To think this party mother is crazy.

[Sleepswithbutterflies]

With a capital C?

We went to a party last weekend for a 5 year old. They had a professional photographer who went around snapping the kids left right and centre.

This weekend all the photos are on fb (which I don't particularly agree with. I mean, it's fine for ds but no one asked and there might be kids who have parents who don't want them plastered all over fb) and the pictures have been photoshopped! The children now have whiter teeth, brighter eyes and any blemishes are gone. There was a child who has a mark from where they had a head injury and stitches - the mark is gone.
There is also a photo of a slightly chubby older girl (about 8 maybe? I didn't know her anyway, I know most of the other children) and I am 99.9% they've made her slimmer!!

Oh my god! They were mainly 4, 5 and 6 year olds and they've been photoshopped!
I'd so love to link the pictures but I can't, sadly.

Aibu to think this mother is actually slightly deranged?

Most photoshopping is just simple color corrections and making sure the photos are crisp and vibrant (low lighting can make pictures dull).

They shouldn't be shopping out imperfections from children. They're kids, not models. If she needs to rely on post work, it doesn't say much about her photography skills.

When I did some freelance photography I had a rule. If it was a transient thing (e.g. a spot, bogey etc) I would photoshop it out. If it was a natural feature of that person, it wouldn't be photoshopped unless I was asked to do it.

I did this because I once had some photos of me and other half done and they photoshopped off my moles. I was a bit hurt, it was like they thought my face wasn't good enough the way it came.

"I was a bit hurt, it was like they thought my face wasn't good enough the way it came."

As a long term acne sufferer, this is exactly how I would feel if I saw a shot of me photoshopped to have perfect smooth skin...

emsyj

Sorry, yes I see your point.

I'm quite a good photographer (studied it in a real proper art school and everything) and used to snap the parties and school events.

I'd go through the millions of shots taken, pick a few of each child (no bogeys, fingers up noses, throttling other kids etc) and send them to the parents. No manipulation needed.

Little kids are so lovely and natural - its mainly about that naughty twinkle in their eyes when the cake comes out (and you know they are all thinking 'ooohhhhh - I'm gonna blow out those candles first!'), or when they are engrossed in a game or activity. Dancing around in their sunday best, guzzling cake and jelly, chasing balloons...

Why manipulate unless you go wild and make them look like they are dancing on the moon or stroking a tiger?

We recently had some professional photos done of the kids. In one you can see a bruise on my daughter's shin. I kind of liked it though. It shows her character. I don't want perfect shots of my kids I want to show who they are, tell a story about them. It's the little imperfections that I love.

Venture did it with DS's strawberry birthmark. It's very offensive I think to offer the same shot with/without the birthmark.

I don't think that its offensive to offer to touch up a photo (as someone whose child got into an altercation with a dog the day before his uncles wedding and had a huge shiner in all the photos). Some people might want to have a scar or birthmark 'erased' but to do it without asking is definitely 'off'.

I think it's offensive not to ask you first, and at the viewing flash up both shots. I see your point regarding a black eye, but a birthmark is a permanant part of a persons face.