to not want to share a room with my OH and children

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A friend is arranging a reunion and has found some accommodation which would necessitate our family sharing a double bedroom for three nights at a cost of around £100 a night. One one year old one four year old.

Also, we will have to share the two bedroom cottage either with a friend and her OH and kids and potentially two other adults sleeping on the sofa. So there will be potentially six adults sharing a bathroom and nowhere to sit down in the mornings when the kids inevitably want to roam around as there will be a childless couple asleep on the sofa bed.

I think this is a bit much for what we will get but I suspect everyone else will go along with it and I will be seen as the difficult one.

Have offered to stay elsewhere and go and see everyone during the days. also, so as not to drop feed, I don't know everyone going and also I only live about half an hour away.

I don't want to be the party pooper but it sounds horrible to me. Do I need to get a grip?

It sounds like hell on earth to me... At 30 minutes from home, I'd definitely be driving home each night.

We don't yet know how many people are going. I have raised my concerns and have received an email saying that I am annoying!

Apparently all couples get their own room and they are going to try and get as many kids to share as possible. It sounds like a total recipe for disaster to me but at least I now know that there won't be anyone in a sofa bed on the lounge.

Also, I will have a one year old by then and not sure how well they will sleep if they are in a room with three or four older kids.

am debating what to do now it sounds a little bit better, and it would be a shame to miss out, but then like so many of you have said I can still join in.

what to do what to do. It's still expenseive but a bit better now? I think I have fear of missing out.

Is it a group of cottages etc then?

I guess if you don't stay there, you'll have to think about things like how much you can drink, how late you would stay, what you would do in the morning when you get back if others aren't up and moving yet.

So you might not get the whole 'experience'.

OTOH depending on the people and how much of their undiluted company you enjoy, the whole experience might not be what you want?

Do all the DC know each other or does the planner mean the DC will be in their parents room?

If I received an email saying I am annoying - I would be replying with "fuck off then"

Robot lover I am very tempted x

I suppose if your 4 yo is happy to share with some other kids, then you can put 1 yo in a blow up in your room and if there's no other adults on the sofa then it could be ok...

But if I would not be happy at all about being called annoying for simply querying the sleeping arrangements!

Sounds like someone's already committed to the booking...

If I received an email saying I am annoying - I would be replying with "fuck off then"

^ Exactly this!

I hate sharing rooms or vacation houses. Friends never make good roommates.

It sounds awful to me. I would love the option to return home to my own bed.

The bedroom is a red herring - I wouldn't want to share with strangers and even with friends it sounds overcrowded.

They've actually dared to say you're annoying?!

Another in the 'fuck off' camp.

Just pull out of staying overnight.

It sounds awful.

I think if you don't stay then the price for the others will go up, but that's just tough. Maybe that's why it's annoying.

I wouldn't stay there if is was free!

I've holidayed in a very spacious multi bathroomed house with 15 others and it was great because of the space and all the bathrooms.

I hate sharing with others. I hated sharing with friends when kids were small. Cottage was always messy and you will be trying to keep your 1 year old quiet if he starts crying or anything.

Reply saying "I'm sorry you find it annoying but I won't be staying in the cottage".

Did she say you were annoying in a jokey way, or do you think she was semi-serious? If so, tell her to fuck off.

Couldn't bear it. Nor could DH. I just wouldnot even contemplate it under any circumstances but especially if I lived half an hour away and could sleep in my own room, own bed and peaceful house.

But then we are antisocial buggers and hate having guests.

Just say 'Sorry, we have decided to stay at home and will come across every day.' No need for any more explanation than that. Never feel you have to explain why you don't want to do something , I say!

Actually, don't say 'Sorry'. You have no reason to apologise. Why would you spend £300 to stay in a cramped cottage with 4 other adults and children for 3 nights when you could stay in your own home for free???? It is a no- brainer.

It sounds like a brilliant idea. Tell your DH he’s taking the children and they’re all spending 3 days having a lovely time together in overcrowded hell while you are all lonely at home have 3 days peace and drop in on the reunion when it suits you.

Are you by the sea - could you not suggest somewhere near attractions such as sea or a city where there is loads to do rather than 30 mins from your house? That's the bit (no that there are no sofa surfers) that would rile me £300 for down the road!?

I have voiced my concerns and I have now been guaranteed a room and the price has come down a bit but it's still ridiculously expensive.

have been brow beaten into saying yes by friend and OH so IABU and a massive dickhead but at least when I am moaning next year I will know that you all agreed with me.

I am just going to have to take lots of wine with me and hope for the best. Poor poor people sleeping on the sofa bed in the lounge

It's suspicious that the price has suddenly dropped. The cottage sounds far too small for the amount of people mentioned in your OP. How did your friend happen across this accomodation, are they getting some sort of kickback from you all staying?

WHY have you said yes???