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To think that on online dating you shouldn't...

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BadabingBadaboom · 23/09/2014 17:54

Have pictures of your children and certainly not pictures of your nieces/nephews.

Said this today at work and got shot to flames. AIBU?

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BadabingBadaboom · 23/09/2014 17:55

Oh and that you probably should describe yourself as a full time single parent when you actually have EOW access?

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BadabingBadaboom · 23/09/2014 17:56

Shouldn't*

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honeysucklejasmine · 23/09/2014 17:57

You should exaggerate and you shouldn't post pictures of children without permission of both parents of each child.

honeysucklejasmine · 23/09/2014 17:57

Shouldn't!

CatKisser · 23/09/2014 18:05

True!
You also shouldn't (if you're male) include pictures of you cuddling your most stunning female mate - or is it an ex girlfriend?
Dead off putting...

GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt · 23/09/2014 18:13

Your profile pics shouldn't consist solely of you and your friends on drunken nights out, or unsmiling webcam selfies.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 23/09/2014 18:16

Or standing next the car in which it has lovingly touched, that is annoying.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 23/09/2014 18:16

has been*

Latara · 23/09/2014 18:21

No pictures wearing sunglasses, cycling helmet or climbing gear - I can't see what you look like! Pointless!

GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt · 23/09/2014 18:24

Fishing pics are weird. How many photos of men holding carp do we need? And is it always the same fish? It looks like the same one. Maybe they pass it around. How would we know?

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 23/09/2014 18:26

Halloween pics too

SweetsForMySweet · 23/09/2014 18:27

From a safety point of view it is not a good idea to put pictures of your children up.
(I pressume that it was this part that you got the flaming for?) Whether they say full time single parent or not. Does it make a different how often you have/see the children, surely they come as a package deal either way?

SqueezyCheeseWeasel · 23/09/2014 18:32

sweets - Whether you are a dodgy type or not, surely you don't choose potential dates on the basis of what their kids look like?!

Pics of kids would be off putting to me on a dating profile, if I were on the lookout - and I say that as a parent and a very happy step parent. Yes, mention that you have children, in the blurb, but photos of them in the dating profile pics seems a bit full on to me.

mommy2ash · 23/09/2014 19:54

I just found out today that my cousin has my daughter in his profile picture on a dating website. im really angry about this. he is her godfather but stopped talking to me last year when his relationship with my friend ended. I did nothing but support him through it and he cut contact with both Me and my daughter, ignored her birthday and Christmas and lied that I said I was too busy to bring her to his daughters birthday. now he is using her image to make himself look good it makes me sick

Whiskwarrior · 23/09/2014 19:58

I think men include pics of them with their kids in a kind of 'hey, look how loving and caring I am' way.

Puts me off too.

Shockers · 23/09/2014 20:00

Report the image to the dating site and explain that it's your child, not his and he has no contact with her.

mommy2ash · 23/09/2014 20:05

I would love to but I couldn't find an option. It's a Facebook image of a photo i once tagged him in but he has unfriended Me does anyone know if there is a way I could get rid of it that end?

basgetti · 23/09/2014 20:09

Your profile pics shouldn't consist solely of you and your friends on drunken nights out

Yes! Especially when they don't specify which one of the group they actually are. Can be quite disappointing when you eventually see them.

RabbitSaysWoof · 23/09/2014 20:13

It's exploitation really to use a relationship with a child to demonstrate your caring side to potential dates.
I wouldn't do that with my child so I'd be blood furious if someone else did with them.

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BadabingBadaboom · 23/09/2014 21:16

Glad it's not just me who thinks so. I find it a very bizarre thing to do. Even more so that the child is in school uniform and although the name isn't there you can clearly see the logo. A bit of digging and I bet someone could figure out where the child goes to school

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Redtartanshoes · 23/09/2014 21:20

Yy to all of the above...plus pictures of your wedding day Shock

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BadabingBadaboom · 23/09/2014 21:23

No! Please tell me that didn't happen? Was the bride in it?

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Littlefluffyclouds81 · 23/09/2014 21:26

You also shouldn't use something like 'back on here again' as your headline. Or have a rant about how the site is full of ignorant females who don't reply to messages in your profile text.

Er, no mate, it's just that you're ugly.

LividofLondon · 23/09/2014 21:43

YANBU. Talking about those fish pictures, I once contacted a bloke whose profile pic was of him holding a massive carp and asked him why he was man-handling a fish. He replied "It's a long story".Confused I just thought, mate, it may have been a long day down by the river for you but I think the story is pretty straightforward...went fishing, caught fish, had picture taken holding it...the end.

Another thing I loathe are the pictures of men having dolphin experiences at places like Sea World. They say it's because they love dolphins, but if that was the case they really wouldn't be taking part in it. Confused Just shows how ignorant they are.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 23/09/2014 21:45

......and obviously the kind of prick who says a woman has gotta be a lesbian if she turns you down.

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