friend unreasonable or just my hormones

[wilddogbert]

I can't tell if my friend was unreasonable or if my hormones are messing with me.

I went out with a friend and her two DCs and my DS (7). I have known friend for about 10 years.

So I met her in town and we went around some shops. I was walking a bit slowly because I am 6 months pregnant with twins and I am struggling to walk at a decent speed. Friend kept walking much faster and then stopping by corners and looked like she was sighing,tapping her foot.

Then we went to a cafe and as we were sitting waiting for food and an older lady came up to me and complemented the DCs behaviour and then asked when I was due and I told her it was twins and she told us about her DCs.

When she left friend called her a 'stupid old bag' and said that she should mind her own business. I told her not to be mean and that the lady was just talking. She said that she was boring. I just changed the subject.

We took the DCs to the park and I asked her what was wrong. She said that she was grumpy with me because she saw on Facebook that I had been to the cinema with my DD and I didn't invite her and her DCs. I said that it was mine and DDs special day so I didn't think about inviting anyone else.

She said that I should stop taking the DCs out for one on one time as it made her DCs jealous and she was fed up of them asking to go places just with her. I said that I was sorry but I wasn't going to stop as I feel that it is important. She said that she was going to have to stop spending much time with me or ban my DCs from talking about anything fun that they do. I said that she was being silly. She thinks this is a reasonable request and I am just being stubborn.

So am I being unreasonable or is she?

Good grief!! time for a friend cull, she is way out of order.

I was really touched to read you make time for one on one time with your dc. When I was a child my dd was serving in the RAF and often had to be away when he got back he made a point of having individual time with dsis and me, might only have taken one of to the park but we had daddy all to ourselves for an hour or so.

DH and I do the same and always have done, next week dd and dad are off to watch sports and ds and I have a day out planned. It works for us.

Your friends with her why?

She can be a very good friend she was very supportive when we first became friends and our DCs are very close. She has a DD a year younger than mine and a DS who is a yearish younger than my DS.

She sounds really unpleasant.
YANBU, and honestly you deserve better friends.

Yabu... To even ask! Your 'friend' has no right to tell you to alter your wonderful relationship with your dcs just to mask her own feelings of - inadequacy? Jealousy? I can't even tell!

Well very clearly YANBU

I would wonder why your friend feels so inadequate though. I mean we're not talking going to Disneyland and London etc. just the cinema and local places.
Dies she have money issues? MH problems that make it harder for her to spend time with her dc on her own? SN on her children side?

Oh dear, her behaviour isn't normal is it? Could she be having some other problems (am I allowed to say MH?) if she used to be perfectly reasonable?

Don't change a thing you're doing, sounds like you are a fab mum, I love having one to one time with my boys, always feels a little sneaky extra fun when it's just 2 of us. I'm not sure how you deal with the your friend but YADNBU

Why even consider having any contact with such a loon aver again???

You need to post loads of made up days out with your DD on FB just to piss her off!