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To not understand why you would be proud of posting this video online?

68 replies

Trollinthedungeon · 19/09/2014 14:04

2 year old telling her Mum off

It's obvious that the 2 year old is copying what she has herself heard; where else would a 2 year old learn 'That man will take you away?' Etc.

I don't understand why parents are proud of these videos, I think that they need to listen and reflect on themselves.

She is a very sweet girl but she shouldn't be repeating things like that at 2 years old.

AIBU?

OP posts:
LiverpoolLou · 19/09/2014 19:17

The thing that struck me was that this was in response to her mum laughing at her when she tried to sing, all dressed up like a princess. That broke my heart. It was important to her and they laughed at her :(

FurryDogMother · 19/09/2014 19:22

Nancy66 I was about to say that exact same thing!

MrsCakesPrecognition · 19/09/2014 19:23

I think it is hugely unfair for adults to laugh uproariously at small children who are clearly taking something very seriously and then getting frustrated and upset. It is hugely disrespectful of them.
Laugh with your children, but only laugh at them once they have gone to sleep.

Cocolepew · 19/09/2014 19:23

I stopped watching after she hit her mum and the mum was laughing hysterically.

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 19/09/2014 19:26

Liverpool that was the thing that upset me most. TBH I wouldn't be giving the child a hard time for speaking disrespectfully to me if I'd just myself been laughing hysterically at them every time they tried to speak.

Thebodyloveschocolateandwine · 19/09/2014 20:11

My cats gets more respect than they are showing this littie girl. Hell they get more parenting and love.

Utterly dreadful idiots who have no idea how to parent.

Very very sad.

MrsWhiskersonTheFirst · 19/09/2014 20:36

I've seen this shared a few times and I couldn't understand why people thought it was so funny. I agree that it's sad to laugh at her when she's singing. I also don't like that she hit her mum and no one said anything!

LorraineSE22 · 19/09/2014 20:37

I can't even watch that video because it's filmed vertically. Why can't people just turn the camera sideways to avoid the black void either side of the upright video, it's not rocket science Shock

micah · 19/09/2014 20:42

It's this whole "she's 4 going on 14" mentality- thinking it's funny when children talk back or act like mini adults "ooh she's so grown up".

I've lost count of the amount of times people have said an under 6 is showing "teenage attitude", when they're a 6 year old having a strop.

That and the whole girls are bitchy, she's a little bitch type comments I've heard about very tiny children. Well show them the appropriate behaviour then, instead of laughing and calling her a little bitch because she's bossing a couple of friends about.

It's anthropomorphism of a kind really, attributing adult politics and thinking to small children.

Bulbasaur · 19/09/2014 20:47

Obviously you shouldn't be encouraging this behavior. But after they have gone to bed, it is pretty funny to see a small child mirroring exactly what they see. I thought it was funny watching my baby cousin put her doll in time out with the exact verbiage and tone her mother used.

At that age, they're parroting without really understanding what it means or why a small child doesn't use that voice tone with an adult. They're still very new at communicating, and are seeing what works and what doesn't. Which is why you as the parent need to teach them respect appropriate ways to talk.

Anyway, laughing at an upset child is only going to breed resentment that they're not taken seriously.

The parents are really making their own bed with this one if this is how they typically act.

PeppermintInfusion · 19/09/2014 20:58

Username, I think she says "I'm going to bust you in a minute" but sane thing as punch really.

As I'm in NI I've seen this shared a lot, it just makes me so Sad at how they must speak to and treat the child. it just isn't funny either!

poolomoomon · 19/09/2014 20:58

Oh that's awful.

The two worst things about it are that they were laughing at her singing and trying to perform for them. And also the fact the dad was spurring her on to say stuff. He basically told her to say the "get sent to your room" bit. Sad almost like it was scripted and rehearsed really like some of the YBF videos were, so obviously fake.

