To want my bum back

[GluteusMinimus]

So I had a baby. Perfectly expecting to go all saggy round the middle, boobs to droop with constant bf, stretch marks top to toe. I was OK with all of this.

I just tried on some pre pregnancy trousers, knowing I'd lost a bit of weight, to see if they were still wearable 5 months post birth. Check in the mirror. Hmm, not quite sitting right about the backside. Oh well. Take them off again, in front of the mirror.

Holy shitting hell. My bum has gone. The remainder of it is smeared down the back of my legs. I had been finding sitting on the floor a bit uncomfy. A bit bony. I thought it was just tailbone reshuffling due to pregnancy, but now I see there is absolutely no cushioning there whatsoever.

What the hell happened? I actually feel a bit shocked. I had a cs too. I didn't know this could happen!

AIBU to want my bum back? Do I just have to accept that this is how it is now, along with all the other imperfections, part of being a mum?

Trivial, I know, I don't consider myself to be at all vain or body conscious normally, but I am genuinely a bit shocked and upset.

SQUATS.

SQUATS.

yes, squats and hill walking. Build the muscle up a bit.

Failing that, can I send you some of mine?

I have the same problem Op. I have lost nearly 3 stone and now my bottom looks sad, saggy and wrinkly. I liked my round bottom

I have started daily dry brushing and squats, and Googling bum lifting underwear. I think I draw the line at silicone-filled knickers though!

No advice, but I luuuurrrve your username!

No, YANBU.

My once fantastic looking arse disappeared around 3 years ago, merging into the back of my thighs.

I'm still grieving the loss now.

I don't actually agree with the SQUATS advice. I can squat for Britain: weighted squats, sumo squats, speed squats, one legged squats, squats with your arms straight out front and held for interminable periods, but I still have next to no arse. Though such arse as can be detected is firm enough, I guess.

Perhaps if you did used to have an arse, it may return - I've never been blessed in the bottom department.

YANBU. Same thing happened to mine. Like you I was prepared for the rest of me to change shape, but I never considered that my bottom would disappear after having kids. Plenty of walking every day but it hasn't returned yet... I live in hope. It was a very nice bottom, so comfy...
Nice to hear I'm not the only one though.

My sister calls this her 'mum bum' because it has gone flat and looks a bit strange in jeans.

I would be glad to lose a bit off my rump tbh!

Squats are good, but also try lying on your front and raising your shoulders and legs off the ground then pause and squeeze, making sure you engage your glutes. 12-15 reps, three sets twice daily. Increase the pause/squeeze as your strength improves.

Years of long walks, school runs etc pushing a buggy definitely helped me.

My bum also disappeared after pregnancy. I downloaded a "Booty Shaper" exercise video and it's brilliant. My buns are nice and shapely these days thanks to all the squats. There are loads of good booty shaper vids on youtube!

I'm watching this with interest as EXACTLY the same thing has happened to me. DS is 10 months and I thought it may have returned by now (I've been fully active since having him). It hasn't ....

I had NO idea this could happen after pregnancy .....

Agreed with squats also try Pilates. It's great for the butt and also toning your tummy. Butt bridges are good.

I don't understand this thread at all! After each of my pregnancies, my already ample behind expanded enormously! (Must have been all that eating for two.) I was doing exercises to reduce mine!

No idea. DS1 stole my arse.

Skinnies look great on my, though!

on me!

My big round bottom remained unchanged in size/shape but became really squidgy. Lying on my back with bent knees & lifting my pelvis up & holding it helped. Latterly cycling has helped a lot.

Mine went too. Horrible. Good advice on here - I might try some of these.

Oh god, me too. My butt used to be very shapely, now it's almost non existent.

WTF is a butt bridge please?!

If you're sure you haven't just left it somewhere, I believe you can purchase knickers with added bottom. Similar to a wonderbra but for your buttocks. You then don't need to bother with squats.

Why didn't some of mine go?? Even a little?

I got a bum deal.

At this thread. Signing in as a fellow bottom-less mum. I never had one in the first place but just now considering that 2 dc made it worse.

I really don't mind as although my trousers fall down a lot ( I have to belt up!) at least it's a thin bit of me.

Mine went straight after giving birth. I John Wayned to the shower after delivery and started sloshing the shower gel around, and I was mildly amused at the wobblyness of my belly, but I was gutted at the droopyness of my arse. I've never got it back.

Blondieminx A bridge is when you lie on your back with your legs bent and your feet flat on the floor, and lift your arse off the ground so that there's a straight line from your shoulders through your hips to your knees. It's another exercise people claim has magical arse building properties (properties which I am, personally, dubious about). It might make your arse stronger, but not bigger.