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Original poster

to send dd to school with a cold. urgent please

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LEMmingaround · 19/09/2014 07:47

She desperately wants to go. Despite the streaming nose. Slightly raised temperature and sneeze sneeze sneeze.

Normally this is a no brainer. Id send her to school.

The problem i have is that my friend's dc isin the same class and my friend is quite seriously immuno-compromised at the moment. Has only come out of hospital last week when she had septicaemia :(

I genuinely don't know what to do. Dd was crying last night when i suggested no school. I just don't feel i can send her knowing she will have close contact with my friends dc.

Wwyd??

If my friend got sick and further complications id never forgive myself but realistically, dd will have picked up the cold from school. May well have already been infectious yesterday and other kids may have it (or other infections). Its just that i KNOW my child is unwell and i KNOW how poorly my friend is.

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MrsPnut · 19/09/2014 07:50

I'd contact your friend and give her a heads up and then send DD to school.
Your friend may decide to keep her son home, but she can make that decision.

There are other kids in the class that could also be ill, and you can't control that.

MrsWinnibago · 19/09/2014 07:50

Why are you even asking? Of course you can't send her!

MrsWinnibago · 19/09/2014 07:50

Whatpnut so the OP's DD gets to go to school...sick...and the friend can keep her child off? wtf?

Funkytown · 19/09/2014 07:52

Tbh although your thinking of your friend many other parents won't be and send their children to school no matter what , it's quiet likely that her child will get some kind of illness due to school even if it isn't from your dd

HeySoulSister · 19/09/2014 07:52

mrspnut makes a good point!

Others with the sniffles will be in school spreading germs too. It's just a common cold

nomdemere · 19/09/2014 07:52

Ring school and ask. They should have a policy on what to do about this. I agree that you should also ring your friend and tell her.

I don't think children should be sent to school with infectious diseases like chicken pox etc. but at any moment in time there is a child in the class with a spluttering cold. I am sending my Y2 and Y1 DC to school with colds and a dose of Calpol this morning. But keeping my nursery DC home.

Eva50 · 19/09/2014 07:53

I think, as she has a raised temperature, she should stay home today. I would not normally keep a child home with a simple cold but this sounds quite nasty.

AnotherStitchInTime · 19/09/2014 07:53

Speak to your friend, if their dc is that immuno compromised at the moment she may not send them in. I doubt your dd is the only one with a cold in the class and most parents will send their children in with a cold. Teachers will be at work with a cold. It is easier for your friend to make alternative tuition arrangements with the LA and school if her dc is that ill than everyone else with a cold to stay at home.

PumpkinsMummy · 19/09/2014 07:53

I would keep her home but also contact your friend to say DD has got this from school and give her the heads up. I definitely wouldn't send her in though.

LadySybilLikesCake · 19/09/2014 07:54

Sorry, but why on Earth is the other child's mother sending her into school a week after she's been in hospital with septicaemia ?

I'd call the school and ask, maybe your DD can go and sit with a different class. It's only a cold.

Bardette · 19/09/2014 07:54

There are at least 4 kids in my son's class with colds at the minute. Your dd probably won't be the only one today and definitely won't be the only one over the next few weeks. Your friend's son can't avoid germs at school.
I'd send her in.

42notTrendy · 19/09/2014 07:54

Send her. School will know how to handle situation and will have taken advice from other child's parents. How considerate of you though

Loula117 · 19/09/2014 07:56

I think the same as Mrd Pnut - let your friend know, and she can make the decision regarding her child. As you say, school is no doubt where she picked up the cold in the first place, if the friend is still immune-suppressed he maybe shouldn't be back yet. Of course you are lovely and thoughtful to think of this lad's health but I'm not sure your dd should be missing school if she wouldn't normally. Obviously for non essential things like meeting up for coffee/play you would of course cancel so as not to pass on germs but school is different.

Eva50 · 19/09/2014 07:57

Sorry, but why on Earth is the other child's mother sending her into school a week after she's been in hospital with septicaemia ?

It is not the child that is unwell, it is the mother.

Ron99 · 19/09/2014 07:57

She is unwell keep her home.

Loula117 · 19/09/2014 07:59

Mind you I would probably keep a child with a temperature home. Or be prepared for them to come back again. Just sneezes etc I would send in.

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LEMmingaround · 19/09/2014 07:59

I would speak to my friend and ask. That is a fair suggestion. But she has a hospital appointment today (for chemo ) so for her to keep her dc home would be difficult.

Like others say my dd isn't the only child who will be poorly in school and im normally of the opinion to send to school especially as she wants to go (so can't feel that bad). So if i didn't know about my friend id send her. But i do know iyswim.

Still can't decide.

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Magpiemystery · 19/09/2014 08:01

Unbelievably you know she's unwell but you want to send her in!
V selfish behaviour not just for your friends dd but all the others in the class.
It's bit just the sniffles either she has a temperature

LIZS · 19/09/2014 08:01

Surely schools are by definition hotbeds of bugs and viruses, so your df is already taking the risk. If he is vulnerable he isn't ready to be back at school. You could keep your dd off but others will be there with a cold or incubating worse.

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LEMmingaround · 19/09/2014 08:01

Its my friend who is poorly not her dc

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nomdemere · 19/09/2014 08:02

Oh! Your friend is the poorly one. I think, send your DD, but ring your friend and give her a heads up.

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LEMmingaround · 19/09/2014 08:02

Grrrr - thread isn't helping. I was hoping for unanimous

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AnotherStitchInTime · 19/09/2014 08:03

Ah I see, could you look after her dc for a few days until the current cold has past? Doesn't solve the problem long term though, we are only just entering cold and flu season.

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LEMmingaround · 19/09/2014 08:04

Temp is only 37.6 so really only very slightly raised. Dd usually 36.9/37

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Thebodyloveschocolateandwine · 19/09/2014 08:07

I wouldn't dream if sending my child anywhere with a temperature.

The whole point if a temp is to warn you of signs of infection and that your body is fighting a battle with germs.

It's telling you to rest.

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