To ask friend with tiny dog to leave

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Some friends were in the area and popped in to see me as I am currently on mat leave with my 11 month old. One of them mentioned that her dog was in the car and it has been really hot this week so I said to bring him in. He is a miniature dog about the size of my foot. I have cats and am not a clean freak. The dog came in on lead and after a couple of minutes she let him off. I don't want my DS to have a dog phobia so was nice and calm and relaxed until the dog just kept on snatching at my baby with his mouth. My friend reprimanded him but not with much conviction and when he wasn't snapping at my DS he was licking his toys!!! My friend then mentioned that when he gets overexcited he starts weeing everywhere. My heart stopped. We were in a carpeted room. Then I went to get them a drink whilst holding my crying child who was upset about the tiny dog snapping at him and the dog escaped and ran upstairs where my bedroom door was open. My friend just sat there saying oh dear. At this point I said to her you need to go and get him downstairs now! She mentioned him weeing when he gets told off again. I started feeling sick and told them they had to leave! Was I being unreasonable? Should I just have made them leave him in a car or tie him to tree outside? Our garden isn't secure. I feel so embarrassed about this as I am an animal lover. Also the dog was tiny but my living room stank of dog after. I had to disinfect the toys and sniff the whole house for dog wee just in case. Sorry this was long. I have been traumatized by a dog the size of a rat.

Your friend sounds totally thick. YANBU.

Jesus we have dogs and I'd be pissed if someone brought theirs to my house and let it act like that!!

Mind you my staff would have just sat on it. She's particularly good at passive aggressive discipline

You are unlikely to come across a dog owner this rude again but just in case, it might be best to set out the rules as soon as they come in and say "Could you keep him on a lead please?"

It was very kind of you to stop the dog being left in the car, and I hope the experience hasn't put you off dogs.

YANBU. Terrible attitude from your friend.

I don't like taking my dog to other peoples houses just incase he misbehaves - even when he's invited.
And would point blank refuse to take him anywhere with children, he isn't used to children and I wouldn't want to put him, me, a parent or a child in a situation that I'm uncomfortable with.

Tbh, the fact she asked to bring him was a red flag. All the reasonable dog owners I know wouldn't dream of it unless in dire need. You just don't take your dog to other people's houses unless they offer or it's a guide dog.

I totally forgot to mention that he was jumping all over our fabric g plan sofas which are fairly new and when DH heard he was furious.

One of them mentioned that her dog was in the car and it has been really hot this week so I said to bring him in.

Best response? "Well then I guess you won't want to stay too long, so he doesn't get overheated in the car."

I wouldn't pop in anywhere if I had my dogs with me, let alone to a friend's house. You never know how long you might be there, and it isn't on to expect them to allow your dog in their house. The only place I go other than the park or the pet store if I have my dogs with me is my mother's house, as I know the dogs are welcome there. YANBU for not wanting her dog to leap all over the place, snap at your baby, wee on your floor and get on the furniture. If I ever DID take my dogs somewhere, I would expect them to behave and mind their manners as they have been trained to do! I would also keep them on their leashes. I would be so embarrassed if mine behaved that way, and I would have left without having to be told to.