Feel like a horrible mummy because my children aren't fussy

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Particularly my son, he only doesn't like raw tomatoes - that's basically it.

Dd started being a bit fussy, but she's grown out of it fast - she's 3 now.

When I meet mums of fussy eaters, they seem to pay so much more attention to their child's like and dislikes and opinions. Is it that bad to be a fussy eater? I know it can be inconvenient.

Is it better to not give them an option? Am I a dragon? Arrrr

Oh - yes and I agree this is a stealth boast.

Lol at this :)

My kids will eat, or at least try, absolutely anything. I don't think it's luck tbh but I don't say that to anyone in real life for fear of lynching.

I'm off to rig my sails and stroke my parrot.

Oooarrr

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That veg thing is really interesting

Methe - yes, stupid opinions are always best kept to oneself.

I kind of get what the op means.

Ds1 (6) will eat anything. Spicy curries, all fruits and veg (sprouts, asparagus, things that ds2 won't touch), any sort of sauce over a meal, tinned sardines, stinky cheese, sushi...

If someone asked me his favourite food or biggest food dislike I'd be a bit 'mmm...no idea'. He just eats what's in front of him.

With ds2 I could give you a list as long as my arm of his favourites and dislikes. But ds1 doesn't seem to have any food preferences at all, it's a bit weird.

OK, so if I'm following this right, you're concerned that because your children eat everything now, particularly the girl of three, you're worried that you might have trampled all over their tastes?

No. You didn't. Your children simply aren't picky. Refusing a whole meal from time to time probably meant they weren't hungry that day. Their appetites and tastes change slightly over time depending on lots of things, but in general, you have two, non-fussy children.

The ONLY thing this means is that you have two non-fussy children.

It does not mean you're a worse mother or indeed a better mother than another. It just means your children aren't fussy.

If you had had a fussy child, and you made every mealtime into a torturous attempt to shovel food down their gagging, choking throats until they came to dread each mealtime, then you would be a horrible mummy.

You are not a horrible mummy for not fixing a problem that doesn't exist. It's like me saying 'am I a horrible mummy for not going into the dark hallway with my child every time? She's not afraid of the dark, but her friend Milly is, so should I attempt to fix Milly's problem in my child who doesn't have it?'

Well what does the OP mean then Teracotta?

Because your children don't have strong preferences with food that means you think you aren't paying enough attention to them?

I can't even begin to understand what the OP is trying to say.

I'm off to rig my sails and stroke my parrot.

TMI

I love that. 'I don't think it's luck' ...to rhyme with 'aren't i just amazing?'

Yeah well done. That's the true measure of quality parenting.

Don't think you are out of the woods yet at three. My DD are everything till she was around 8.5years old. Now at nearly 11 there is a whole list of stuff and believe you me having a 10 year old yell I don't like it at you is far worse.
I will not cook separate meals, there are days when I cook something she liked two weeks ago and now won't eat and she goes hungry. She would rather not eat at school than eat so something she doesn't like.

I've got a very fussy child who has actual food phobias - I am a much better parent than you.
However, if it made my child easier to feed I would gladly give up my perfect mummy medal !!!

I have also got a child who eats most things - so maybe I am a shit parent too??

Ds is a very fussy eater, it makes meal times very stressful.

I Would love it if ds just picked up
An apple, or went a got packed of crisps.

Ds is a very fussy eater, it makes meal times very stressful.

I Would love it if ds just picked up
An apple, or went a got packed of crisps.

I have non identical twins-1 fussy and 1 not. Both fed out of the same weaning pot and then identical meals.Same non attention as regards food.

Make of that what you will.

DD2 is "fussy" (we never use the word to describe her but she is). Dd1 is not. I do not "pander" to DD2. I leave her to it. If she gets no attention over it, then she'll get bored and grow out of it (she is 2.5). Please don't assume all mum's of "fussy eaters" are paying them loads of attention over it.

Yes. You're a terrible mother and your children are going to be dysfunction if you don't change this fast.

No go smother your children. If you aren't helicopter parenting, you're not doing it right.

That's very interesting Isseyesque - DS is fussy and I do wonder if it's nature, nurture or a combination of both.

OP you know what you'd be far better just owning your own opinions. If you feel that DCs are fussy because their parents or should we say mother let them be, when why don't you just say that and own it rather than wrap it up in faux modesty.

I'll give you a good boast - in the middle of tantrum over ipads and dinner time, DS1 told me he wasn't eating his fishfingers, or his chips, gathered the broccoli and cauliflower up into his hands and stormed off into the other room to eat it.

I had to work very hard to keep the smirk off my face I can tell you.

Wow, not even a stealthy steath boast, just a boast.

Issevesque - seriously?? - give no attention and she'll grow out of it?? How many fussy eaters have you known? How many have grown out of it due to the lack of attention given to it? Wow

My ds has SPD and will eat, or at least try, hardly anything. I don't think it's luck tbh

ooaarr

I know, I'm not even ashamed of it - I think it's hilarious (by family comedy standards of course).

I think there's some nature, some nurture, and just some luck in it all, it only takes someone to make a careless comment, or give them school cabbage and you can turn a kid off a food entirely.

Another odd question OP.

Are you OK?

That's it, DC are only getting raw onion and chilli flakes for dinner.