To let 12 yr old ds go to barber on his own?

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Just that really , ds friend wasn't allowed , his dad said it was 'bad parenting'

YANBU!

Just be prepared for a very bad haircut they have no idea on how to explain what they want at that stage. Ds takes dd (17) as his style consultant

I go, I dictate, I pay, I leave. God help the barber if he does not obey my instructions in my absence.

Oh he's already been , haircut is fine

Goodness, he's not going to the outback. Our local barbers is round the corner, I'd have no hesitation in sending DS on his own. Unless it's a treacherous journey and the barbers have previous for violent assaults against children then why on earth not?

Why bad parenting? I mean I can see that he might come back with a haircut you are not too keen on but that's a rite of passage surely?

Sorry should have said , was wondering about my dubious parenting skills

I send my 12 year old down on his own - to a very lovely woman no distance away who talks football with him. I can't see how it's bad parenting unless the barber is Sweeney Todd.

My ds 13 has been going to the local hairdressers on his own for about a year. Ichecked they were ok with this and they were quite happy. No bad hair cuts so far and he's fussy!
Ynbu

Hi bad parent here. DS went for his haircut by himself today.

It's his hair so as long as it is within school rules he can decide.

I take my 9 yo (oops now just 10) to the barbers, but let him get on with it! He has short, smart hair. As it is only 3 mins walk up our road, I can envisage sending him alone in a year or so.

YANBU!

I told my 11 and 13 year old DSs to meet up at the front of the school at the end of the day and take themselves to get their hair cut yesterday. No problems whatsoever, except that DS2 made me write on a piece of paper how his hair was to be cut. He took it out of his blazer pocket and presented it to the hairdresser apparently!

yanbu

Ds 4yrs insisted on going into the barbers by himself recently. I gave up in the end, gave him the money and hovered outside by the door. It was quite funny watching him discuss with the barber what haircut he wanted. The barber didn't let me down though and he came out with a great haircut and very pleased with himself.

Its a good idea. Why shouldnt a 12 year old be able to take himself off for a haircut? Presumably he knows where he is going, isnt going to misbehave, and has the money to pay for it?

Some people are just odd.

I have just had to virtually force my ds to do this and he is older than yours. I should have done it years ago

I must be horrendous then - my 12 and 9 yr old go on their own - perfectly capable of asking for what they want (and they've been going there for the last 2 yrs so the barber knows them anyway).

The eldest needs to go every 2 weeks as his hair grows so fast, no way can I be arsed to go with him that often (bad, bad parent!).

Assuming it's in the neighborhood, and your son is allowed to walk to school alone, or the corner shop, or friends houses, or to the park, why not the barber?

Where else does that guy think his son needs an adult to accomany him?

As long as you trust him to ask for a sensible haircut then no problem at all.

Mine has been going on his own to the turkish barber since he was ten, and before that I would drop him off outside and go for a coffee and he would come get me when he was done, if he got a stupid haircut (which he did, plenty times - zigzags shaved in, a mowhawk, the whole thing shaved apart from the fringe, the whole thing shaved apart from the back which he let grow for 7 months and pleated) it grows back, no big deal.

Mine does. The same guy has been cutting his hair for the last 8 years and knows what is nice and refuses to do anything stupid. He loves it.

Ds 4yrs insisted on going into the barbers by himself recently.

Really?????

Ds1 is 13 and has been doing this for years, he knows exactly how he wants his hair and my only input is providing the cash.

Ds12 gets the bus to town, goes to the barber, ensures he gets the chap he likes who does his hair just so, buys lunch, meets some mates, usually picks up some stuff for me and gets the bus back. .. This started about a year ago, apparently I "ruin it" if I go no bad haircuts yet tbh it does look better now than when I took him

At 12 my DD(1) contrived with the hairdresser to have her long hair looped a lot shorter than I'd have liked while I was in the shop supervising her younger sister getting hers done.

It grew back.

So long as he will keep within school rules, YANBU