..wanting to kill husband for 'accidentally' taking my car keys

[AngryAngryWife]

Went to leave for work this morning, and couldn't find my keys. Searched everywhere in a mad panic only go realise they were not here. Text husband querying whether he's seen my keys and he picked up my keys as well as his own this morning. It was a 'mistake'.

Beyond annoyed. Needed to drop 1 year old son at childminders and I also give work colleague a lift. Had to call colleague saying I couldn't take them in today, advise childminder we were going to be late, call in late to work (I work in a call centre so that was fun), and am now waiting for my man-child of a husband to return on the train with my keys.

All he has to do in the morning is get himself ready and dressed in the clothes I've ironed/had dry cleaned for him. I get up an hour earlier, get myself ready, sort my son out, take him to the child minders and then get myself to work. I'm also responsible for picking my son up and sorting him out before bed, as my husband is never home before 8.

AIBU to be furious at his 'mistake'. If he had taken even the smallest bit of care and attention this could have been avoided.

ladyluck - just found DH's work keys in my handbag, which is no issue as he is overseas, but just is my own forgetfulness tbh too

And, even when I was a SAHM, I never ironed his shirts, or trousers for that matter

Yeah, working hard for the family till 8pm, if it were to cause OP to get sacked - is a false economy, really.

Bland - have you never ever made a mistake?

I am sat here with DH's work keys in my bag, which is a mistake.

Yep - I said above that I've taken DH's keys by mistake, but it's fair to say that had I checked my bag before picking up the keys on the side, it wouldn't have happened, DH was cross with me and I was cross with myself.

I am mostly objecting to the "well, he works hard so cut him some slack" when OP also works hard and might lose her job over something like this.

OP, was he cross with himself?

I don't tend to make basic mistakes like these because I plan and organise.

Not so organised that you have the spare car key where it would be of most use. That was a basic mistake.

bland - fair point, which I accept. I do cut DH a bit of slack as, although I do work, it's not as many hours or in as demanding a role as DH, so I was projecting

I would be cross with myself if having DH's keys had caused an issue, but honestly, DH wouldn't have been cross with me, more the situation. Shit happens

OP - how about have a chat with your DH about the morning routine, explaining it really helps YOU if he can be a touch more organised, sort himself out a bit more and help with DS?

I am able to ignore my own DH and leave him to his own little whirlwind, but I know it's not for everyone.

My husband accidentally locked me and the kids in for the day once. Fortunately they were preschoolers and I was a SAHM. It was a really horrible feeling though.

It is a measure of my wrath that he has never done it since.

Lateness is a sackable offence.

Let them try it and lose you. Any sensible business won't sack someone because they're late, they are trying it on.

Sure if it happened regularly for weeks due to laziness but not a one off. I think you need to stand up to your employers if they are terrorising you like this.

He was cross with himself, mainly because he didn't get into work until 10.30 himself. Prior to reading MN I probably would have tried to sort it out myself this morning, cabs, trains etc. But I wanted him to come back with the keys, and help sort it out - making himself late, so that he would understand the impact of his carelessness and be more likely to check in future.

You probably did the right thing.

My dh did this a couple of times - I bought a couple of key chains with lots of sparkly stuff on, and attached my keys to them, and it hasn't happened again.

It is bloomin' annoying, though. I did make him come all the way back from London to Southend, once, to give them back to me, because I needed to take the cat to the vet.

Yes I agree glad he delivered the keys back.

Good, hopefully the inconvenience will prompt him to check. Do talk to him about the mornings though.

Annoying - and hope he won't do that again - but don't you ever make mistakes?