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Should I have a word with neighbours?

42 replies

PilauMice · 19/09/2014 19:13

2 doors down are smoking weed in the garden, house is hot but have had to close windows because the smell came in. I am 27 weeks pg and have a toddler in the house.
Also should I mention that they keep us awake sitting in the garden chatting. When is a reasonable time to expect them to be quiet?

OP posts:
Patrickstarisabadbellend · 19/09/2014 19:16

Just call the police.

MrsCumbersnatch · 19/09/2014 19:25

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OddFodd · 19/09/2014 19:28

Chatting? People are allowed to sit in their garden chatting. If you want silent neighbours, move to the middle of nowhere. And fgs please don't call the police

ArabellaTarantella · 19/09/2014 19:34

I am 27 weeks pg and have a toddler in the house

And?

Idontseeanysontarans · 19/09/2014 19:39

If you want to say something maybe just mention that it smells quite strong to you (being pg everything smells weird and stronger doesn't it?) and would it be possible to move away a bit so it doesn't drift down to you as much?
I had to have a similar conversation when I was pg last time and they were mortified that I could even smell it Smile
The talking is something you'll just have to suck up I think though.

beavington · 19/09/2014 19:45

Yes definitely mention the chatting if you want them to think you are an idiot. Seriously it wont get you anywhere.

Meggymoodle · 19/09/2014 19:46

Actually I really feel for you with this, it's bloody annoying being kept awake by people. Also I wouldn't want my toddler breathing it in either. I wouldn't bother with the police but it definitely might be worth a polite "look do you mind..."conversation.

Not sure why everyone else is so stroppy about it on here.

OrangeFluff · 19/09/2014 19:47

YABU

PlushSuppie · 19/09/2014 19:48

11pm/ Midnight is when people need to be quiet. Before then tough.

pictish · 19/09/2014 19:54

Yabu, but there will soon be a stampede of people along to urge you to report them to the police, Environmental Health, Social Services, the DSS and just about anyone else you can think you might grass them up to.
Mn loves reporting people.

HeySoulSister · 19/09/2014 20:01

Weed isn't the same as tobacco.... One is legal the other isn't

Agree with everyone else with chatting/smell etc

MrsItsNoworNotatAll1 · 19/09/2014 20:13

I get it might be annoying but there is a lot worse things they could be doing to disturb you and making your life hell.

Dolallytats · 19/09/2014 20:14

I don't know if you can actually do anything, but I do sympathise. Weed smells disgusting and it is really strong.
There are some lads that sit on the wall a little way down the road to smoke it and it still drifts into my flat. My neighbour smokes it on his balcony and tries to keep to the side furthest away from mine, but it still smells really strong.

I close the windows and put an indoor fan on if it's hot, but really, if I'm honest, I wish they'd get lost and do it elsewhere.

PrettyPictures92 · 19/09/2014 21:05

Only a couple days ago everyone was jumping on another woman who's husband smoked weed outside cause it might be getting in her neighbours and causing them problems telling her how unreasonable it was etc, now they're telling you to suck it up Hmm

pictish · 19/09/2014 21:09

Probably a different set of posters pretty. The answers you get kinda depends on who replies.

SoddingCupcakes · 19/09/2014 21:12

PrettyPictures92

That was my thread.

Strange times.

PrettyPictures92 · 19/09/2014 21:15

Probably, and not that I agree with reporting immediately either. A quiet word about the smell seems like a good idea actually, I don't get why that would be unreasonable unless the neighbours were violent. Unfortunately I think asking them to stop chatting outside is unreasonable since I often chat outside when it's nice weather and I like sitting in the garden.

PrettyPictures92 · 19/09/2014 21:16

Yep, I remember it sodding. Lots of people became very indignant about it, double standards are annoying me tonight so I think I'll go have some wine and a Biscuit Grin

MajesticWhine · 19/09/2014 21:19

You could have a polite word about the smell. That would not be unreasonable. And if they are chatting all night, that is not on. But if it's just during the evening before 11pm, then, I think nothing you can do really.

LittleMilla · 19/09/2014 21:20

I live next door to students so something I have to deal with. said that if we're in garden or if windows are open to not smoke on patio as it wafts into kids' room. on noise, 11pm is my "can you pls shut up/go inside" point.

I live in a city though so it's just something I have to suck up really. I hate my neighbours but love my house & area.

last year's students were hell tbh and weed was my smallest worry. this lot are way more reasonable and want to be good neighbours thank god!

Smilesandpiles · 19/09/2014 21:21

Your hormones are making you a little irrational.

They are 2 doors down.

Hurr1cane · 19/09/2014 21:24

If you don't want to live near other humans, go live in the country. That's it really. There's one man on my street who complains about everyone, and no one likes him and his life is miserable. Unfortunately he lives next door to me.

I'm quiet and have lights out early but I have a child with autism who throws things over fences occasionally.

Next door are quiet but have yappy dogs.

Neighbours opposite have the occasional party.

Neighbours down the road are out chatting a lot.

Some others have wind chimes (sent my the devil)

We are all annoying in our own way. But only that one man complains.

And if he carries on I'm going to bang on the wall every time he has his TV on (on volume level 100) and let's his son park over my drive.

Hurr1cane · 19/09/2014 21:25

Also, the smell of weed knocks me sick, but so does the smell of meat and I can't moan about people cooking bacon in the morning.

WiseGuysHighRise · 19/09/2014 21:27

I'd be pissed off.

But is this a one off? A one off then I think I'd just mutter and grumble.

Idontseeanysontarans · 19/09/2014 21:29

Christ usually most posters come down on drug use like a ton of bricks!!whats up with people tonight, a little compassion towards a pregnant woman struggling with the smell of an illegal drug and quite possibly struggling to get a good nights sleep beyond everybody?