to think the youngest sibling shouldn't get automatic priority?

[BabylonPoo]

DD is 2.5 and we also have other DC aged 7, 8, 9. I'm very much for taking turns and sharing but DH thinks DD should get priority as she's younger. For example - if DC are at the park and DD wants a turn on something the other DC are on, he'll tell them to get off immediately, whereas I'd tell DD she needs to wait her turn. Similarly, if DD demands a toy one of her siblings is playing with, DH will demand they hand it over to keep herhappy.

While I sort of understand his logic that the older DC don't mind (yet) and it keeps the peace, he doesn't see my point of view that this special treatment ultimately means DD will expect everyone to bow down to her demands, which isn't going to happen in the real world.

AIBU to think she shouldn't get priority?

I'm 6 years older than my brother and he was "difficult" while I was fairly easy going, which meant that he got to do what he wanted and I was left with any old shite. Trust me, it's annoying though I got my parents back by turning into demon-child teenager

What about this then? when I was younger we moved into the house my parents and my Dsis live in now. I bounce between there and DPs house as can't afford my own. She has always got EVERYTHING she's always wanted including the biggest bedroom. She has just got a kingsize bed. Wounded, its just for her and her friends yet I can't fit a small double in my box room. just to keep her happy. they're also getting her a pomeranian for christmas. I still live there and they always ask us want we want. I told them what I want and they said no but say yes to her because she's younger. does my nut in.

You are spot on OP and your DH is potentially creating a monster

My sister and her DH were exactly the same as your DH with their youngest. The 2 older DC - who are 3 and 4 years older than their sibling - had to hand over everything to the younger one if he wanted it, he always got his choice of game/tv programme, they went where he said...I'm sure you get the picture, and it didn't stop as they got older

Fast forward to now, the youngest is 22 and is very rude, lazy and has a serious "the world owes me a living and whatever I want will just be handed over" attitude

Stick to your guns

My mum used to do this to me and my little sister all the fucking time when we were kids. "Oh, but she's just a BABY!!", it made me want to strangle both of them, at times. I never got anything because "baby's" needs always went first.

I've got over it now (I'm in my forties), but there were a few incredibly rocky patches till I got in my mide twenties and moved away.

The older kids will start to resent her.

Agree with tinytear he needs to watch [http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=gInlXf92StA Grandpa pig at the Playground]] ep of Peppa!

Dammit this one