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AIBU to think this is possibly a little bit cheeky...

55 replies

Weathergames · 05/10/2014 20:28

I received an email from a friend asking me to donate to a fund raising page.

My friend is in her 40s has her own house, no children, good job.

She is fund raising for vets bills for her elderly cat who has developed diabetes. It's a Persian cat and has developed lots of health problems which can be controlled but the ongoing medication is getting too expensive for her to afford.

I get that the animal is precious to her esp as she has no kids (I have a cat but we also have a large family and a mortgage/normal life expenses).

AIBU to have felt a bit Hmm Shock when I received this this morning - and to politely ignore?

Is it ok to ask your mates to fund your vets bills?

OP posts:
Workytypestuff · 05/10/2014 20:29

Very odd. I would certainly ignore.

Don't have a pet if you do t feel you can afford treatment or insurance I say.

Workytypestuff · 05/10/2014 20:30

Don't *

AtrociousCircumstance · 05/10/2014 20:31

Reply saying that's fine as long as she doesn't mind setting up a direct debit to help you out with future education costs.

Wow.

scousadelic · 05/10/2014 20:31

I would definitely ignore that. If asked again I would tell her that you have enough on with looking after your family and your own pets so, short of selling a child, will not be helping

Pico2 · 05/10/2014 20:32

That's odd. Very odd.

TheNumberfaker · 05/10/2014 20:32

Yanbu. That is what pet insurance is for, surely?

gamerwidow · 05/10/2014 20:33

Very cheeky but I suppose if she's very close to her cat then in her mind it's the same as parents fund raising to pay for their children's medical treatment (even though obviously it isn't).

tippytappywriter · 05/10/2014 20:33

That does seem a little strange. I wouldn't have the nerve myself. If a good friend asked me directly I probably would help out but doing it online?!!

Original poster
Weathergames · 05/10/2014 20:33

She's not insured and cat too old now.

OP posts:
wanttosqueezeyou · 05/10/2014 20:38
Shock
formerbabe · 05/10/2014 20:39

No shame!

Ignore...ignore...ignore!

juneybean · 05/10/2014 20:40

I'm quite laissez-faire with cat insurance as mine are moggies but when I had a persian he was insured to the hilt. She ought to stump up for her pet bills herself.

Chippednailvarnish · 05/10/2014 20:43

Send a tin of cat food instead as a "get well soon" present.

Grin
gentlehoney · 05/10/2014 20:44

Juneybean, why did you insure your Persian and not the others? Are Persians more likely to get illnesses?

juneybean · 05/10/2014 20:47

Yes, they are.

ChippingInLatteLover · 05/10/2014 20:47

I think it's a little 'unusual' but I have seen it before. In fact someone else mentioned it on a thread last week.

If I thought she really needed it (and wasn't out on the lash, buying expensive clothes etc) & I could afford it, I'd donate and if I couldn't I wouldn't.

ScrambledEggAndToast · 05/10/2014 20:47

A friend of mine did this recently and got the total. Slightly different as she doesn't earn a lot, should still have insurance though in my opinion but that's another story. However, the real kicker is that, no sooner has she received her cat's ashes, she is posting pics of new cats she is going to buy.

hormonalandneedingcheese · 05/10/2014 20:49

Very cheeky and very irresponsible of her not to have insurance.

VermillionPorcupine · 05/10/2014 20:51

I'm quite laissez-faire with cat insurance as mine are moggies

Why? What difference does the breed make? If they need treatment, they need treatment, it won't be cheaper because they're not a pure bred.

We've recently been hammered with vets bills for our cat (standard moggie). It was my fault for not double checking the insurance carefully enough. We got him as a rescue, and he came with a period of free insurance from the rehoming centre. I thought it was 12 weeks. It was actually 10 weeks.

So, 3 weeks ago (when we'd had him for 10.5 weeks) we came home one evening and he was in a terrible state. Could barely walk and his tail was horiffically damaged and just limp.

Took him to the vets, he had a very badly fractured tail, right at the base. The vet thinks it's a tail-pull injury, so he got it caught in something whilst out and had to wrench it free :( He was kept in, needed x rays, sedation, pain meds and then tail amputation and more paid meds, laxitives etc.

I phoned the insurance and discovered my error, so no cover. It's just cost us £1600.

DameEdnasBridesmaid · 05/10/2014 20:53

Ignore. It's just a cat

RabbitsarenotHares · 05/10/2014 21:02

I'm like your friend, in that I have not kids but do have pets. However, all my pets I have taken on on the understanding that I need to cover any associated costs.

If I ended up being in the position where one of them needed veterinary treatment I couldn't afford I'd ask close family or friends for a loan, and promise to pay them back ASAP with interest. But that really would be a last resort. And I would pay them back.

Your friend is cheeky.

MintyCoolMojito · 05/10/2014 21:08

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YoYoYooooo · 05/10/2014 21:08

Very cheeky!

ShadowStar · 05/10/2014 21:29

I'd ignore this too.

OliviaBenson · 05/10/2014 21:33

Has she received any donations yet on the fundraising page op? I'm stunned at the request- we have pets and they are our responsibility, I wouldn't dream of asking!