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to think that financially I'm better off having three children to three different dad's and not working

124 replies

gingerprincess01 · 04/10/2014 22:53

I know I am but looking at other families I feel that the more kids to more fathers you have the better off, financially you are. I would have a house provided for me, benefits plus money off each of the fathers, which wouldn't affect my benefits. Sometimes I feel like women who stay with one man are penalised in this way. I do appreciate that the logistic and emotional benefits are worse but I'm just talking money-wise.

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Whichusername · 04/10/2014 23:09

Yes, sounds like a brilliant. I think 10 would be a good number of children to have. Ten different fathers. You can them demand £1000 per month from each father. Top that up with child benefit. You'd be quids in! Heard you can also get free carpets on top of those benefits. Free TVs etc. You'd also be given a 10 bedroom house. Ooh getting all excited on your behalf OP. How many children have you got now? I hope you have time on your side. Good luck!

Space them well and you'll never have to work a day in your life!

usualnamechanger · 04/10/2014 23:10

If you really believe that op, go ahead and do it. What's stopping you?

SoyaTea · 04/10/2014 23:12

I'm have 3 kids by 3 men. Not particularly proud...but there you go.

One is supposedly being forced to pay by the CSA, but has paid about £200 in the past decade. The second has gone completely AWOL and pays nothing. The third pays £85 per month. I do have to declare it.

I live in a 2-bed flat, horrible on the outside, not bad on the inside due to the time and effort I spent decorating. Nowhere anyone would choose to live if they had options I'd guess.

And I'm not currently working (I receive benefits because my youngest is a small baby), but they're capped because I have savings from when I was working...savings which are now diminishing. All in all, you are not always better off.

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Original poster
gingerprincess01 · 04/10/2014 23:13

Sorry, have I broken guidelines?

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gordyslovesheep · 04/10/2014 23:14

yes I agree - go ahead and do it then report back to us about how great it is and how rich you are Hmm

ouryve · 04/10/2014 23:14

Not if the father is my niece's excuse for a father. It's only taken until she's 13 for the CSA to squeeze a penny out of him.

BOFster · 04/10/2014 23:15

Do homeless beggars all drive BMWs?

MrsPiggie · 04/10/2014 23:17

Why stop at 3, are you reaching the dangerous age? Come on, get on with it, plenty more rich men out there!

Igotafreegoattoo · 04/10/2014 23:18

Actually OP technically yes if all 3 DC dads paid up (the right amount on time) and they all earnt good money and all 3 kids were under the school age and you weren't working....then yes you might be better off than having all 3 kids with one bloke. But that's a lot of ifs.

Pistone · 04/10/2014 23:19

Doesn't the maintenance off the fathers get knocked off the benefits? Confused

Igotafreegoattoo · 04/10/2014 23:20

I was stupid enough to have all 3 of mine to the same bloke. Luckily he does pay up on time every week £72. Which is roughly £3 a day per child. Even that amount puts me in the roughly 5% of single mums who get paid up (made up percentage).

Personally I spend it on cocaine and diamonds.

iggymama · 04/10/2014 23:21

Also keep in mind the fact that when you youngest turns five years old you will be forced to find a job, then have the joy of juggling work/childcare/school holidays/inset days/sickness/housework/finances/child rearing all without a partner to help.

Igotafreegoattoo · 04/10/2014 23:21

No. Maintenance is not taken into account for benefits purposes. If you are a single mother of not school age kids that means income support of £72 odd quid a week.

Nancy66 · 04/10/2014 23:21

Aim for about 8 kids by 8 dads then you'd make even more money by appearing in chav mags

ArsenicFaceCream · 04/10/2014 23:22

No Pist it doesn't.

Hence the OP's genius financial plan Hmm

Igotafreegoattoo · 04/10/2014 23:24

Which will last until youngest kid reaches school age and relys on dads all paying up every week. .

Coco0123 · 04/10/2014 23:24

But this cushy, comfortable life will only last for as long as your children are children. What then? Up shit creek without a paddle or career to support yourself. Unless of course some of the now grown up children support you!

PillForgettingIdiot · 04/10/2014 23:24

I know nothing about child maintenance, having no kids myself yet, other than that it is 15% of income for a child.

If you have 3 fathers do you get 15% of each man's income? I'm assuming 3 kids by one dad does not equate to 45% of income?

I'm genuinely confused as to why the OP thinks more is better finically. Sorry if Ive missed the point.

vindscreenviper · 04/10/2014 23:24

I don't think you have broken any guidelines OP I think that message was directed at pp suggesting that you're not genuinely pondering about this and that other posters should be very wary of sharing anything with you, either on the thread or by private message.
I could be wrong though.

Igotafreegoattoo · 04/10/2014 23:24

Also OP as you will see by my username you also get a free goat.

ArsenicFaceCream · 04/10/2014 23:25

Apart from those two craters and a couple of other flaws it's foolproof Igota

Original poster
gingerprincess01 · 04/10/2014 23:26

Thank you very much for your answer SoyaTea, that was kind of you to share, any really informative. I've just realised that my post looks like I'm looking down on multiple fathers but iv no judgement on that as I know nothing about each persons circumstances and do not mean to do so.

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ArsenicFaceCream · 04/10/2014 23:26

If you have 3 fathers do you get 15% of each man's income? I'm assuming 3 kids by one dad does not equate to 45% of income?

No - 25%

PillForgettingIdiot · 04/10/2014 23:29

Ah Arsenic - so is that 15% for pfb and 5% for every subsequent child?