To get irritated by the "self lovers" on Facebook?

[ClapHandsIfYouBelieveInFatties]

I know I don't HAVE to be on FB but it's handy for communication in general. However...I find some of my friends get RIGHT on my tits with their regular self congratulatory posts.

"3lb lost in one week! Having a well deserved glass of wine!"

"Worked three nights, cleaned the house and baked a cake...patting myself on the back."

What do they want!? Congratulations for perfectly ordinary achievements!?

I can't bear it! The whole "well deserved" and "didn't I do well" brigade need to keep it in a bit!

Do you do this? WHY!???

Sorry, I probably focused too much on he 'raise social awareness' bit.

I am a geek btw, a Facebook geek at least. I go through phases of hating facebook (or hating being on it) and then accepting the fact that I may not like everything that is put on it but everyone else's Facebook is their own space to do with what they want and I can't expect them to modify heir pages to my liking. I have the power to control what I see as well as to control what I share. Some people like to share stuff I don't like and if I am aware that some people dislike what I write then I limit who can see it.

No offence was meant in anything I wrote, I just find moaning about Facebook quite counter productive when, if a person is on Facebook, they can tailor it to be whT they want it to be quite easily.

re the geek who started facebook:
this exchange took place between a 19-year-old Zuckerberg and a friend in 2004, not long after the CEO launched the site from his student bedroom.

Zuck: Yeah so if you ever need info about anyone at Harvard

Zuck: Just ask.

Zuck: I have over 4,000 emails, pictures, addresses, SNS

[Redacted Friend's Name]: What? How’d you manage that one?

Zuck: People just submitted it.

Zuck: I don’t know why.

Zuck: They “trust me”

Zuck: Dumb f*cks.

@ the suggestion that fb has some higher motive like raising social awareness

ha ha ha
pull the other one

Oh look, yet another thread moaning about what other people write on their Facebook walls. YABU, it's so so simple, either don't read the status's which annoy you, block updates from the people who annoy you, unfriend the people who annoy you, or get off Facebook because it's obviously not for you.

Some people are just not suited to FB! It isn't FB - it is your friends on FB. If you can't stand what they write then they are not really your friends.
Delete them or hide their posts - simple.

I once asked on here what people could write in FB and the answer was nothing!
People hate:
Posts from holidays
Posts from people having fun
Posts bragging about children
Miserable posts
Enigmatic posts
Pictures of children
Posts about things in the news
Jokes
Posts about day to day mundane things
and now self congratulatory posts.

I only go on facebook to snigger at the "just had lunch!"....."just did my chores and hung out the washing!"......."just went a walk!" posts...

my life is as boring as hell, but when I start posting mundane crap on facebook hoping for responses then I'll know its time to put my head in the oven (or get a friggin job...)

I just hate the attention seeking posts....

"Having a really bad day, can't believe this has happened again!"

Then you get loads of responses.....

"What's up Hun"
"Call me babes". Etc etc..

Then they never return to update what happened... It's so annoying!

If you only befriended people on FB that you happily spend a day with you wouldn't have the problem! Better to have 10 friends that 100 names.

I was friended by a woman on FB who was a fb friend of DPs (he took himself off when we moved in together). She flooded his wall once to the point I thought I'd clicked on hers by mistake so I kind of liked to keep an eye on her... God I hate her but I-can't-look-away...she updates her picture 3 times a week and her statuses at least 6 times a day, the record was 14! It's all 'men love curves not sticks', why am I single when I'm just so lovely, I hate (insert) 'attractive woman on TV of the day', I work so hard and need a cuddle, I need a back rub, I'm such a sexy Scorpio, I wish I could be a bitch as they get what they want, etc etc she has over 900 'friends' and only a handful of about 6 ever reply.

She got a bf a couple of years ago and she updated her status all through the romantic chinese meal they were having, it was fecking hilarious! The 14 status updates were when he dumped her.

Yes I'm a bitch but it's like eastenders

I've never been on fb, but it does sound like hell.

I'd rather spend my time doing something constructive, like having a nap.

