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Original poster

to think DP shouldn't do this

31 replies

chumrun · 05/10/2014 10:30

In the cinema DP always wants to sit in premier seats! It really bugs me as I'm below average height and find them really uncomfortable. Plus I think they're a rip-off.

Went last night; DP declared he was 'far too close to the screen' and just went to sit in premier seats which admittedly were free - I guess other people think the same as me! But it meant I was sat alone for the film.

Aibu to think it's a bit entitled and ignorant?

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DomiKatetrix · 05/10/2014 10:32

I can't enjoy a film if I'm too close to the screen.

Nomama · 05/10/2014 10:32

Your problem is definitely more DP than seats!

He is indeed an ignorant, entitled and indeed self centred twonk.

MrsCampbellBlack · 05/10/2014 10:34

I always book the premier seats - I think they're much more comfortable.

But the number of times I've had to ask some cheapskate to move out of them Wink

MrsCampbellBlack · 05/10/2014 10:35

And he was very rude to leave you sat on your own but surely you could have sat in normal seats a little further back?

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chumrun · 05/10/2014 10:45

We weren't right in front of the screen - it was one of those cinemas where there's a sort of dip between where the seats are and where the screen is. Could technically have moved further back but then I wouldn't be able to see the screen well at all short arse

I have to admit I really don't like the premier seating though!

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MidniteScribbler · 05/10/2014 10:47

Sitting too close to the screen would give me a massive headache, I wouldn't be able to sit there. You need to come up with a compromise.

fairylightsintheloft · 05/10/2014 10:48

but he really dislikes your preferred seats and you dislike his - either take turns, find a compromise on sitting further back in the normal seats (I am v short too, and in most modern cinemas it isn't an issue) or accept that you'll be sitting separately.

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chumrun · 05/10/2014 10:55

It's hard to explain verbally but we weren't on front row
Seats and were a perfectly fair distance from the screen.

I think he just wanted to sit in premier and would have made any excuse to enable him to do so!

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LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 05/10/2014 11:04

Have you asked him what it is about the premier seats he likes so much?
Are you able to try a different cinema chain?
I ask because the normal seats at our local Odeon are uncomfortable, but the premier ones are very comfy. The showcase ordinary seats are bearable. But The Vue ordinary seats are very comfortable, they have lots of leg room, slightly wider than the seats at the other cinemas, and the fabric is better quality. They feel closer to being premier seats without the extra price tag (though there is a premier option too).
Might be worth trying a different cinema?

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chumrun · 05/10/2014 11:24

I've never noticed them being uncomfortable and DP is normal weight and build - he's just one of those who likes the finer things in life! Like he won't eat asda fruit and veg. Hmm

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chumrun · 05/10/2014 11:24

I've never noticed them being uncomfortable and DP is normal weight and build - he's just one of those who likes the finer things in life! Like he won't eat asda fruit and veg. Hmm

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rookiemater · 05/10/2014 11:29

I hate being right at the front of the cinema and if no one else was in the seats then.....Grin. I have moved in cinemas and theatres before if it's obvious that the seats are free and it stops me sitting beside the irritating man who laughed far too loudly at not very funny bits or give me a better view.

DH prefers being closer to the front so we usually sit somewhere in the middle.
Your DP should be aware of your needs as well and moving to seats that he knows don't work for you is not a nice thing to do. How is he the rest of the time - if he is an attentive DP and otherwise good I'd give him a free pass, where you sit is a personal preference.

Aherdofmims · 05/10/2014 11:29

Premier seats are a rip off IMO. You would have to be v tall to need one as such.

The real issue is more that he won't compromise or take in turns though.

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chumrun · 05/10/2014 12:44

It just annoyed me he left me sitting in the cinema alone. And also he hadn't even paid premier on that occasion!

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FunkyBoldRibena · 05/10/2014 12:47

I didn't even know they did premier seats.

Happy to be on my own in a cinema. Nothing bad surely happened...I even used to actually attend the cinema all on my own when I felt like it. Fancy that!

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chumrun · 05/10/2014 13:07

No need to be rude. Difference to going to something alone, and going with someone who then leaves you isn't there!

Besides he had my popcorn

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Coffeethrowtrampbitch · 05/10/2014 13:18

He took your popcorn? LTB. It is one thing to leave you on your own, which is rude, to sit in a more expensive seat he hasn't paid for, but taking the popcorn with him as well is the final straw.

I'd be going to the cinema with friends only in future!

Coughle · 05/10/2014 13:21

Massive dripfeed thereSmile Did he take your drink as well??

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chumrun · 05/10/2014 13:29

Lol

We were sharing it, which admittedly usually means he eats about 3/4 of it. But still!

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seaweed123 · 05/10/2014 13:35

Was going to say yabu - surely once the film started you wouldn't have noticed if he was there or not? But since he took the popcorn then yanbu. How rude!

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chumrun · 05/10/2014 13:47

Tbh popcorn or not I would find it rude to go to something with somebody and then have them go and sit elsewhere. Maybe makes no logical difference but I just personally think it's a bit ignorant!

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Twitterqueen · 06/10/2014 20:15

This has little to do with cinema seats and much to do with control. Take heed OP

KidLorneRoll · 22/10/2014 12:27

The cinema is a place where you sit in the dark and in (if you aren't a complete arsehole) silence. I really don't see a fundamental problem if, due to preferences in location in the screen, a couple isn't sat next to each other during to sit in the dark and in silence.

TheWholeOfTheSpook · 22/10/2014 12:31

Unless one of the couple takes the popcorn with them, Kidlorne! Grin

flipchart · 22/10/2014 12:31

I don't get what's so bad about sitting in your own preferred seats. He wants the premier seat so he sits there, you want the other one so you sit there. What's the problem?

I don't get why you have to sit together especially if it makes the other one not enjoy it so much.