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AIBU?

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Oh fuck it.

27 replies

Plumviolet · 03/10/2014 21:08

I am sitting on my doorstep in the rain. 12 week old is asleep in her cot. 4yo and 3yo in bed. Husband out for a (much needed) night out. Just found out my dad may have Alzheimer's. I broke my foot falling off the toilet seat where I was standing watering a plant on Wednesday. I have wine and I'm having a cigarette for the first time in years. It's a bit stale and has been in a drawer since a party last Christmas. I am at a low. Why is this the most rebellious thing I can do right now?

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Plumviolet · 03/10/2014 21:09

I feel so old... And responsible.

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HowsTheSerenity · 03/10/2014 21:15

Take your bra off and flash the street?
I'm sorry that it's all gone to shit.
There are support organisations out there, maybe try one of them for advice.
Other then that how about drawing a cock on your cast?

NoodleOodle · 03/10/2014 21:16

Oh dear, I feel you- life is tough. When I found out my dad was unwell it had a huge impact on me as my perspective on him changed from my rock to an ageing man, not invincible. Enjoy your glass of wine, and I hope you can talk through your feelings in real life with someone. Just talking about things can really help you to deal with the pressure and responsibility.

MrsCumbersnatch · 03/10/2014 21:16

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ChippingInLatteLover · 03/10/2014 21:19

I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad :(

... and your foot.

Have another Wine on me, but not toooo many if you are BF.

... and put the dirty fag down, you know you don't really want to start again.

Finish your wine, change your top, clean your teeth and go and snuggle with one of your babies - rebelling is over-rated, snuggling isn't x

sunnyrosegarden · 03/10/2014 21:22

Unmumsnetty hugs to you

I know where you're coming from. Personally, I'd swap the cig for neat vodka and some loud music. Maybe the Cure?

solosolong · 03/10/2014 21:23

You actually make me feel a bit nostalgic for smoking. I have given up properly now (and wouldn't dare to have another one ever again in case I went back) BUT I know exactly what you mean. I think as a parent you spend so much energy doing things for everyone else, and looking after them, that to do something which is actually quite damaging to you, and, therefore, to them feels completely transgressive. As rebellions go though it's pretty harmless, so if it makes you feel better now that's got to be a good thing. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate! Hope things get better!

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Plumviolet · 03/10/2014 21:24

Ah don't, you're all being lovely, your not supposed to cry on Aibu?

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LuisSuarezTeeth · 03/10/2014 21:26

Plum

It's ok. Do what you have to to get through.

You've had a shit time. Give yourself a break!

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Plumviolet · 03/10/2014 21:27

Seriously considering the bra thing. Not sure the cast will let me go far tho. Maybe a ceremonial throw across the hedge?

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BelleateSebastian · 03/10/2014 21:27

You've struck a chord with me there for some reason, chipping gives some good advice :) you'll be fine because you sound so lovely .. . I'd be totally unreasonably cursing DH for going out!! Smile

LuisSuarezTeeth · 03/10/2014 21:28

You can cry, you plum Plum Wink

Fancy a Brew ?

borisgudanov · 03/10/2014 21:28

WTF were you doing climbing on the bog seat? I issue bollockings for this. DS2 fell in once but it hasn't deterred him.

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Plumviolet · 03/10/2014 21:29

Who needs magaluf...

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mineofuselessinformation · 03/10/2014 21:31

Just bear in mind if you flung your bra across the hedge, you might not be best pleased when you have to go and collect it in the morning!
Otherwise, YANBU.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 03/10/2014 21:31

Sorry about your dad, OP - and your foot. Can you take painkillers (or not, if you are breastfeeding?). I don't know what to suggest but sympathy for you. Thanks

Ceasre · 03/10/2014 21:31

I am sorry to hear about your dad. Alzheimer's is a shitty shitty illness. My mum was diagnosed a few months ago. Good luck with it all!

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Plumviolet · 03/10/2014 21:36

I know boris! Totally open for major abuse for that one...

Not sure I'm ever going to live it down.

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gordyslovesheep · 03/10/2014 21:39

sometimes the word deserves shouting at - I'm sorry about your dad x Thanks

TooMuchCantBreath · 03/10/2014 21:44

You are supposed to cry on aibu - but usually because of all the harpees Wink

Sorry to hear it's all gone a bit belly up. WineWine for tonight, work the rest out tomorrow.

CheckpointCharlie · 03/10/2014 21:49

Mahoosive HUG to you.

Keep trucking lovely.

MrsPiggie · 03/10/2014 21:55

Have another glass and even another fag (although no, they don't really help with anything)
Hats off that you are coping so well, I would be in a flood of tears by now. Flowers and hope you're better in the morning.

LuisSuarezTeeth · 03/10/2014 21:58

Big hugs Plum

PiperIsOrange · 03/10/2014 22:00

How long have you been feeling like this. If it's just a one off......then enjoy your blow out. We all need that now and again.

If it's been longer then think about seeing your GP.

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Plumviolet · 03/10/2014 22:17

Piper...it's in the now, for now... things are pretty shit. They'll get better, but feck me it feels pretty crappy right now.

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