FB is fun. However people collect names, people they hardly know and wouldn't want to know in RL.

OP fb is an absolute pile of wank.

HTH.

what I dont get, and I say this with the utmost sincerity, is....do people who post umpteen times a day with the most trivial shit not realise how banal it makes them sound? or do they think someone out there is impressed they cooked dinner tonight? or went to bed?

sheesh

EvansOvalPiesYumYum you do amuse me.

Firstly the total lack of a grasp of irony - I wasn't actually apologising.

Secondly the unabashed hypocrisy "isn't everyone entitled to their own opinion, democracy, etc" - isn't that exactly what these people are doing on Facebook?

Thirdly, it is pretty obvious you are still on there given you talk in the present tense about friending and defriending.

Good to see some sane people on here able to accept FB for what it is and not get their knickers in such a twist!

Really though, it's the people who use facebook to stalk others who are the worst. I would suggest it is those people who need to get a life!

oh i agree with you dueling, i'm a fb stalker, i know i shouldnt but it just gives me right old smirk reading the latest mundane updates that are usually followed be a !

going a walk!

just made lunch! (usually a picture of pasta/beans on toast )

feeling sleepy! ready for bed!

groan, its like car crash tv, you know you shouldnt but its neediness cheers you up

I prefer self lovers to self haters. Posting "some people need to realise how upset they make other people. Sigh. Life's just not worth it at the moment" is a sure fire way to be unfriended!

it's the people who use facebook to stalk others who are the worst. I would suggest it is those people who need to get a life

?I don't understand what you mean, FB stalking saves me time, if I look someone up I can see just how much of a plonker they really are...it's a shortcut to seeing a person's true colours

I'd been up at 6am, walked the dog, done breakfasts and packed lunches, been to work, come home, cooked dinner, walked the dog, dropped off at cubs, been to the squeezed in PTA meeting and was collecting from Cubs

Well aren't you just so bloody wonderful! It doesn't matter what YOU did/do/achieved, you have no idea what is happening in her life that prevents her from doing both.

Good for you that you do so much with your day, but the fact that you see someone NOT achieving that, as someone to avoid is not good, really!

How do you know she doesn't get up at 6am, done breakfasts and packed lunches, gone to work almost straight after & got home 30mins before cubs?

But it is probably best that you avoid her, she may not like your boasting much!

IMHO:

FB is great for sending photos in pms
FB is brilliant for keeping in touch with people who you may not bother to email.
FB is brilliant for following media interests like writers, magazines, films, interest groups.
FB is brilliant for group messages and sending photos to groups.

Increasingly I am fed up with the fact that all these acquaintance mothers from school have friended me, I never refuse a request, so I now have a bunch of virtual strangers on my fb feed. I now almost exclusively post to individuals.

Topaz25 Nope, not in a minority! I am happy for my friends to post what they like on their walls. Because I wouldn't dream of going into their homes & telling them what to say while we talk!

Increasingly I am fed up with the fact that all these acquaintance mothers from school have friended me, I never refuse a request, so I now have a bunch of virtual strangers on my fb feed. I now almost exclusively post to individuals.

That's your fault, not theirs. I don't add people I barely know!

I have not friended ONE school Mum and don't even admit I'm on it! If you don't refuse requests you can't complain.

I did once post and update saying something like "seriously people stop flooding news feeds with pictures of your kids" Would go into their houses & tell them to take their kid's pictures of their walls?

A forum for free views and discussion compared with a social network where you actively accept "friends" and choose to whom you speak are again, quite different. Yes, because on facebook you can IGNORE (i.e hide) those who annoy you, and you can't on mumsnet.

Seriously, I just don't get complaining about what people share on their space. None of you would go into a friends house & tell them what to say/put on their walls. So don't be so rude as to think you can control what they put up in a space that YOU accepted/asked to be a part of!

I don't think fb was intended for bragging initially Usual. And candles weren't originally intended to add fragrance to a room/make for a romantic setting, they were used to light the dark. Things evolve.