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To ask whether this is normal regarding circumcision?

37 replies

LoafersOrLouboutins · 16/10/2014 18:15

I've recently been on a few dates with a former colleague and we're now sleeping together. Things are going great. I'm not the most experienced of people and Former colleague (he isn't DP so I don't know what to call him!) is the first circumcised man I've been with. This is Blush but he needs to thrust a LOT harder to feel anything and when I go on top he likes me to bounce with force rather than rock IYSWIM (maybe I should have left this thread until I've had some Wine on a Friday). I enjoy DTD with him but it is definitely a lot rougher and for the first time, I think I need lube. Really sorry if that was TMI but is this normal with circumcised men?

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Aherdofmims · 16/10/2014 18:21

Not in my experience but my memory may be bad as I am thinking of ex from uni years.

Discopanda · 16/10/2014 18:22

My OH had a circumcision at the start of the year for medical reasons and things haven't changed in that department, so I personally don't think it's normal. Get some lube!

PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 16/10/2014 18:23

They can be less sensitive yes, but I'm not sure how normal what you're describing is. Everyone will be different after all.

LaurieFairyCake · 16/10/2014 18:24

Sounds like he needs to lay off the vigorous wanking now he's sleeping with someone so that sensitivity increases.

Tell him to leave the bishop bashing and see if it improves

Musicaltheatremum · 16/10/2014 18:24

Not normal Grin

divingoffthebalcony · 16/10/2014 18:27

A circumcised man can often be less sensitive than an uncircumcised man, yes.

But if you don't like what he's doing (and it doesn't sound particularly erotic) then say so. And yes, lube would probably help.

poolomoomon · 16/10/2014 18:27

Ahem. I've only been with one circumcised man and it was about ten years ago so if memory serves me right it was different for sure. It was fucking hard work getting him to cum and yes, did require some lube especially when using ones hands. Lack of friction you see. Christ now I need a Wine.

bigbluestars · 16/10/2014 18:28

I think circumcised men do lose sensation. I have had a number of circumcised lovers, generally it does tend to limit some types of love action.

diddl · 16/10/2014 18:30

Not in my experience either.

Have only two to go by, though!

It could just be him!

Bonbonbonbon · 16/10/2014 18:34

90% of the men I've been with have been circumcised and I have not experienced what you are experiencing.

lombardy · 16/10/2014 18:39

No. My dh is circumcised and he's never had that problem.

fatlazymummy · 16/10/2014 18:47

I think it partly depends on how tight the circumcision is. Apparently there's quite a lot of variation.
I suggest you google this OP, there's quite a bit of interesting discussion about this.

Hatespiders · 16/10/2014 19:47

There is a lot of variation. My dh is Muslim, and has had only a little trim (smile) There's no loss of sensation or problem with climaxing, as the foreskin is still able to slide over the end. Also no friction probs from my point of view. But a VERY long time ago, when I was very young, I had a brief rl with an English chap who had had rather a radical circumcision. The whole foreskin had been removed, leaving a ring of hard, gristly skin around the base of the glans. This was awful and very uncomfortable for me. He seemed to have trouble climaxing without some rather violent action.
Africans (here I go again) apparently sometimes have the entire skin of the penis removed with a cheese-grater kind of implement at the age of about 12 yrs. (ouch!) The raw organ is left to heal as best it can, to a smooth surface. And Masai often have a special tag left on the end, which apparently is very enjoyable for their womenfolk! My dh was amazed to see 'entire' foreskins in his gym changing rooms here in UK. He'd never seen any in their natural state before, and found the sight very funny.

TMI I expect. Sorry.

Madamecastafiore · 16/10/2014 19:52

DH and 2 previous boyfriends were and haven't experienced what you are. Thin maybe it's his technique"

TickleMyTitsTillFriday · 16/10/2014 19:54

Poor sods!

cherrybombxo · 16/10/2014 19:56

I dated a guy who was and it was fine during actual sex but I was worse than useless during foreplay - I had no idea what to do with it! Nothing moved and it felt really awkward when using my hands Confused

He didn't do the things you describe though.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 16/10/2014 19:57

Oh God, that cheese grater comment has got me shuddering. Yes to the rougher sex with a circumcised man in my experience.

happygirl87 · 16/10/2014 20:27

DP is not circumcised but does need a LOT of stimulation. He hardly ever wanks now (and I believe him as he's a lot more 'enthusiastic' shall we say about DTD!) but I think years of wanking hard have just conditioned him to need it like that. Could just be the guy, nothing to do with the foreskin IYSWIM?

seasavage · 16/10/2014 20:34

Thinking back the circumcised guy in my past wasn't so fussed about 'manual' stimulation but didn't require any extra encouragement otherwise.

Primafacie · 16/10/2014 22:22

It's not because he's circumcised - he just likes it rough. :)

WordOfTheDay · 16/10/2014 23:06

My DP is circumcised and does not need it rough.

maras2 · 16/10/2014 23:32

DH is circumcised and I've never had another partner but we've never needed anything too vigorous and certainly never rough.I never needed extra lube until after the menopause but if you need it go ahead and use it.As others have said maybe he is more used to masturbating than PIV sex and needs the one man death grip to orgasm.

kali110 · 17/10/2014 01:30

Ex was circumcised but def didn't have the same experience as your guy.sometimes liked it a bit rough but only on occasions ;-) and had no trouble coming with anything i did.

sykadelic · 17/10/2014 01:58

No in my experience either. Probably a "preference" thing, or as others have said, to do with too much masturbation (difference in stimulation).

He likes it rougher than you do, is that something you could go with or are you just sexually incompatible?

differentnameforthis · 17/10/2014 03:51

LaurieFairyCake Why do you need to jump to such derogatory conclusions?