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AIBU to hate the phrase "put on" contraception?

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Cabrinha · 11/10/2014 23:21

Just read it again on here. (not a TAAT I think as I'm not talking about the content, just this very common phrase).

I hate it!
It's so passive. I hear people say it all the time, about themselves not just their children.
No-one "puts me" on contraceptives.
I go to the clinic and they explain and prescribe and enable it, but the decision is mine.

It's a small thing in the great scheme of things... But this phrase always gets my goat!

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ChippingInLatteLover · 12/10/2014 11:12

I don't think the OP has explained herself terribly well, but I know what she means.

It's the threads where you get someone saying - 'My DD is 14, should I put her on the pill' - not should I talk to her about sex, should I see if she is sexually active, should I discuss contraception but 'Should I put her on the pill' as if she's a dog, not a person.

fizzymittens · 12/10/2014 11:16

I have never heard this phrase beyond 'putting on' a condom.

fizzymittens · 12/10/2014 11:17

But I have been 'on' antibiotics etc so isn't this just the same thing?

Coughle · 12/10/2014 12:12

Vermillion I'm not your sister Smile

Would be interesting to see the responses if this thread had been posted on the feminism board. On the one hand it's "just a phrase," but OTOH the phrase has a meaning, and the language we use is important when it comes to retaining agency over our own health choices.

however · 12/10/2014 12:16

People are 'put on' all sorts of medication. Heart tablets, vitamin tablets, high blood pressure tablets etcetc.

maddening · 12/10/2014 13:40

It is normal to say you have been put on medication.

SteeleyeSpanx · 12/10/2014 14:24

YANBU, I also hate 'they wouldn't let me leave the hospital until...'

Unless detained under the Mental Heath Act* you cannot be held in a hospital against your will and can just walk out at any time you choose. Attempts to hold you could constitute false imprisonment.

We defer far to much to professionals; doctors in particular and should be a lot more assertive as a society IMO.

  • I also dislike the term 'sectioned' for the same reasons, which is often used as a shorthand here.
SteeleyeSpanx · 12/10/2014 14:25

It is normal to say you have been put on medication

Just because something has become normal, that doesn't make it right.

SteeleyeSpanx · 12/10/2014 14:28

...far too much Blush

Showy · 12/10/2014 14:35

It's absolutely fine to dislike terminology. Words are pretty powerful and conjure different images for different people. Absolutely nobody can argue that you are unreasonable to dislike a phrase. We all do it. I don't like it either tbh and it is the implied passivity and lack of active ownership I suppose. See also 'fell pregnant with' or ' we are pregnant'.

I have an aversion to food descriptors too. Morsels and slivers and crumbs and soupçons. Picky bits makes my vagina turn inside out in sheer disgust.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 12/10/2014 14:44

I completely agree with the op, when you are not a Dr and you make the comment about a third party as in "I got my DD put on the pill" it implies the third party did not have much of a choice in the matter and that it was something only within your control.

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