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Original poster

to be cross that make-up is a gift on the front of a childs magazine?

79 replies

QueenOfAllBiscuitsandMuffins · 13/10/2014 08:47

this can't be the first thread on this matter but my daughter is 3 (almost 4) and loves My Little Pony she was allowed to choose a comic this weekend and her choice, no surprise, was My Little Pony, the childs toy on the front was MAKE UP. This makes me cross. I know I'm not being unreasonable, I just needed to rant.

OP posts:
Only1scoop · 13/10/2014 08:48

My dd loves the little lip glosses but prefers a toy.

gordyslovesheep · 13/10/2014 08:51

You should have got her something else

combust22 · 13/10/2014 09:02

OP- so you bought your DD make up and now you are complaining about it?

DaisyFlowerChain · 13/10/2014 09:02

Then pick something else. Children like to copy so done do the makeup or play with a handbag, some have baby dolls whilst others have pretend cookers. Don't see the big deal myself.

Wowthishurtsalot · 13/10/2014 09:04

You're the parent you should have chosen two mags and offered her the choice of 2 you're happy with

Or

Remove the toy and don't let her have it

I have no issue with children playing with a bit of make up and tbh think you're making a fuss over nothing

LadyLuck10 · 13/10/2014 09:09

You're being a tad dramatic. You don't have to give it to her. And there's nothing wrong with them playing with lipgloss and such.

arethereanyleftatall · 13/10/2014 09:14

Yabu. Don't buy it then. Little girls love make up, so it's perfectly age appropriate.

KateSpade · 13/10/2014 09:27

Why do you have an issue with children playing with Make-up?, out of interest?

PiperIsOrange · 13/10/2014 09:32

You are the parent just say no.

Ds used to love the make up, until he got to school.
Dd likes a bit of lip gloss.

Ticktockblock · 13/10/2014 09:40

Yabu it's just pretty face paint. Dd1 & 2 are 7 & 8 and have loads of different make up bits. They don't wear it out but they do play beauty salon with it and have fun playing. It's just another toy to them.

SleepRefugee · 13/10/2014 09:46

YANBU, it makes me cross too. My daughter is also almost 4 and like a moth to a flame to all those "pink" magazines.... Hmm

WD41 · 13/10/2014 09:47

OP yanbu and the people saying you shouldn't have bought it then are missing the point big time.

Greenrug85 · 13/10/2014 09:50

Yabu.

I don't understand why some people have issues with little girls trying bits of makeup.

As long as it is just for fun, it isn't plastered on by the bucketload (e.g. just a touch of eyeshadow, lipstick, blush etc and not shitloads of foundation smeared everywhere) and its only at home why is it an issue?

What is going to happen as a result of playing dress up every so often? Its a part of a lot of women's daily life, why cant they play with a little bit if makeup with supervision? Just like playing kitchen, playing with toy irons and hoovers, playing mum and baby with dolls etc...

WorraLiberty · 13/10/2014 09:54

I know I'm not being unreasonable, I just needed to rant.

Really? Well I think you are.

Kids tend to want to play at doing grown up things. Lots of grown ups wear make-up so it figures that some kids will want to play dress up, and that'll include wearing make-up.

I don't see why anyone would want to rant about something so normal Confused

Original poster
QueenOfAllBiscuitsandMuffins · 13/10/2014 09:54

make up is about making yourself more attractive, to cover your face, it's sexualising, it's teaching a 4 year old making herself prettier is important, it's the fucking pink aisle which has hoovers in the toy store. whether I buy the magazine or not is pretty much irrelevant it's the message we are sending our very young children.

OP posts:
magpiegin · 13/10/2014 09:55

What us your specific issue with a bit of lip gloss?

OwlCapone · 13/10/2014 09:56

So, despite loathing all the pink girlie stuff that is rammed down our daughters' throats, you bought a pink girlie magazine that had make up on the front?

OwlCapone · 13/10/2014 09:58

I don't wear make-up so my DD doesn't seem fussed. She has make-up from when she did a dance show but hasn't bothered with it beyond a short obsession around the time of the show. She has a Girl's World but that doesn't seem to get much use.

MyFairyKing · 13/10/2014 09:59

This is the AIBU, not the "I want to rant because I know I'm right".
YABU to buy it for your child if you don't like it. You're the parent, you get to choose.

LadyLuck10 · 13/10/2014 10:03

I think you're being hypocritical. You bought a pink magazine With the makeup yet rant about it. You are the parent so make the decision if you feel so strong about it.
I think you're making much more of a drama over makeup than there is, at her age it's just a bit of fun and no more.

fortifiedwithtea · 13/10/2014 10:05

YANBU I don't like make up on children either. My youngest DD is 12yo and was never allowed toy make up. She went through a phase in the summer of wearing Maybelline Baby Lips, which she persuaded DH to buy. She's stopped wearing it now. I don't whether its out of fashion or because I moaned about it so much.

ilovesooty · 13/10/2014 10:06

OP "I know I'm not being unreasonable"
Other posters "yes you are"
Grin

WipsGlitter · 13/10/2014 10:06

Just don't buy it.

There's nothing wrong with wearing make up and wanting to look and feel good about yourself.

Ticktockblock · 13/10/2014 10:11

make up is about making yourself more attractive

Not the way my girls play beauty salon! Seriously you need to think of it as another toy and not get do worked up. Don't make it an issue as your DD grows up.

Greenrug85 · 13/10/2014 10:11

Wanting to look nice and make an effort by putting makeup on isn't sexualising.

I certainly don't suddenly feel all sexual with my baby sick stained jumper and messy hair just because I've put a bit of lippy and mascara on.