To be mad at dh for shouting at our baby?

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We had just finished dinner and ds was in his highchair. Dh offered to pick him up while I was washing dishes as ds was getting fed up of being fastened up.

I'm not sure exactly what happened as I had my back to them but suddenly dh shouted at ds (who is 8 months old).. Dh said ds was being dangerous and nearly fell out of the chair.

I got upset with dh for shouting at ds. I told him that I don't think he should have shouted at ds, he is only 8 month old and has no concept of danger and there was no reason to shout at him.

Dh is now sulking on the sofa and said that he doesn't like his parenting being criticised...

Aibu to not want ds to be shouted at?? He's only a baby this is the first time it's happened and I would rather it not happen again.

Startling a baby or toddler by shouting is a pretty good method (possibly the only good method) of getting them to stop whatever they're doing instantly. You do it because they have no sense of danger.

Not surprising you were upset too, though - I always cry when something really makes me jump.

So YANBU for getting upset, but YABU for expecting DH not to do it.

When I'm scared it comes across as angry. So what a panicked "WTF are you doing?!" comes across as angry and uncaring. I've shouted at DD when she jerked back from me holding her and almost fell out of my arms. My fault completely for not holding her with both hands, but I didn't expect her to jerk back like that so a surprised shout came out very angry sounding. She looked shocked and started whimper cries. God I felt like shit.

It happens.

Maybe DS won't do it again, or maybe DH will now know that babies like to fling themselves towards certain death.

Really, babies are evolutionary designed to kill themselves, they have no self preservation instincts.