to not go out for a friends birthday because I'll be the only single one there?

[HarlowTulip]

My friend is having a few drinks at the start of next month for her birthday. Of the friends including her there are 6 are us and all of them apart from me has a partner, it seems very likely that all partners will attend.

I don't want to be 11th wheeling. I will find it very embarrassing as I know they will pity me. I have never moaned about being single to any of them except one who is my best friend and I confined in her a lot. But from comments made previously it's very obvious that they pity me.

I want to be a good friend, but the evening sounds like hell and not a situation I want to put myself in. I haven't given an answer yet of whether I will go or not as it was done over facebook.

Aibu by not going?

God sorry typos made that almost unreadable!

I was single for eons and I did dodge invitations sometimes to avoid the lone singleton issue. It very much depends on the group, doesn't it? Some just work-the couples are secure, friendly and welcoming, you feel like a group of individuals, not 'couples and a loner', no one cares about your status, they just want to see you.

And other groups, well...