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AIBU?

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Should I have a word with neighbours?

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PilauMice · 19/09/2014 19:13

2 doors down are smoking weed in the garden, house is hot but have had to close windows because the smell came in. I am 27 weeks pg and have a toddler in the house.
Also should I mention that they keep us awake sitting in the garden chatting. When is a reasonable time to expect them to be quiet?

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AlPacinosHooHaa · 19/09/2014 21:32

be nice tell them you can smell it, and ask them to smoke further away from windows, say you dont mind them smoking it and you dont want to call the police.

Hurr1cane · 19/09/2014 21:34

Well, everyone could tell her to go and complain because she's hormonal and when she's not pregnant she'll have to suffer shit neighbour relationships, but that wouldn't be very helpful really.

trufflesnout · 19/09/2014 21:40

MN has weird double standards about weed. Usually most on here are very very anti-drugs because of the pain people suffer to manufacture drugs further up the chain, but weed seems to be fair game. Tis odd.

Penguinator · 19/09/2014 21:43

Agree with idontsee - I don't think YABU, OP - I'd be pissed off too, especially if it was a regular occurrence. Are they approachable types or do they seem aggressive? If it's any consolation, you'll soon get your own back when they have a screaming newborn to listen to

Hurr1cane · 19/09/2014 21:48

Maybe because it's not really that painful to grow a plant.

I hate it. But it isn't really the same.

Idontseeanysontarans · 19/09/2014 21:49

That's a point, you could go and wave your new baby under their window at 2am in revenge
Honestly, if they're nice enough stoned off their tits people just have a friendly word with emphasis on the pg/weed smell/makes you puke (even if it doesn't).

DramaQueenofHighCs · 19/09/2014 21:49

Urgh I feel for you OP - there was a teenager smoking weed in our local park the other day RIGHT NEXT TO THE KIDS PLAY AREA!! Luckily my DS was playing on climbing frame a little way away, but I was sat on a bench right near them! I politely shouted at asked them to please take their joints elsewhere as I didn't want my DS to suffer from the fumes. I spent the rest of the day feeling nauseous and now have raging tonsilitis - ok possibly the tonsilitis is not connected but the nausea was almost definitely caused by the weed as I had the same reaction to it while living in uni halls where my housemates smoked it. Next time (if there is one) I will be calling the police if they are near the play area again! (And possibly even if they are not!)

It's really not fair on you OP and I would def be having words - or pop a note through their door if you don't want the confrontation? (Though I know some on here find that rude but....)

trufflesnout · 19/09/2014 21:50

But surely that only applies if you grow your own supply Hurr1cane? Otherwise you have no idea how ethical your pot is.

Idontseeanysontarans · 19/09/2014 21:54

The last dealer I knew was so ethical he patched into the neighbours electrics so an elderly couple got stung with a bill running into thousands and due being an utterly selfish dick almost got the house and half the street torched by a rival dealer.
And he was considered to be a nice guy ..

Hurr1cane · 19/09/2014 22:01

I don't know. But I don't think a lot of things are ethical that other people do, so I just don't tend to think about any of it and just leave people to do what they think is right.

AmberLav · 19/09/2014 22:09

I had to have a word with my teenage neighbour, and he was really apologetic, and hadn't thought anyone could smell it! 2 years on and he hasn't smoked weed since! All his friends used to come round as the mum next door is very liberal, but one quick word stopped that... I'd try a polite word...

TheBloodManCometh · 19/09/2014 22:09

YANBU.
Weed is gross and chatting so loudly in your garden that you are keeping your neighbours awake after hours is antisocial.

trufflesnout · 19/09/2014 22:13

But I don't think a lot of things are ethical that other people do, so I just don't tend to think about any of it and just leave people to do what they think is right.

Fair enough, but this thing happens to be illegal to boot.

Hurr1cane · 19/09/2014 22:14

Some people tap into other people's electric to watch TV.

ChrissieLatham · 19/09/2014 22:15

Just get the cops to deal with it. It's illegal so why should you have to put up with the smell?

BobbyDazzler1 · 19/09/2014 22:17

I feel for you. People should be considerate of small children and keeping them awake at night and stinking the neighbourhood out is not considerate IMO. Not sure what you can do about it though. Perhaps it's just a one off - try to see if things continue long term before wading in x

OooOooTheMonkey · 19/09/2014 22:23

YANBU OP and I think you're getting a hard time on here. My downstairs neighbour smokes weed and sometimes the smell comes up and it is disgusting so I really do sympathise. I didn't do anything because I'm a wimp but if it's really bothering have a polite word about the weed. The chatting unless it's shouting and swearing I don't suppose there's much you can do unfortunately. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy hope you manage to get some peace and quiet!

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