Although to posters saying it's all learned from the parents, not strictly true. My middle DD (3) has a huge imagination, she often comes out with things that I wonder where on earth she's got it from such as lions coming to eat her, bears outside the window watching her (I suspect the bear is from we're going on a bear hunt mind...) etc. Nobody has ever told her lions would come and eat her FFS! That's her own weird and wonderful imagination as it could well be in this case... But I'm not sure. The way the dad is prompting her makes it look really set up.

poolomoomon · 19/09/2014 21:00

Oh and also annoying that the mum apologised to the little girl and didn't tell her off for hitting Shock. Little girl hits parent, parent says sorry?

poolomoomon · 19/09/2014 21:00

Oh and also annoying that the mum apologised to the little girl and didn't tell her off for hitting Shock. Little girl hits parent, parent says sorry?

Shockers · 19/09/2014 21:12

Mum can't win here. She's being disrespectful by laughing, but is criticised for saying sorry!

Maybe someone from NI will explain the choke thing, but I didn't take it as her threatening to choke her mother, Homer Simpson style.

Maverick66 · 19/09/2014 22:04

Well, judgy pants are definitely on tonight.

The child actually says " mummy, you are going to choke if you keep laughing, mummy, you are going to hurt yourself, do you want that?"

Have none of your children done something similar?
Surely naughty step etc were parenting tools greatly promoted by Jo Frost and other such parenting "gurus"

The child is not repeating her parents verbatim, but rather, repeating bits of what she has heard.

Who's to say another child has not threatened to punch her? I have met such children when I took my children to public parks and various play areas.these words may never have been uttered by her parents.

Finally, have none of you ever had such an uncontrollable fit of laughing that even though you know it's wrong you just can't help yourself?

When ds was 4years old and a very placid child I asked him to tidy his toys away before bed, he refused, I asked him again and this time he (totally of of character) slammed the door catching his finger in the hinge resulting in him needing stitches and lucky not to lost tip of his finger! He had never witnessed "door slamming type behaviour in the home, so where did this behaviour come from? It certainly wasn't learned behaviour!

Parenting is a long journey! Trust me my dc are 25, 22 and 16.
It is sooo easy to judge when we don't know full facts!

thereturnofshoesy · 19/09/2014 22:06

don't get the op
you are moaning about a video being shared......and you share it.
WTF

treaclesoda · 19/09/2014 22:22

her parents say that the reason they recorded it and posted it on the internet was because it was out of character and didn't reflect what she was hearing at home, which is why they found it so funny. here

I've no idea obviously, don't know if that is true or not, but I thought it was only fair to hear their side of it.

Maverick66 · 19/09/2014 22:31

Treacle soda - the voice of reason :)

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 19/09/2014 22:41

The parents found it funny so they've posted it on the internet for posterity. It's in the public domain and the children involved will grow up one day. Imagine... that coming back to haunt you.

Yes, many if not all of us have laughed when we shouldn't have, or not disciplined when we should have but how many of us had a camcorder handy to film it all?

This isn't about the children who have no say in the matter, it has everything to do with the parents and their need for validation/approbation/whatever. It's sad. I don't think there's any excuse for it and quite frankly, I don't care what their 'side' is. They should be protecting their child from intrusion, not promoting it.

Nerf · 19/09/2014 22:58

The Linda one is horrible with all the talk of kerpow pow on his bun and how she shouldn't smack the little brother.

Szeli · 20/09/2014 01:59

linda listen was on ellen and she bought him 67649875 cupcakes...

NameChangerNewDanger · 20/09/2014 02:27

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MyBaby1day · 20/09/2014 05:42

No YANBU, I don't find her behaviour (speaking to adults like that acceptable), although why they were laughing God alone knows!. Nothing remotely funny was happening. Their kid is badly behaved.....something I would try and hide!.

MyBaby1day · 20/09/2014 05:44

that). Their kid is badly behaved.....something I would try and hide-not advertise it!. Stupid!.