something must be wrong with me to still be chasing a guy mainly because his very good looking

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I feel like I'm some immature teenager.

Why am I still wasting time on guys that are rubbish just because they are very good looking?

Guy I'm wasting time on ATM probably knows nothing about me, probably hasn't even saved my number, doesn't have a good job etc.

Where as I have a good job, own my own house outright , think I'm a pretty good catch.

I'm mid 30s but im still wasting time on losers purely because of their looks and body. Is something wrong with me?

I've never fancied guys based on their looks. But then again I am a sucker for a bit of charm and confidence.

Is it because you only want physically attractive blokes, or only want to be seen with physically attractive blokes?

Neil I think its because I only want attractive guys.

I know with this current guy things will never really progress, still for some reason I'm still chasing. Kinda hate myself for chasing someone based on their looks. Despite them being not very interesting in most other aspects

No point hating yourself. Everyone has different priorities. It could be personality, wealth, status etc. Yours is appearance.

Could it also just be a sign that you don't really want to settle down now? In retrospect, I realised that I was interested in men I knew it wouldn't work with until I was in a place where I felt ready to get married and have kids. Then suddenly the good guys seemed attractive. Maybe you should just stop stressing and have some fun. :-)

Just to clarify, he's inappropriate because he is boring. Not because he is good looking. Good looking is great!

Thanks Jose, well I am just wanting to have fun with this guy. He keeps being pretty crap at contacting me and we only really meet up when he decides. Its stressing me out and I know no good can come from him, but keep sending embarrassing desperate messages.

Are you chasing a good looking guy or a guy who is a dick who happens to be good looking? Sometimes it is easier to go after something that is not going to work as you then do not have to deal with meeting someone who might be right.

This reminds me of a friend of mine; she constantly chases stunning guys with incredible bodies. Invariably, she eventually manages to bed them, but ends up heart-broken when they 'mess her around' (as she sees it), or don't want her for anything more than sex.

She seems unable to accept that she is, frankly, punching above her weight and, nine times out of ten, will only appeal to these guys as an easy shag. Hard to hear, but true. One day, she may accept this, and aim for someone/something more realistic. But on the other hand, she may continue this vicious circle for the rest of her life.

Nobody should just settle for someone they're not attracted to, but equally, we should all be realistic about what we've got to offer relative to other people.

Are you very insecure, not very confident yourself? Maybe you feel being 'seen' with someone like this guy might make you feel more confident.

Thom I don't think I'm that destructive, but I guess I could be.

Baby I'm like your friend in many ways, however I know these guys aren't really interested in me and probably don't even know my name. Yet still I keep chasing and can't seem to let go

Lady I'm not sure its that, pretty confident and don't parade these guys. Don't care massive ly what people think of me

I absolutely hate all this punching above your wieght crap. What a horrid thinh to say about yoyr friend.
Ive had absolute mingers mess me around ( I liked them for other reasons!). Some good looking guys are lovely but they get snapped up.
Ive been told I was punching above my wieght and I eas devastated. Inknew he liked me but he had a gf so he wasnt going to risk that for an easy shag. Stunning AAD decent. Gf was about the same as me with regards to attractiveness.
Tbh op as the object of your desire had no job id drop him. Why not find someone who is fit AND solvent? And decent!

Wow I don;t know. The only times I've chased men when I was younger was because at the time, I was feeling insecure in general. Often it was when change was occurring in my life...and I was insecure.

Are you insecure or unhappy about yourself? Your career?

Sorry typos

I don't think there's anything wrong at all with liking good looking guys. Why not? But they've got to have something else about them besides looks - kindness, honesty & loyalty being some main points.

There are goodlooking guys who have these essentials, a guy having mediocre looks doesn't mean his qualities will be any better, its down to character after all. It does seem as if you are chasing guys on their looks alone yet ignoring all else they should have about them; thats possibly a self-esteem issue for you...maybe you're over-gratefull for having goodlooking guys around so you make excuses for their poor behaviour. So - find a way to change your programme

Why not find someone who is fit AND solvent? And decent!

Easier said than done!!

I kind see what people mean about punching above, I probably am in the physical aspect as they are younger and I've got better things to do than gym for 5 hours everyday.

But in other aspects I'm way above them.

Well...... as long as you're not treating us blokes like some trinket or trophy to hang on to your arm and show off to your friends.

I take it that you do actually want these men to have all the other qualities?

Ha certainly not, the current one is quite ebarasing when he opens his mouth...

Sure I want the total package

Is it Joey Essex?

Sorry, you said quite embarrassing didn't you?
Not, "let the ground swallow me up now " embarrassing!!

looks are important though...

'I'm way above them'. What does that mean?

Women I know who chase idiot but good looking men tend to have mothers who were taken for granted/abused by their partners, or women who had crap dads, and who are emotionally immature. One woman I know who has particular form for it looks good on paper - she's very attractive, wealthy - but a bit dull, a bit thick, shallow...

Does any of that fit?!

Why not focus on finding one thing attractive, lovely eyes or nice smile a.d personality, and yes, job and security and take it from there?

Bit nasty that.
She's already said she's solvent with a good job and own house. Doesn't sound anything like that.