My friend was my boyfriend 25 years ago and we have remained friends ever since. I have never wanted to rekindle any sexual relationship. Since then he has been married and brought up 2 kids and is now living with a partner, though the relationship is over as far as he's concerned but they're buying the house together, so it's difficult to part. Meanwhile, he met someone in August who he thinks is the 'most wonderful woman ever' and they intend to get married. I see him once or twice a year - we live quite a distance away from each other. I was never allowed near either his marital home nor the current home. When I saw him I had to camp a mile from town while he would pretend to his partner that he was off on a job all day. I've met him twice in a town halfway between us. Last time was a couple of weeks ago. He'd had plenty of opportunity to tell his new girlfriend that he was meeting me, but chickened out. When I told him to tell her that evening where he'd been that day, he said he couldn't because he was scared he would lose her. (He had in fact altered the day we met in case she wanted to see him the following day, but she saw a male friend instead). I took a photo of him in a restaurant we ate in, and said I was going to post it on Facebook, which I did. He was worried about that, even though the new woman doesn't do Facebook. But I was absolutely fed up with the deception he'd been practising concerning me: the other women knew I was his ex, and had been his friend ever since, and they knew he wrote to me and texted me regularly. But phone calls and meeting were not allowed. (He usually sat in a car park at night to phone me). I decided this time I wasn't going to go along with this nonsense, so posted his picture on Facebook. Since then he has de-activated his Facebook account, though he denies that this is why he's done it.