To get irritated by the "self lovers" on Facebook?

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I know I don't HAVE to be on FB but it's handy for communication in general. However...I find some of my friends get RIGHT on my tits with their regular self congratulatory posts.

"3lb lost in one week! Having a well deserved glass of wine!"

"Worked three nights, cleaned the house and baked a cake...patting myself on the back."

What do they want!? Congratulations for perfectly ordinary achievements!?

I can't bear it! The whole "well deserved" and "didn't I do well" brigade need to keep it in a bit!

Do you do this? WHY!???

In the UK we still, thank goodness, live in a free world - democracy. Where points of view can be discussed yet you are discussing that you don't want people to post what they like on their facebook page.

This democracy you speak of.. where you are allowed to 'discuss' what others can/can't discuss/mention/talk about IN THEIR OWN SPACE...a tad hypocritical, no?

going a walk ... just made lunch! (usually a picture of pasta/beans on toast) ... feeling sleepy! ready for bed!

See, I don't post like that & don't know anyone who does. MY fb is handy because I have fmaily in the UK (am in Oz) so I can update lots of people who I cannot afford to call (most only have mobiles now) often, with details of what my family is up to/latest photos.

And yes, I think I could happily spend time in the company of anyone on my list.

If I accept a request & that person doesn't talk to me/comment on my posts, they are deleted. I am not in it for the numbers, but to talk & communicate.

Totally with Differentname here. Well said.

I ignore friends requests all the time. You are mad if you just accept randomers without question, or go around friending people you don't know, or have no great interest in or RL contact with - why would you even do that?

oooohhh and the poster thingys, dont know what they're called, sort of like the Athena posters we had back in the 80's, full of cryptic messages about "strong women", "love is", "things in life to appreciate", with pictures of beaches, autumn leaves, love hearts...

gives me the dry boak

different but that's what facebook albums are for. People can choose to look at photos of your kids or not, whereas if you load them one at a time onto your profile they do flood people's newsfeeds.

I agree about the numbers though. Where fb started to go wrong was when kids started treating friends lists as a competition about numbers. Now hopefully most (adult) people appreciate that it's about the quality of your fb friends not the quantity.

My friends list is in the 90s and has grown very slowly and now plateaued. I can't see it ever getting much higher and that's fine by me. These people who have many hundreds make me go .

DontDrinkAndFacebook Your point being?

My friends & family are on my fb because they want to see pictures of my kids, therefore probably don't mind having their feed littered with the photos I post.

I have yet to see anyone write anything on FB that is of enormous interest to anyone.

The point of FB is to share photos and mundane shit about your daily life. Those who moan about boring statuses on FB make me wonder what amazing stuff they post. It is for boring day to day updates if that is how you want to use it. I like knowing what my friends and family are up to, I like knowing what people are eating and what little achievements they have had.

I posted the other day that I got a distinction for biology. I was proud and wanted to share it. I virtually patted myself on the back and took great delight in other people congratulating me. I like to think my family and friends care and wanted to share my excitement and pride with me, just like I do with my friends.

different. I put the post up on FB telling people to stop flooding news feeds with with pictures of their kids. In response to this.....

Would go into their houses & tell them to take their kid's pictures of their walls?

No I wouldn't but if you wish to use this argument then in the same vain if people kept sending me emails or letters through the post with pictures of their kids I would treat it like spam or junk mail. I would tell them to stop emailing me and/or sending me pictures of their kids. I am not interested in seeing them hence the reason I remove them from my FB news feed permanently or delete them from my friends list.

I honestly just find the constant barrage of pictures and videos very sycophantic!

Littlepea, email is different because it is a completely different platform.

On facebook you are being invited, or accepting an invite to see into people lives. Much like if you accept an invite into their home. You don't get a say in what THEY post, but you do get a say in if you see it. Because you can hide it.

I don't think anyone should worry about posting something & offending someone. If I come across something that offends me, I will hide or delete that person, it is not my place to tell them to stop what they are doing.

