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Mil woes and Dh on her side as usual

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Doubtfuldaphne · 24/09/2014 10:47

I've been to counselling with Dh regarding his inability to stand by me in family matters (his family come before anything else)
The sessions ended not long ago and I was hoping we'd be ok now.
Last night Dh tells me that mil wants dd (3) to stay at her house overnight without us.
I don't think it's a great idea because dd has never stayed anywhere without us and is a terrible sleeper (wetting herself, sleep walking, coming in to our bed) I said it would be too much for her as she's so young.
Dh couldn't understand this and said it would be good for her.
I stood my ground and said he needs to see my POV and he must explain to mil the reasons I don't think it's a good idea instead of just saying a blunt 'no, doubtful doesn't want her to go' as it makes me look a cow.
He has agreed to explain this to her but I still feel really pissed off about this.
Her other gc stayed alone with her since birth so there are a lot of comparisons to that, but as I said, everyone's different and what works for others doesn't work for us
I just have it in my head that he thinks i'm being awkward and will never bloody agree on anything and will always take his family's side.

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Thebodyloveschocolateandwine · 24/09/2014 16:02

I am a huge sider of mils on these threads as they do get a hard time.

My mil was absolutely super.

She was supportive of me as a parent do if I wasn't happy then she wouldn't ask.

That's the mil I am going to be.

She always said she had done her parenting her way so now it was my turn.

I luffed her so much.

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