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To contemplate drugging the baby

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mummyrunnerbean · 08/10/2014 22:47

DS, ten weeks, has slept for precisely eleven hours out of the last 36, plus a few ten minute catnaps. The rest of the time he has been eating. He's currently faffing around pretending to eat, but actually giving me cheeky grins and dribbling every time I look at him. If I deboob him though he goes into instant meltdown. He is also not looking remotely sleepy, whereas I am on my knees.. WHAT DO I DOOO???

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MsVestibule · 08/10/2014 22:50

Good grief, only 11 hours out of 36? YABU to talk about drugging him (hopefully you were joking!) but I don't blame you for being at the end of your tether.

Is co-sleeping an option?

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 08/10/2014 22:52

Do you have a dummy? he may just need ti suckle.

Are you alert enough to drive? If so, bug breastfeed, into the car with a dummy and a good 20min drive should zonk him out.

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mummyrunnerbean · 08/10/2014 22:58

I am joking! About the drugging, not about the eleven hours. I assume he's knackered but showing no obvious signs of it. I wrestled him into the sling earlier and went for a long walk- he woke up every time I paused to cross a road! we are about half the time co-sleeping but over the last couple of nights that has disintegrated into co-gurgling, flailing and kicking me in the tummy until I wake up and do something interesting. Also if I try to doze while feeding him he loses his grip and latches back on wherever's closest- now have a boob covered in what look like hickeys Sad

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mummyrunnerbean · 08/10/2014 23:02

Hacked he just spits them out. We've tried about five different ones. And stayed awake roaring for the entirety of a half hour drive this afternoon. I'm going demented. It's like he's been mainlining espresso.

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jellybelly701 · 08/10/2014 23:03

I feel your pain. it was at about this time when DS went through the marathon feeding phase and I was contemplating giving up BF altogether. luckily it is just a phase, or growth spurt if you wish. In a few days things will hopefully settle back down again.

I agree with what both PP suggests. A few laps of the block have been our saving grace at times. If those are not possible would he settle being rocked in his pushchair?

Dontlaugh · 08/10/2014 23:04

Don't joke about the drugs!
they work

MsVestibule · 08/10/2014 23:06

I held my DS's dummy in place for about 2 full minutes until he eventually decided it was an acceptable alternative to my nipple. That may sound cruel, but I was demented, too.

I wish I had more practical solutions. Sometimes you've just got to ride it out - he will sleep at some point, I promise. Do you have anybody to take him out tomorrow for a couple of hours while you sleep?

jellybelly701 · 08/10/2014 23:15

DP just reminded me of the time I got a sleep refusing, over tired DS to sleep by talking about all the different animals at the zoo. it took about 40 minutes but we got there.

could talking help? or perhaps you could download one of those white noise apps? would having a warm bath make him sleepy?

mindthegap79 · 08/10/2014 23:25

Have you got a motorised swing? We've got a mamas and papas one and it was the only place dd would nap when she was that age, unless out in the pram or car. She's 7 months now and it's twinkling lullaby tunes still haunt me, but it was worth it at the time.

She's too big for it now and can get out of it - unlike the wondrous Jumperoo!

mindthegap79 · 08/10/2014 23:27
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mummyrunnerbean · 08/10/2014 23:27

...I don't want to count chickens, but he appears to have conked out. Typical - as soon as I tell anyone what a little nightmare he can be he goes into angelic mode. Glad to see it works over the internet as well Grin . jellybelly that made me laugh. Last night I lay there reciting the recipes for various cakes I'm planning to make for his christening next week to him, hoping desperately he'd get as bored as I was and go to sleep. Glad to hear this might be just another growth spurt- he's never keep one up this long though! MsV DP is home tomorrow thank goodness, so the two of them will be being packed off for a long drive/ walk/ abseil. Anything as long as they're out the house... if they stay in I will hear the unhappy gurgling when a bottle is offered. Anyway he's STILL asleep so I am going to bed. Please keep fingers crossed this lasts for longer than forty minutes!!

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callamia · 08/10/2014 23:28

Jelly, I did something similar a few nights ago. I talked my baby through all the different people and animals that would be sleeping at 3am. I eventually bored him to sleep, but at least he wasn't crying.

mummyrunnerbean, I remember this time. We did a lot of sling wearing (he slept well while I ironed - great, thanks), and lots of TV watching and feeding. It was November, what else was there to do? I hope sleep comes for you soon.

ineedausername · 08/10/2014 23:50

Another dummy/sleep refuser here too... Spent 30 mins popping it back in everytime he spat it out and he started to get used to it. Was an absolute God send for us!

Whereisegg · 08/10/2014 23:54

Have you been drinking coffee?
Dd did not like it when I drank coffee while bf-ing at all!

Discopanda · 09/10/2014 00:37

My little one went through stages of not sleeping and being clingy, baby-wearing was a life saver, also BF lying on my side, your arm stops you from rolling over. Can anyone take baby off your hands so you can have a nap?

trashcanjunkie · 09/10/2014 00:51

If you're feeding him yourself can't you just take him to bed and plug him in? I did that with all three of mine (providing you're non-smoker etc) I think I may have lost the plot if I hadn't - the last two were twins, so I went topless Blush

Aherdofmims · 09/10/2014 03:39

Do you think he might be tongue tied and therefore not getting enough milk each time? It doesn't always present as an obvious inability to feed.

I would go and see a lactation consultant or your gp just in case.

Bulbasaur · 09/10/2014 03:50

Well, now you know the trick. Whenever he acts up, take out your camera and tell him you're going to show everyone. Wink

Let's see, when DD refuses to sleep I:

  • Give her a warm bath
  • Put on meditation music
  • Put her on the floor and let her tire herself out.
paxtecum · 09/10/2014 07:38

A couple of drops of lavender in a burner for relaxing.

Drinking fennel tea increases milk supply. It is available in most supermarkets.

Don't drink tea, coffee or eat chocolate.

Meditation music.

MissYamabuki · 09/10/2014 07:50

mummy that's us and Ds almost word for word Shock

I reckon it's the full moon but then I have probably lost the plot Sad I know he will sleep eventually, I just need that day to be today!

moxon · 09/10/2014 07:53

Asleep 11/36? Oh what a tough life you lead!

Frusso · 09/10/2014 08:02

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jellybelly701 · 09/10/2014 10:41

how are you feeling today mummy did you manage to get a decent chunk of sleep?

YackityYakYak · 09/10/2014 10:44

I thought it was fenugreek that increases milk supply?

CoteDAzur · 09/10/2014 10:44

"If I deboob him..." Grin

It sounds like he is using you as a dummy. Have you considered giving him one?

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