...to feel awful about killing this spider :(

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Just walked into the bedroom to be confronted by another of these foot long monsters on the wall.

Beat it to death with a rolled up magazine :(

Now I feel just awful. But I have a huge phobia, DH is out and I couldn't have left it as I wouldn't have gone back into that room, never mind slept there. We've got so many at the moment I'm permanently on edge.
My anti-spider plug in usually keeps them away, but it doesn't seem to work on these whopper ones :(

AIBU?

YANBU to feel guilty. I would feel really bad too. People will come on and say just kill them all. I prefer to put them outside using a glass and postcard.

Having said that, I do understand how you can panic and do something in fear. Forgive yourself and move on but never let DH go out again, just try to practice the glass/postcard technique on the smaller ones to build up your courage. If they are on the floor rather than the wall you can just put the glass over and await help.

I am terrified of the buggers too but I can't bring myself to kill them either. YANBU.

Even though I think they are the creepiest little fuckers on the planet, I know they are just creatures going about their lives, they pose zero threat and they don't deserve to die just because I am pathetically afraid of them for no logical reason.

(I meant to say, I would've done the same as you in the circumstances!)

Well I would have done the glass and postcard thing as I see no reason to kill other living creatures. So YANBU to feel awful but I imagine that there will be others along shortly to tell you that it was 'only a spider' etc.

If it comes in my house, it's fair game, as far as I'm concerned.

Want to live? Stay outside.*

*This does not pertain to people. Well, at least the ones I've invited over...

Oh goodness now I feel worse :(

What could I have done?? If they're on the floor I could drop a pan on them (can't be a glass, I can't look at them!) but this was on the wall and right next to a big pile of clothes that it could have hidden in.

People say to Hoover them up but I think that's v cruel, plus how do you ever empty the thing!?

Oh the poor thing. Am I am a terrible person?

i understand this. we have some false widows in our house, and small children, which worries me, but i can't seem to bring myself to get rid of them, because i'm too frightened of them to do anything but kill them but i can't really bring myself to kill them either. I sprayed one with ant spray at some point and it ran around like it was in agony for a moment before it died and i still feel fucking awful about it, even though it was months ago. dp thinks i'm ridiculous.
but if you squashed it it died really fast and you know, now it isn't having that experience anymore, so stop feeling guilty.

We have false widows too. My husband was 'feeding one up' as a project (she lived in the kitchen). I eventually persuaded him that she would be better off in the woodshed.

OP, don't dwell on it. Really, you're not a terrible person, you just panicked. The terror of spiders is a strong one and makes some us go a bit crazy! Most people kill insects in some way or other, look at all the wasp and fly killers. Just try to use a humane method when you can, honestly it is less stressful and you will survive looking at them. I promise spider fear can improve, you will grow in confidence if you try. Maybe next time there is a small/medium one, you move it with a glass while your DH is there, to take the pressure off. The more you believe you will cope if you see one, and be able to move it with no harm to either party, the less you will fear it happening.

Now, if a huge one falls on my head in a few seconds...I can't be answerable for the consequences!

You will be over the remorse by tomorrow, but get one of these - changed my life a bit (so much better than the vacuum types):-

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B000G04RDK?pc_redir=1412666724&robot_redir=1

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B000G04RDK?pc_redir=1412666724&robot_redir=1

did that work?

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Yanbu

I hate them but I never kill them.

I have never given any spider I have killed a second thought.

I hate spiders but I can keep it together enough to find a glass and a card and put it outside. I'll happily eat roast lamb for dinner but there seems something cold and callous about killing a spider just because you don't like it. (I appreciate, this is v. hypocritical)

Is this the one, motleymop

www.amazon.co.uk/Brainstorm-B2001-Spider-Catcher/dp/B000X26IRE/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1412889755&sr=8-1&keywords=spider+catcher

Yes- thank you! It's the best- I am definitely less frightened of spiders since I started using that device.

I usually pick spiders up with a sheet of stiff paper / cardboard and a big glass or ask DH to get them for me. But we get LOADS of spiders and they are always obscenely massive - I'm used to spiders as we had a lot of them growing up at home (old house, rural area), but the ones in our current house are just on steroids.

A week or so ago I was having an absolutely awful morning, rushing to get out of the house, ran to get my shoes, found a ginormous spider crawling around next to it, yelled "fuck of you fucker!" and smashed it with my shoe. I felt hugely guilty afterwards.

Yesterday morning I woke up to find one ^crawling onto the top of my bedside table*. Y'know, in that unmistakeably spider-y way -- hiding in the underlip, then suddenly one, two, three legs appear. Fortunately being my bedside table both flat portable things and a glass were to hand, so that one took a flying trip out of our window.

Please no-one come on and say that spiders that get chucked outside die anyway...

I don't think you could have gone near the bastard spider if you had a proper genuine phobia. You would have gone crying and screaming from the room.

I can't kill them. I couldn't handle the crunch sound and the fact that all its relatives would come and get me afterwards while I slept. Plus they are all God's creature and have a perfect right to life and eat flies etc etc etc.

But yes, this primal revulsion is something that can be overcome to a degree. I save it only for the massive ones, and those extra fat speckly ones which drop into your hair in the garden

It's those massive huntsman (I think that's the name of them) spiders that appear in the autumn that freak me out. They are just so freakishly huge!! I don't kill spiders, I usually just catch them in my hands and chuck them out if they are in the bedroom but for the monster spiders I have to use a glass and piece of card. I don't normally bother with any of them as long as they aren't in my bedroom, I just can't bear the thought of things crawling over my face whilst I'm asleep, or even worse - swallowing one!!!

YANBU but I first immobilize the beasts with hairspray if they run too fast and I think I won't be able to get at them.

I think you only get huntsmen spiders in Oz, not here.

YANBU. Spider in the garden, fine. Spider in the stables - very welcome as you stop the horses being bitten by flies. Spider in the house - no. Straight up the nozzle of the vacuum.

Can't save that one, but hope you won't do it again