To be pissed off with DH who chooses the only day I am not at work to Work from home

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I should be watching my player list whilst gently cleaning and ironing at my own pace I know he's going to drive me mad. AIBU to think this is my head space time he is invading with his work (we have no study he's in the front room)

I've got the dining table... He's going to have to work on his lap in the bedroom. Oooops

I would quite like it, but if he wasn't actaully working I would find him things to do.

Go out of it bothers you.

YANBU if that's how you feel, although I like that DP now works from home the majority of the time. Only wish I could!

YANBU - I feel exactly the same ...I'm a SAHM/work part time from home and he works early shift -time varies and I can't keep track. He gets home anywhere between 1 and 3 pm (school pick up time) - the number of times he has walked in at 1pm - when I am say just about to run the hoover round the living room - or even in the middle of a big sort out and is then upset I am NOT pleased to see him...
'Worse' thing he did was have his 2 days off on Wed/Thur - when the DC went back to school after the 7 week summer hols on the Wed...
Then he couldn't get holiday when the children were off - so had a weeks holiday the week after ...

YANBU! DP doesn't get this but when I've mentally planned in some "me-time" on my mid-week day off (I work shifts) and he decides to come home early or book a "surprise day off" it drives me nuts, haha.

But, if he's choosing to work from home on your day off, he needs to slot in around you. So carry on vacuuming and watching TV, he can go in the ktichen or work in the bedroom if it's annoying him, or go back to work!

yanbu!!!

tell him to go and work in sb/costa/library etc

dp and i are se, the days i dont work, i want him to go to work at 8am and leave me in peace to watch my tv/read book/stay in bed etc, but nooooooooooooooooooo often he is about to 10/11am work depending

sounds mean but totally understand where you are coming from

I agree that if he wanted a peaceful house he should have chosen a different day. I'd be carrying on as normal and doing music practice vaccuuming TV etc and "but I always do this on Fridays why didn't you choose a day when I'm not hear if you wanted quiet" if he moaned. My husband now knows I prefer him to have impromptu days off when I'm at work

I'm glad it's not just me! Having the house to myself is such a luxury and so rare that I really feel resentful when DP is there talking all the time about the stuff I was hoping to have a break from! YANBU.

WFH is bad. Revising for exams on the dining room table when we had 2 pre-school aged children was GRUESOME.

YANBU.

I've had this. After working full time from when my dd was a month old (7 years) I was finally able to drop a day and chose Friday as my day off. Oh the glorious ways in which id while away the hours I thought... DH promptly started working from home on Fridays

I ADORE him and he is hands down my favourite person to spend time with. But it was utterly crap. I felt like I had to be doing something purposeful all the time, couldn't have friends in for coffee wine , or have dd be noisy after school. I never had the heart to tell him and I now work full time again

YANBU. DH is meant to be taking DS to see MIL for a night or two during half term - sad soul that I am, I was looking forward to a peaceful evening on my own when I get in from work, and a Saturday morning doing some decluttering without DS all over me (I work full time so am never in the house without DS being here). DH hasn't arranged it yet so I suspect it won't happen .

YANBU. My DH does this. I work from home on a Monday so I can take DS to preschool and collect him. Whilst working I also get bits done round the house - changing bed sheets, hoovering etc. I take 5-10 mins every hour to get a job done and don't bother with a lunch break. The last 2 Mondays he's taken time in lieu so had the day off. He's just announced he's going to do the same today. What really grates is that he'll stay in bed until I take DS to preschool and just as I get home, he'll have surfaced and will expect breakfast. Then he'll start asking what is for lunch about 11am. I don't have the TV on when working from home, he'll watch Homes Under the Hammer and other drivel and it drives me insane.
I do love him really though!

My DH wfh 2 days a week. Prefer it when he's at the office. But it does come in handy if I've gone out for lunch and can't get back in time to collect DC!

Millie you make breakfast and lunch for your DH?? How old is he? 5?!

YANBU
DH should be in the office 3days a week, last month it seems to have been 1.5.

All very nice, except the washers in the study and he wants lunch at a normal time. Also I'm expected to know when I can talk and when he's really busy.

It's 1/2 term next week, I want peace!

Agree I'd make it clear that he has a day off whilst you are WORKING from home. If anyone is making meals for another adult it should be the one not working. I'd stress the working bit of your arrangement and encourage him to hang about the house on a different day, or just ignore him as you would at work. Tell him no TV on as you're working as well. You need to drive home the working thing, if you faff about being little housewife he won't believe you really work on Mondays because when he's there you don't.

Reading some of these posts I think the problem is choosing Mon or Fri as days off/ work from home days as these are popular with other working adults. My part time days are wed and Thur so my husband is less likely to take them as TOIL days as he usually goes for Mon or Friday to prolong the weekend

Yes, I'm afraid I do make DH's breakfast, lunch and dinner! He does all the washing up though. I have explained the concept of working from home to him on several occasions but I'm not sure he really gets it. I have got loads to do today though, so best get on

I'm just about to finish a loooong 7 months with DH at home as he'd been made redundant in April. To say divorce was looming several times (& Tbh still is) is putting it mildly.

He sleeps in every morning (until well after school run); gets up just before I go to work (p-t); stays in stinky clothes and doesn't shower until either a. Lunchtime or b. someone comes to the door & I have to answer it; doesn't walk the dog at all; doesn't actually get up off the sofa until Storage Wars x 10 finished; hasn't tackled any of the chores I write on a whiteboard in the kitchen (3 DSs do theirs); somehow he's 'busy' when I ask why he hasn't done anything from his list of ttd.

All this during a period when I was recovering from major surgery and the garden went to pot as he did nothing. I ended up doing all the heavy work and clearing up after I'd recovered. (I've been on another thread entirely about that and other issues)

He has at last got a f-t job but now asks me if I mind him being away from home for the first week on an induction course, which means staying in a hotel. Hell, no I don't mind at all! It makes no difference to my life when he's away as he doesn't do anything to help when he is here!

Wotch sounds like he should be checking into that hotel on a permanent basis!

Oh dear, Wotch, he does sound spectacularly useless!

I love this thread - I thought it was just me being horrible when DP crashes through the door unexpectedly ( He works flexitime ) and my heart sinks. I'm glad to see him in the evening but it's a tiny house and he gets in the way if I'm doing something and makes me feel guilty if I'm not!

YADNBU!

Sounds like your dh was a bit depressed - I wihld have booted him out of bed some days and do the school run

Thanks for the support it wasn't so bad in the end I did make him do the school run (suggested the DS asked him so basically they guilt tripped him into it) then we had a movie night so it was ok. However woe betide (how do you spell that) him if this becomes a common occurrence. He needs to go up North for work when the kids are at grannies during half term whoo whoo!!