.

YANNNBU For various reasons Dh has been working from home for months. And it's driving me nuts. There, I said it. I know I am a horrible person. But I crave a little bit of space and peace before they all thunder through the door again. I work pt so those moments are sacred just to get things done at my 'own pace' as you say.

Dh Working from home involves loud booming phone calls, lunchtime tv Bargain Hunt which I loathe (hate TV on in the day, prefer the radio), mess in the kitchen, plates everywhere and questions about what I'm up to and a general lack of PEACE.

YANBU

DH is freelance and at the moment his project requires him in the office 5 days a week.

6 months ago he was working from home 4 days a week. Dear God we nearly killed each other, and I got nothing done because he would want to have a chat and a coffee 4 times a day!

I always feel irrationally irritated when DH stays home when I was expecting the house to myself! He always wants to be doing something whilst I want to be pottering gently!

yanbu

YANBU

We both work from home mainly and DH ha gone to London for 3 days - it's bliss!!
YANBU

get an allotment, its the best thing i've ever done.

My dh works from home once a week on a day when I'm at work. I love being in the house on my own. And if he ever changes his day at home I get really huffy!

YANBU

Is this going to be every week or just today?

YaNBU! This drives me crazy. I'm a SAHM, and I always make sure if my DH is working from home, that we have plans to be out that day! We also have no study so he sits in the lounge with the laptop on his lap, drives me irrationally mad, don't really know why, he just 'gets under my feet' as my mother would say

I like it too

I would love this! We could do our own thing then have lunch together.

My DH has worked 7 days a week for the last 3 weeks and i've forgotten what it's like to have a convo. with him. So i envy you OP.

Even under normal circ.s though we love to be at home together, even just for boring days in the house, so ... sorry YABU!

Thankyou so much everyone!!! I thought it was only me and have struggled to voice my feelings. Dh has worked nights for nearly 8 years and in that time I haven't had one day in the house by myself...I used to put loud music on and blitz....I obviously cant do that when he's asleep but on his days off he's THERE...I tried to tell him once about needing time on my own but I just upset him I think...I tried to tell him that when he walked the dog I would like to know EXACTLY when he would be back as the times I was happily hoovering with loud music and he would come home early and scare me half to death..Worked for a while, knowing I would have X hours till his return, but impractical in winter and reality! . One of the best times of my life was when youngest started pre-school and I came home and blitzed...mopping to the front door as I left....going out with them and coming home to a clean house!...All this has happened whilst I am suffering with a lousy menopause and an empty nest....I must say tho that the last few years I have come to terms with it and enjoy the evenings when he leaves for work....

Well, this is YOUR day at home.

If he had the option of choosing a day when the house would be empty to work at home, and didn't take it, then he puts up with whatever YOU are planning - and any resultant noise level. He also doesn't get to disturb your schedule, either with requests for silence OR requests for coffee and chats.

Just do as planned. If he complains, tell him you're doing him a favour in showing him exactly what work environment is available at your home on a Friday so in future he can choose his home day in full possession of the facts.

Thank you for your kind words ladies.

He is in my way I want to Hoover and Iron whilst watching Grand Desgns FFS.

I get paid to work 4 days a week if I have to do the fing housework today at least I should be able to do it making a noise. (I have v low. Standard too)

Ok my watch needs taking back to the shop I am going out and I can visit Aldi on the way home.

Just mopping floor first and breathe.......

I can't even vacumn or clean because DH is taking calls and DS is on an Inset day so lounging around on the sofa moaning about having to take an X Box Break.
Seriously cutting into my Sitting-on-sofa-knitting-and-watching-Homes-Under-The-Hammer time beofre I have to go to work, dammit!

Tell him to go work in the bedroom?

Whols vv small house there is a bed in the bedroom and a bunk in the other sadly.

Sympathies... my husband is home with manflu a cold this week and I've had two days working from home to catch up from my mad travelling. Mad travelling will recommence next week and husband will be back in work... I imagine the house, at least, will enjoy the p&q...

Oh no! Crime of the century, I've just done this to DP. I have come home from work to WFH as I had a meeting nearby and dint tell him. DP has just come through the door to also WFH after a meeting nearby!

He often WFH and I never do...