AIBU to hate the phrase "put on" contraception?

[Cabrinha]

Just read it again on here. (not a TAAT I think as I'm not talking about the content, just this very common phrase).

I hate it!
It's so passive. I hear people say it all the time, about themselves not just their children.
No-one "puts me" on contraceptives.
I go to the clinic and they explain and prescribe and enable it, but the decision is mine.

It's a small thing in the great scheme of things... But this phrase always gets my goat!

Condoms get "put on".

Hormonal contraceptives, I hope people choose for themselves.

Haha - YANBU however I often say it. Whoops!

I'm will be forever great full to DH in having the snip, I don't ever have to faff around with this shite.

Depends on the contraception - pills you take, implants and coils etc are put in, diaphragms are inserted and condoms put on, spermicide is applied - all can be described as contraception.

I wholeheartedly agree. You also don't put your daughter on contraception. (AIBU to put my dd on the pill?). You educate her, and support her in making her own choice.

Ugh. Do people really say that? that is revolting. Would we say it about a man? YANBU. Vile.

YABU
What's the problem ffs?

My ds was "put on" a course of antibiotics the other day. Without which he would ( according to the medics) have endes up in ITU.

My dh was "put on" a course of chemotherapy. I didn't hear him complaining.

I think YABU. I don't think I've ever said it...but I could say 'I went to the Drs and asked for hormonal contraception. He asked me a load of questions and I was put on Microgynon'.

It would be accurate...I don't know enough about medication to 'choose' any...nor do most people.

Ive never thiugt aboyt it before, butnow you mention it, it does sound rather passive. Antibiotics and chemo are treatments for an illness, sickness or disease whereas contraception is usually a lifestyle choice enabling us to have lots of lovely sex, aside from those who take it to lighten their periods.

I thought you were objecting to people saying "so DH put on a condom"

Vermillion I'm sure many would call me pedantic but that has a different feel for me:

• the doctor put me on contraceptives
• I asked the doctor for the pill, and she put me on Microgynon

Punkrocker I think your "FFS" is a bit strong. Though the YABU is fine.
I personally see a difference in ABs and chemo because I don't see the contraceptive pill as medicine (although I know it can be prescribed as such separate its contraceptive use. And in pharmacological terms it might well be the same as medicine. I hope your husband's chemo is/was effective.

Interesting to see I'm not alone, though in not surprised it's not unanimous! Just one of those small things that irks me, and I sometimes wonder if it's only me, and just randomly decided to post about today!

My dh, since his chemo has been "put on" loads of meds.
How is that vile?

Yabu and nit-picky.

YANBU. Towards the end of my pregnancies I had people asking me how long "they" would "let me go over." Similar sort of thing.

TBH OP and Coughle...you just sound a bit power trippy to me.

We all know that 'they' don't like to 'let you' go over too long...for very good reason. Getting hung up on the phrase...why?

Interesting Coughle

Am wondering what this would all be like for male pregnancy, male contraception, male menstruation.

I'm sure many would call me pedantic

That's not what pedantic means. The word you're looking for is "persnickety".

If you're really hung up on the technicalities though, unless you are "putting on" a condom, you cannot get birth control without a doctor. Therefore, "The doctor put me on birth control" is just as correct as "I'm on birth control".

You have just as much choice about taking other medications. You have the right to refuse any medical treatment. So why don't you get offended about being "put on" pain medication, or "put on" anti-depressants?

That's not what pedantic means. The word you're looking for is "persnickety".

She'll have to look quite hard.

Vermillion it's not about the phrase. It's about the idea that medical professionals have power over a woman's body. It's interesting that you think I'm power trippy for wanting to make decisions about my own body.

If it's the actual term you have a problem with YANBU, I have never said I have been 'put on' any prescriptions. Perhaps this is to do with location. I say I have this problem, I went to the doctors for treatment and have 'been given' this treatment. You have every right to ask advice/further info or disagree with a contraception choice.
I would imagine being 'put on' a certain contraception is after a consultation about what may fit your needs etc.
when I first went to the GP about contraception I had no idea what was available on the nhs and so was given something that was apparently suitable. Since then I have discovered some drugs and hormones aren't suitable for me and so I would dispute a doctor that suggested prescribing such methods.

You 'put on' a condom.

You get 'put on' the Pill.

I don't get what the problem is, sorry.

I think it's used as a synonym for "prescribed", for all medication not just contraceptives. "The doctor put me on antibiotics."

It doesn't mean I couldn't have refused them. It does normally mean that I couldn't have done it myself (i.e. prescription drugs).

I do think it's when a parent says they're the one doing it. Parents can't prescribe.

It's interesting that you think I'm power trippy for wanting to make decisions about my own body

Yes, I do. I don't think we should be obliged to blindly follow all medical advice...we all have the right to question, ask for our opinions to be considered etc.

But by and large, medical professional do tend to know best, and they don't have time to dance around those who have control issues.

Tbh you make me think about my sister who cannot be told anything. She'll have a letter telling her to go for a smear test and be affronted that she's being 'ordered'. When she had her dd and was asked by the mw what day that week was best for the first home visit she replied 'I have no idea. I will call you if I decide to' and then moan about how dare they try and order her around.

There's really no need to be so difficult, and I think people who are are complete control freaks.

Maybe you should ask this to be moved to pedants corner.

I honestly don't know the correct terminology here.

I suffer from anxiety - i am "on" antidepressants.

My bil is diabetic he is "on" insulin.