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A birthday one

26 replies

catgirl1976 · 25/09/2014 09:30

It's my birthday today.

DH and I agreed not to do presents as cash is tight at the moment. He got me a card, as did DS (2 years old). We had a nice morning before DH went off to college and DS to nursery. We get our birthday as a day off work, so I have a rare day off to myself. My mum phoned and she sent me a card and a voucher and I have had cards from friends. All lovely.

BUT...

DF texted me this morning. I assumed it would be "Happy Birthday". It wasn't. It was a text asking to borrow some money. No mention of my birthday.

Then about 20 minutes later, DSis texted. No mention of my birthday. Just a text about the enourmous poo her DS has done.

AIBU to be a bit fucked off with my family (DM excluded)?

It's not ruined my day and I am not having a pity party, it's just a bit Hmm

I see DSis several times a week and DF at least once and week and he lives with DM so it's not like we are not close or don't see each other or talk.

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MrsWinnibago · 25/09/2014 09:35

Your friend must be stressed about money and it's made her forget. Your sister...not sure...how old is her baby?

Original poster
catgirl1976 · 25/09/2014 09:39

Sorry, DF is my dad not my friend :(

DSis' baby is only 2 months old so I do forgive her :)

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MrsWinnibago · 25/09/2014 09:54

Well Happy Birthday anyway Flowers maybe your Dad has not a penny to buy a card but he should have said Happy Birthday.

Did you answer him?

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catgirl1976 · 25/09/2014 10:03

Thanks

I did

He remembered eventually and has now wished me a Happy Birthday :) Better late than never I guess!

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PrettyPictures92 · 25/09/2014 10:08

Happy birthday Flowers

DejaVuAllOverAgain · 25/09/2014 10:20

Happy Birthday Flowers

YANBU It's not the lack of card etc more that they've forgot.

LadyLuck10 · 25/09/2014 10:28

Yanbu, that's pretty bad of them. Happy birthday!!

Did your family make a big deal of birthdays when you were growing up? Is this something they usually do?

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catgirl1976 · 25/09/2014 11:06

They usually make a big deal

DSis I can understand. I didn't know what day it was when DS was 2 months old.

But my Dad was a bit upsetting. It wouldn't be so bad if he wasn't constantly borrowing off me which was stressing me out anyway. Just a "Happy Birthday" text would have done.

Thank you all for the Birthday wishes

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notagainffffffffs · 25/09/2014 11:10

Dont give him any more money. Not good for your relationship. Get to the shop and buy yourself a cake, stick a boxset on and eat yourself sick :)
Happy birthday :)

Groovee · 25/09/2014 11:31

Happy Birthday, sorry to hear your Dsis and Ddad forgot. It would upset me too x

vdbfamily · 25/09/2014 11:43

my dad would not have a clue when our birthdays were! My mum gave him a wedding anniversary card once and he said 'what's that in aid of?' Just a bit unfortunate he rang about something else as if he hadn't rung at all it might have been better!

babykonitsway · 25/09/2014 11:51

yanbu, id be pretty pissed at that. hope you didn't lend him the money!

BadLad · 25/09/2014 11:52

Then about 20 minutes later, DSis texted. No mention of my birthday. Just a text about the enourmous poo her DS has done.

That's not your birthday present, is it?

AlleyCat11 · 25/09/2014 11:55

That would piss me off. We are a small family that "do" birthdays. The presents don't matter anymore, it's the thought that counts. It's not a cliche for nothing!

Musicaltheatremum · 25/09/2014 13:25

I like celebrating my birthday. We're a small family so not many birthdays but as they are all July. 8,16,24,27 there's no chance of forgetting.
Flowers happy birthday to you

seasavage · 25/09/2014 13:43

Happy Birthday Cake

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 25/09/2014 14:19

It's rubbish but I'd let your sister off. What's the point in your parents giving you a gift and then asking for money from you?

SpringBreaker · 25/09/2014 14:39

If your parents live together, why would they not both sign a card and the voucher be from them both?

Ron99 · 25/09/2014 14:54

You share your birthday with my DS. Happy Birthday xxxxxxxx

Don't lend DF anymore money

HappyAgainOneDay · 25/09/2014 15:18

Happy birthday catgirl1976 I'll offer Flowers and a vase in which to put everyone's bouquets.

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catgirl1976 · 25/09/2014 16:34

Thank you all

I have had a very nice day with peace and queit, tea, cookies and films Thanks

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Harrietsferrets · 25/09/2014 17:09

Is mine as well, I got a card and something from my mum and bugger all else from anyone. Himself and the brats haven't even mentioned it. I thought something may have been said being as I am 40

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catgirl1976 · 25/09/2014 17:26

Oh Harriets :(

Happy Birthday from me at least Thanks

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bendybrickpumpkinpatch · 26/09/2014 12:18

Happy birthday Catgirl.
Hows things with you DH these days ? I see he's going to college now that's new ?

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catgirl1976 · 26/09/2014 13:58

Thanks Bendy

Yes - college is new! Things are a lot better.

He is working 2 days a week, at college 2 days a week (doing an Access course so he can do a degree and then go on to teach) and looking after DS one day a week. He's pulling his weight around the house a lot more and isn't drinking as much.

Not saying everything is perfect but we've made some big changes and things are a whole lot better

Couldn't have done it without the support of the lovely MN Thanks

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