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To send DC to school Who are contiguous

53 replies

PiperIsOrange · 11/10/2014 21:32

www.walesonline.co.uk/news/health/sickness-guide-parents-provokes-fury-7917908

My DC are well and hopefully don't get ill.

But is it ridiculous about these new guidelines.

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Maryz · 11/10/2014 22:56

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ddubsgirl77 · 11/10/2014 23:00

My son had shingles the gp signed him off school for a week and the school had pregnant staff so they didnt want him in either! Bloody joke these new rules! I had glandular fever was off work 3 weeks! No fit state to work let alone a child with it

QuickQuickSloe · 11/10/2014 23:03

I know I didn't appreciate a child coming to school after vomiting all night. I caught the bug for the first few days of half term!

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YouTheCat · 11/10/2014 23:08

The guidelines are utter nonsense.

Fair enough to send a child in if they have a bit of a cold or something but with a high temperature? No way.

We had parents who kept sending their child in despite the fact that she had viral meningitis and was hallucinating purely because neither wanted to have time off work. It's daft.

People, and schools, need to use their common sense. And that magic 90% attendance figure should only apply to unauthorised absences. Mine were off loads in the first 3 years of school as they seemed to catch everything going.

mum11970 · 11/10/2014 23:18

We have a child at our primary going through chemo, so any contagious illness is a complete no no. Anyone sending their child in with a contagious illness would certainly go down in my estimation. What is a minor illness to one child can be very serious to another!

QuickQuickSloe · 11/10/2014 23:22

I know Maryz!

To reply to the OP, yes it is ridiculous!

Thinking about the repercussions, are sick and infectious children now going to have sit in a GP waiting room for a medical certificate?

What if the doctor says a week off but the guidelines say the child should be in?

And why are sick days being targeted when the main cause of absence is the term time holiday?

Sirzy · 11/10/2014 23:29

I spent 6 months doing 3 days of school a week maximum with glandular fever. The not being able to keep your eyes open sort of makes going to school hard!

I have major issues with the 'medicate and send them in' type approach, but then I have a child who often ends in hospital because of a simple cold so am rather biased about it.

starlight1234 · 11/10/2014 23:48

Teachers are not paid to look after poorly children. My Ds has had tonsillitis four times since he started school. I can say raging temp, crying, sleeping he would of been more of a hindrance for the rest of the class learning. I have kept him off for a cough as well as he had been up all night coughing and was too tired to go to school.

I think the nonsense with getting sick children in school is nonsense. We all know there are areas where they are struggling to get kids into school, let parents look after their sick kids.

Our school won't administer calpol or anti biotics so I would have to go down every time he needed new meds.

PiperIsOrange · 12/10/2014 01:17

Well I have curse myself, now I will be up all night with DD.

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emmaliz · 12/10/2014 21:58

I feel really sorry for kids who are feeling rotten being sent off to school or parents feeling obliged to send them. As well as others being exposed. it seems the more they try to legislate when people could use common sense the worse it becomes.

Lucylouby · 12/10/2014 22:19

I'm a childminder and this is the same guidance that we have been issued with by ofsted. It is so difficult. The child's parents say, 'but the official guidance says that my child can attend' but actually the child is really poorly and doesn't want to do anything except sleep and be quiet. How can a child rest and get better when they are not given the opportunity to just relax. I can not provide a quiet environment when I have other children around and school runs etc to do.

I have no idea why the pen pushers think teachers etc want to be looking after poorly children. A poorly child won't learn, it just means they get their attendance mark for the day.

moaningminnie2 · 12/10/2014 22:47

I think some people on here have difficulty with their comprehension.
It means there is no recommendation as to the time off school with the illness, not that they are recommended to have no time off.

DustyCropHopper · 13/10/2014 00:15

YANBU, I use my own common sense if my children are ill. As for the cp guidelines, dd's first spot appeared Wednesday, had she been at school she would have been due back on the Monday, she was still coming out in spots on the Tuesday, as was ds2 who got his first spot on the Thurs. ds2 had a week and a day off and I still think he went back to soon.
With temperatures, if it is high, they stay home until it is down without medicine, especially now the school will not administer none prescribed medicines. Sick children will not really learn.

goodgrief54 · 13/10/2014 06:56

My ds has type 1 diabetes and what is deemed to be a 'minor ' illness to any other child could potentially put him in hospital. There need to be some consideration for others.

LookingThroughTheFog · 13/10/2014 08:25

There need to be some consideration for others.

Agreed. There also needs to be some consideration for the child themselves - I don't think it's fair to subject my children to six hours of aching and shivering and struggling to join in just to help the school's attendance figures.

It also teaches children that they should work until they literally drop. Having a good work ethic is good. Having the sense that you must never rest is a contributing factor to poor mental health.

funkybuddah · 13/10/2014 08:32

Hmmmm I dont read the leaflet as they should go on if they have glandular fever/tonsillitis just that there is no exclusion necessary if they do have it and are well enough to go to school unlike vomiting where they can be fine but a risk afterwards

maninawomansworld · 13/10/2014 17:00

Crazy.
Totally unfair to the teachers, other children and the families back home who will catch whatever their DC's bring home after being in contact with the sick child.

If a child is ill, keep them home!

hiccupgirl · 13/10/2014 22:21

Absolutely mad guidelines. I had 2 weeks off school with measles as a child as did pretty much everyone in my class over a 6 week period. 4 days is just barmy.

If a child is poorly then they should be at home resting not struggling through the day at school and probably infecting all their friends.

missymayhemsmum · 14/10/2014 00:08

Of course the moment you send a child to school with a sniffle or a vague tummy ache the TA will still decide to send them home... and the secretary will still be sniffy and superior when they phone you and you're an hours drive away in a meeting....because of course only a bad mother would send a sick child to school, but then the presumption is if they have too much time off it's ruining their education!

Letitsnow9 · 14/10/2014 21:05

Great, the amount of M.E cases (most often caused by glandular fever and rushing back to school/work instead of fulling recovering from it) is going to shoot right up

naty1 · 15/10/2014 12:21

I think we can ignore the GF one as gps would definitely sign the child off i think. That might make more sense anyway as it would be hard to quantify for each child.

Though wondering if my hypothyroidism was caused by GF

diddl · 15/10/2014 12:27

Is it saying that the kids have to go in??

Surely it's saying that there's no exclusion policy?

But obviously parents should keep kids off if unwell.

rollonthesummer · 15/10/2014 12:36

I Feel sorry for the teachers, it's no fun looking after a sick child and to have a child who is unwell in school is not the job of the teacher, plus they could get ill themselves because of this policy.

I agree. I have been ill so nany times in the last year-since these regulations came in. I haven't taken time off because our new illness policy means you have to have a back to work interview after every period of illness. More than 3 in a 2 year period-it's a disciplinary!

Kendodd · 15/10/2014 12:45

Isn't it just stating the recommended quarantine period, it's not saying they HAVE to go into school if they're not well.

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