I honestly just find the constant barrage of pictures and videos very sycophantic!

Finem Hide them then. Or delete them, just don't dictate what they can/can't post.

Fine, even!

Yabu. Most people are incredibly hard on themselves and negative. I think it's lovely to see people being positive and being proud of their achievements. When I was seriously unwell with a breakdown I was told to be proud of achievements like actually leaving the house. I studied a lot of books about the benefits of being positive and marking achievements.

I also see nothing wrong with people that post mundane stuff on their fb. It's their fb and not everyone leads thrilling lives.

I'm sure your best mate would love to know how you really feel about her fb. Fb just seems to open another door to secretly be bitchy about people you are supposed to care about.

I am very reasonable with my fb. Don't like what I post defriend me. Doesn't change a real friendship in the real worlds.

Yes and I guess you can't dictate to me and tell me not to tell them to "stop flooding my news feeds because their pictures are boring and they are becoming irritating".

I used the email/post example on the ack f your stretching it example about going into people's homes.

Like pp have said hide or delete.

The only thing that annoys me on fb is people sharing things without checking the validity first, otherwise it's their page and they are free to share what they like just as I'm free to hide/delete

If some of you hate social media that much then just come off it?

I've hidden one friend from my newsfeed who I love dearly but she kept putting up videos and photos of animal abuse. I've also been de friended by a family of Christians who didn't approve of my lifestyle

And I need to change the pin on my phone as DP decided it would be funny to put up a photo of a tattoo on my arse for the whole world to see.
His sniggering alerted me.

Sort of feel your pain OP as one of my best mates ( Great person in RL ) holds forth on FB about news stories, celeb twaddle, Candy Crush scores, What-kind-of-biscuit-are-you quizes ... All kinds of twonkery, and she writes in silly voices - if you see what I mean It does my head in.

Thing is she's widowed and works mad shifts and so she's oftain winding down at stupid o'clock in the morning with no-one to talk to so she's just kind of chatting into the void ... And I love her so I just roll my eyes and scroll on past.

If it really pisses you off just unfollow!

"chatting into the void"

Ahh Usedtobe, doesn't that just sum it up!

"?I don't understand what you mean, FB stalking saves me time, if I look someone up I can see just how much of a plonker they really are...it's a shortcut to seeing a person's true colours"

what I mean is - there are people who join up to facebook and do not use it for anything other than to obsessively flick through their timeline to see what other people are saying and then be sneery about it. I think it's a bit of a weird thing to do. If you're going to have facebook then at least engage with it a bit.

I also disagree that you see peoples true colours - a lot of what is put on there is done to project an image that is very different to the reality of that person's life.

I do a bit of FB stalking. Except I normally do it if anyone applies and gets an interview for a role reporting directly into me. Interesting what you find out about potential candidates online.

Ok Dueling I guess it depends on what you mean by 'true colours' Im not talking about an inner essential core self (if there is such a thing)
Rather that things that people chose to do on FB are in some way specific to them, they reveal things about a person's character, the way that they chose to present themselves ?says something about how they want to be viewed.
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I just laugh at some of the stuff, some people are absolute liars! Some go on to whinge about anything. It's hilarious. It beats being bored when you are waiting somewhere, it passes the time for me. That's all it is to me.

It's hardly stretching it, is it? You have either a] invited someone to be your friend on fb or b] accepted an invite from them. Therefore, agreeing to see/read what they are doing.

Say I invited you. You accept. You have accepted an invite to MY space. Same as if I invited you into my home. You have accepted an invite into my space.

You have no right whatsoever to tell me what I can/can't do in my home. What I can/can't say, what I can/can't put on my walls. If you don't like it, you don't accept my invite or you leave. It is NOT up to me to change my ways because YOU agreed to be in my space.

Same with fb. You agreed, either way, to be there. You have no right to be telling those you invited/accepted an invite from, what to say/do in their own personal space.

It doesn't matter if it is an internet page, or a home.

If you don't like it, leave them to it by hiding them, or deleting them.

Different have you actually read any of my posts?