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Original poster

friend unreasonable or just my hormones

34 replies

wilddogbert · 04/10/2014 19:35

I can't tell if my friend was unreasonable or if my hormones are messing with me.

I went out with a friend and her two DCs and my DS (7). I have known friend for about 10 years.

So I met her in town and we went around some shops. I was walking a bit slowly because I am 6 months pregnant with twins and I am struggling to walk at a decent speed. Friend kept walking much faster and then stopping by corners and looked like she was sighing,tapping her foot.

Then we went to a cafe and as we were sitting waiting for food and an older lady came up to me and complemented the DCs behaviour and then asked when I was due and I told her it was twins and she told us about her DCs.

When she left friend called her a 'stupid old bag' and said that she should mind her own business. I told her not to be mean and that the lady was just talking. She said that she was boring. I just changed the subject.

We took the DCs to the park and I asked her what was wrong. She said that she was grumpy with me because she saw on Facebook that I had been to the cinema with my DD and I didn't invite her and her DCs. I said that it was mine and DDs special day so I didn't think about inviting anyone else.

She said that I should stop taking the DCs out for one on one time as it made her DCs jealous and she was fed up of them asking to go places just with her. I said that I was sorry but I wasn't going to stop as I feel that it is important. She said that she was going to have to stop spending much time with me or ban my DCs from talking about anything fun that they do. I said that she was being silly. She thinks this is a reasonable request and I am just being stubborn.

So am I being unreasonable or is she?

OP posts:
cees · 04/10/2014 19:38

yanbu, She is obviously being a dick

MajesticWhine · 04/10/2014 19:39

She sounds awful. And unreasonable. And totally self-centred.

DancingDinosaur · 04/10/2014 19:40

Well she is unreasonable, obviously.

Spaceboundeminem · 04/10/2014 19:40

Yadnbu

Aeroflotgirl · 04/10/2014 19:41

Yanbu she sounds awful. I would consign that friendship to the bin and massively distance myself.

UncleSue · 04/10/2014 19:42

You know the answer. What a silly cow, get rid of her - the cheek of it.

Aeroflotgirl · 04/10/2014 19:42

I would also limit what she can see on facebook as she obviously has a problem with it.

AtrociousCircumstance · 04/10/2014 19:43

YANBU. She's being an arse. Sounds awful company. I wouldn't hang around with her again.

Alisvolatpropiis · 04/10/2014 19:43

Er no, it isn't your hormones.

Is she usually such a dick?

Aeroflotgirl · 04/10/2014 19:45

She is blaming you for her being a lazy mother, she could do those things if she got off her arse and did them with her dc instead of on her in pad/phone all the time (I presume)

ChippingInLatteLover · 04/10/2014 19:45

She's absolutely fucking barking unreasonable.

Has she been this nasty & twatty before?

PiperIsOrange · 04/10/2014 19:45

You only have a few precious months before life for DD will change forever. I would say make the most of it before you have your babies.

What does she think kids at school ect will say or is she planning to keep them in a bubble.

Purplecircle · 04/10/2014 19:46

YANBU - she sounds awful, you sound lovely

IDoAllMyOwnStunts · 04/10/2014 19:47

Tabby, she sounds unhinged. Does she do strange stuff like this or is this a one off?

IDoAllMyOwnStunts · 04/10/2014 19:47

Tabby? Yanbu Grin

Original poster
wilddogbert · 04/10/2014 19:50

She can be grumpy sometimes when things don't go her way but usually she just gets it off her chest and she is fine.

OP posts:
Alisvolatpropiis · 04/10/2014 19:51

I really couldn't be arsed with her, in your shoes op.

She's a lazy mother and you're not.

Aeroflotgirl · 04/10/2014 19:53

Op your best off without, she sounds really immature and like a stroppy 13 year old, not an adult.

IDoAllMyOwnStunts · 04/10/2014 19:53

Well she sounds bizarre, it's definitely her and not you!

Original poster
wilddogbert · 04/10/2014 19:54

She isn't usually quite this strange though she does have her moments.

She just doesnt like being alone with her DCs her DH is usually there and if not them she arranges to go out with people.

OP posts:
Alisvolatpropiis · 04/10/2014 19:54

She doesn't like being alone with her children? Is she well?

That's very odd.

Aeroflotgirl · 04/10/2014 19:55

She sounds like a very poor mother, why the hell have kids when you don't like being with them!

EugenesAxe · 04/10/2014 19:55

If you had been posting pictures of a vast hoard of presents on FB knowing she had little cash then she may have a case; as it is she can sod off.

I mean, what kind of person gets annoyed at a failing of theirs and rather than address it, asks everyone else to be crap too?

MissMogwi · 04/10/2014 19:56

Confused She sounds weird and a cheeky cow to boot. How dare she tell you what to do with your DC?!

Aeroflotgirl · 04/10/2014 19:57

I can't wait until my ds 2.7 years and I can do more stuff with him. I love having girly time with dd 7 years. Odd woman!