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To be annoyed about sexting

55 replies

takeinyourhen · 07/10/2014 10:18

Casually drunk texting the guy I was seeing at the weekend.

Texts became sexy.

They then became very dirty

Received a text last night saying that "due to your saying "...." I no longer want to continue our relationship."

First, I had a massive "I can't believe I said that" moment and text appologising (whilst blushing a lot).

Then I re-read the conversation (even more blushing) but he was just as bad and encouraging the conversation.

Although I'm glad he's bailed now rather than leading me on, I'm a bit WTF?

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peasandlove · 07/10/2014 10:19

Well now I want to know what you said that was so bad...

Only1scoop · 07/10/2014 10:20
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rootypig · 07/10/2014 10:21

Oh this happens all the time. Wild drunken shags and the next day they don't want to see you again because you're that type of woman. Never mind that they're that type of man Confused

Women aren't supposed to enjoy sex, don't you know.

Tell him he's a hypocrite, and delete his number. You're well rid.

Teeb · 07/10/2014 10:21

Oh be glad you found out now he's an old prude with a Madonna/who're complex, those men are no fun to have a relationship with.

tiredoldmum · 07/10/2014 10:23

Curious what you said.

yeah the double standard.

Well rid

Thruaglassdarkly · 07/10/2014 10:25

Ugh - what a boring, misogynistic prig. You're well rid.

LadyLuck10 · 07/10/2014 10:25

Maybe you took it to a whole other level.

LittleBairn · 07/10/2014 10:27

It is best you found out early he's the sort with double standards.

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takeinyourhen · 07/10/2014 10:27

Peas I only mentioned the phrase (which he quoted) that I was a "cock loving whore"

To which he replied that he would like to corrupt me - bit late for that - which I think may have been the real issue.

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ArsenicFaceCream · 07/10/2014 10:29

It is one specific word he objected to? Hmm

ArsenicFaceCream · 07/10/2014 10:30

X post.

To which he replied that he would like to corrupt me - bit late for that - which I think may have been the real issue.

Huh?

So he's upset that you're pre-corrupted? How old is he?

You're well rid anyway.

Vitalstatistix · 07/10/2014 10:30

Thank your lucky stars. you are well rid.

It's the old 'madonna/whore' thing, isn't it?

(that's what it's called. I am not calling you names Grin )

rootypig · 07/10/2014 10:31

Ah yes. Only he is allowed to call you a whore. Of course.

Twat.

Teeb · 07/10/2014 10:32

He's one I those "good girls worship my penis and do things they'd never do elsewhere with me because of The Almighty Penis!" Sleazy blokes isn't he? Can't believe a woman would have her own sexuality and desires away from him.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 07/10/2014 10:35

I think I'd have to reply with, "oh thank god you've told me now you're one of those hypocritical men who hate women who like sex! In future wear a sign! :)"

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takeinyourhen · 07/10/2014 10:38

I think that the problem is that I know my own mind.

I know what I like, I know what I'm good at. Men do find it intimidating.

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peasandlove · 07/10/2014 10:39

I think he realised you were too much for him and bailed. Find someone who's a better match
Cock loving whore Grin

ArsenicFaceCream · 07/10/2014 10:39

No. Idiots will find it intimidating.

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takeinyourhen · 07/10/2014 10:42

I text back saying that having read the messages, his "I want to be the deviant who corrupts you" had made me stop feeling at all embarrassed.

Plenty more fish in the sea, and I see that I am once again back on the shelf...

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takeinyourhen · 07/10/2014 10:42

Peas - I think I've found my new NN!! Grin

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EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 07/10/2014 10:43

Hang on. I like a good sext as much as the next girl but I do have limits. Maybe he was really offended and turned off by the word whore. As soon as you get turned off by your sexting partner there's no point carrying on is there?

CockLovingWhore · 07/10/2014 10:45

But he did carry on - encouraged me in fact - or that's the way that I read it.

I said "you like me being a CLW" and he replied greedily telling me "oh yes, I want to corrupt you"

squoosh · 07/10/2014 10:46

Didn’t you know you were supposed to reply ‘but I am only an innocent milkmaid who knows not what this ‘cock’ you speak of is.’

Well rid, what a ridiculous man. Good of him to signpost this early on though.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 07/10/2014 10:53

Fair dos. He sounds squeamish.

Momagain1 · 07/10/2014 10:53

*think that the problem is that I know my own mind.

I know what I like, I know what I'm good at. Men do find it intimidating.*

One boyfriends remark (we were both under 25) was "oh, good, you are a grown woman about sex!" Next morning Wink I asked for clarification, and he said he was tired of 'girls' who were giggly and deferential and played at not knowing anything/being hesitant to speak of sex and body parts. Felt false, and even creepy once he was about 19.

Next boyfriend became DH, had same attitude. Just keep looking.