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To ask friend with tiny dog to leave

34 replies

hideandsqueak · 03/10/2014 14:45

Some friends were in the area and popped in to see me as I am currently on mat leave with my 11 month old. One of them mentioned that her dog was in the car and it has been really hot this week so I said to bring him in. He is a miniature dog about the size of my foot. I have cats and am not a clean freak. The dog came in on lead and after a couple of minutes she let him off. I don't want my DS to have a dog phobia so was nice and calm and relaxed until the dog just kept on snatching at my baby with his mouth. My friend reprimanded him but not with much conviction and when he wasn't snapping at my DS he was licking his toys!!! My friend then mentioned that when he gets overexcited he starts weeing everywhere. My heart stopped. We were in a carpeted room. Then I went to get them a drink whilst holding my crying child who was upset about the tiny dog snapping at him and the dog escaped and ran upstairs where my bedroom door was open. My friend just sat there saying oh dear. At this point I said to her you need to go and get him downstairs now! She mentioned him weeing when he gets told off again. I started feeling sick and told them they had to leave! Was I being unreasonable? Should I just have made them leave him in a car or tie him to tree outside? Our garden isn't secure. I feel so embarrassed about this as I am an animal lover. Also the dog was tiny but my living room stank of dog after. I had to disinfect the toys and sniff the whole house for dog wee just in case. Sorry this was long. I have been traumatized by a dog the size of a rat.

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Aeroflotgirl · 03/10/2014 14:47

Yanbu, they should have left when it was evident their dog was playing up near your baby.

cherrybombxo · 03/10/2014 14:48

I get it and I don't think YABU. I have a miniature Jack Russell and he is an absolute arsehole of a dog, I certainly wouldn't take him to a friend's house if there was a small child.

That dog should have been removed as soon as it snapped at the baby. I wouldn't suggest leaving it in a car but your friend should have gone home and taken the dog with her.

TarkaTheOtter · 03/10/2014 14:49

YANBU I can't believe they didn't check if it was ok to bring the dog in advance.

Marylou2 · 03/10/2014 14:53

YANBU. I'd be Shock if anyone brought a dog into my home unless specifically invited

psyandsoc · 03/10/2014 14:54

No YNBU your so called friend is an arse though. If any dog nips or anything like that they should be removed as well as repremanded severely. If they can't see this then there is something wrong with them. As for the pee smell try washing powered on the spot if you can find it. I too am a animal lover and have had children, the children take priority over the animals I think you did the right thing.

BigbyWolf · 03/10/2014 14:55

Yanbu. I wouldn't want a snappy, stinky little rat-dog in my house.
The owner should have removed it the moment it snapped at your baby!

Floralnomad · 03/10/2014 14:55

YANBU ,I've got a dog but I wouldn't dream of taking him visiting without checking first ,and he doesn't pee on people's floors !

juneau · 03/10/2014 14:55

You're better than me - I wouldn't have had it in my house in the first place! But no, YADNBU. I'd be more pissed with her for not apologising and leaving without being asked TBH.

Stratter5 · 03/10/2014 14:55

YANBU and I have two rat sized dogs. I wouldn't dream of taking them to see a baby

Aeroflotgirl · 03/10/2014 14:57

Not left in the car, but they are rude and should have asked beforehand if it's ok, if it starts playing up go home. These type of owners give dog owners a bad name.

littlehayleyc · 03/10/2014 15:01

YANBU the friend should have offered to take the dog home, or at least put him back on the lead, and under close control, as soon as he started snapping at your baby.

NewEraNewMindset · 03/10/2014 15:05

Oh god no, that sounds really stressful. I can't stand people who own these tiny dogs but think not bothering to house train them is acceptable. Disgusting.

sooperdooper · 03/10/2014 15:05

I have a dog and I'd be mortified if he snapped at a baby and ran about someone's house!!

I'd have put the dog in the garden, if you have one?

merrymouse · 03/10/2014 15:08

Goodness no. I would never assume I could take my dog into anyone's house.

NickiFury · 03/10/2014 15:09

Grin at "my heart stopped" when told about the weeing.

I would have told her to leave too. I have an extremely well behaved little dog but I would never ask to take him into anyone's home unless they already know and love him and only then because he is so gentle and well trained.

getdownshep · 03/10/2014 15:09

Your friend sounds like an idiot.
Why didn't she just leave it at home, I have two small dogs and I would never put them near a baby.
They are scared of children and I wouldn't want them put to sleep if they snapped at a child. I'm always very conscious of any children near them.

LeftRightCentre · 03/10/2014 15:15

YANBU

HappyAgainOneDay · 03/10/2014 15:19

sooperdooper I wouldn't want a dog in my garden let alone my house. A dog as described by the OP would be digging up plants and defecating everywhere. I wouldn't want its pee there either. The garden would be for my DC to play in without being told not to go to a particular place because a dog pooed there once. One could pick up dog poo but there's always a bit left where it stuck to the ground. Not in my house or garden, thank you!

Puzzledandpissedoff · 03/10/2014 15:22

Luckily most decent dog owners wouldn't dream of behaving like this, but sometimes I understand why certain friends refuse all doggie visitors without exception - they tell me it saves apologies later Hmm

Clobbered · 03/10/2014 15:22

Yuck, YANBU, the whole episode sounds terrible. They would have been out the door with a boot up their arse if a dog snapped at my child and "never darken my doorstep again" ringing in their ears. Some friend, who thinks it's OK to let her dog harass your child and run around peeing all over your house.

Original poster
hideandsqueak · 03/10/2014 15:24

Ah thank you everyone. I think the reason I felt awful about it was because she had left him in the car but told me she had done that so I felt like I would have been a bit cruel and PFB to make him stay there in the heat. So I invited him in! I just didn't realise he would be so out of control! It seems like because he is so small she lets him get away with being so badly behaved...

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Thumbwitch · 03/10/2014 15:25

YANBU at all. Disgusting behaviour from the dog owner, if she knew her dog was like that, why bring it into the house at all? Foul.

neighbourhoodwitch · 03/10/2014 15:27

god no yanbu!!!

ftmsoon · 03/10/2014 15:31

YABU, but only for comparing it to a rat! My rats would never snap at a child, they love my DD. YANBU for not wanting her or it anywhere near you and your DD ever again.

Chwaraeteg · 03/10/2014 15:53

A bit of both IMO.

Your friend should have been more considerate than to bring her dog, especially if it's one who can't behave. Snapping at the baby is not on. That is seriously bad! I would have gone ballistic.

On the other hand though, you say that your "heart nearly stopped" when you were told he might wee, if he gets excited and that you sterilized your sons toys after they left. For this yabu. Serious overreaction.

Also, big no to the dog being left in the car.