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to be offended that my husband has hidden me on facebook?..

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Nanc123 · 16/09/2014 23:14

apparently im too political (I dont post every day) he casually mentioned it as if i have no right to be offended .... and as i only hide people i never see or irritate me i am offended .....would you be?

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Nanc123 · 16/09/2014 23:38

maybe the bigger question is that he is not caring that i am upset that he hic me rather than the actual hiding....

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WorraLiberty · 16/09/2014 23:38

If my DH had FB and he posted about Chelsea FC (he's passionate about his football), I would probably hide him from my News feed too.

It's really not a big deal.

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Nanc123 · 16/09/2014 23:40

thanks red yes he ix going to miss any pics of kids or my hilariously funny posts too

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WorraLiberty · 16/09/2014 23:40

Perhaps he thinks it's a silly thing to get upset about?

Let's face it, it is quite trivial (though fair enough you can't help feeling how you feel), but really it's just a news feed on an internet site.

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Nanc123 · 16/09/2014 23:41

thanks worra maybe not a big deal but he could be abit nicer about it Angry

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WorraLiberty · 16/09/2014 23:41

thanks red yes he ix going to miss any pics of kids or my hilariously funny posts too

No he's not.

He can click on your timeline any time he wants to see them.

MrsGoslingWannabe · 16/09/2014 23:43

Can people tell if you hide their posts? Blush

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Nanc123 · 16/09/2014 23:44

he told me when i asked him about something im sure you cant tell if people hide you

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Nanc123 · 16/09/2014 23:45

he has also defriended one of my best friends which was fun when she found out...

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steff13 · 16/09/2014 23:50

MrsGosling people can't tell if you've hidden their posts, if you block them completely they just won't see you anymore.

I go on FB for fun, to catch up with friends, see pics of their kids, etc. I hide posts from people who post too much political stuff (even if I agree with it), too much drama, etc. This time of year, I also hide football posts.

I guess I understand why your feelings are hurt, but I think it's not really a big deal.

newrecruit · 16/09/2014 23:53

My DH tends to only post things about cars or F1 which his friends then comment on.

I have no interest whatsoever.

Do you post a lot of inspirational quotes pasted over footprints in the sand?

ChasedByBees · 16/09/2014 23:54

It would be really weird not to be FB friends with your other half if both people are on there Nancy.

a) as someone said, if you have something related to both of you, you can tag them and then their family/friends see it.
b) not everyone posts about what they had for dinner. Hmm Some people use it for debate or to share interesting things they've read. If you're not interested in things your partner finds interesting then there's a problem.
c) just why wouldn't you be their friend? The whole point of FB is to chat and share stuff. How weird to want to do that (and being on FB implies you do) with everyone but your partner.

nancy75 · 17/09/2014 00:00

I'm not on facebook but find it odd that there is some idea that if I wasn't dp's face book friend i wouldn't really love him or it makes me not interested in things he finds interesting.

If Dp finds something interesting or reads something good or goes somewhere that he has enjoyed we do this crazy thing called talking to each other in person!

Bambambini · 17/09/2014 00:02

I deleted my husband. We didn't divorce over it.

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Nanc123 · 17/09/2014 00:07

i hide people that post inspirational quotes over footprints in the sand new! I think that a picture of Osbourne on a front page witn the words 'Cuts cuts Cuts ' with the phrase 'who would have thunk it Independant has a spelling error on the front page' might have turned him he doesnt like me swearing either!,!

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ShelaghTurner · 17/09/2014 00:07

DH has started his own business this month and he is constantly blathering on about that so I've hidden him :)

WorraLiberty · 17/09/2014 00:24

I'm not on facebook but find it odd that there is some idea that if I wasn't dp's face book friend i wouldn't really love him or it makes me not interested in things he finds interesting.

God yeah, that really would be odd if anyone had implied that...

WorraLiberty · 17/09/2014 00:26

i hide people that post inspirational quotes over footprints in the sand new!

And how would you feel if they came to you all upset about it?

Wouldn't you think it was rather odd, with a touch of emotional blackmail thrown in?

Seriously, he hasn't blocked you, unfriended you or divorced you Grin

He's just tailoring his news feed to his personal preference.

Bambambini · 17/09/2014 00:34

"c) just why wouldn't you be their friend? The whole point of FB is to chat and share stuff. How weird to want to do that (and being on FB implies you do) with everyone but your partner."

Actually, I like my space without him seeing what I'm posting with my friends. FB for me is about my friends and family that I don't get to see often - I see my husband often. We sometimes come across each other if we are commenting on a mutual friends post but we just pretend we don't know each other.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 17/09/2014 00:37

OP... You're upset because he defriended one of YOUR friends? Is he not free to manage his account as he wants to? I would hide political posters because I would find them annoying. Also the ones who urge everybody to 'like' everything currently in the public eye.

I get the feeling that you perceive FB as some kind of further demonstration of 'togetherness', that you can let people know that you.are.together. Presumably he's linked to you, ie. has indicated that he's married to you?

I'm really puzzled as to why this bothers you but it could be because I'm not very cognisant of FB so I possibly don't get the 'meaning' of it. Why does this bother you, really? What's the overwhelming reason for your upset?

Redglitter · 17/09/2014 00:56

I've hidden a shit load of friends recently because I'm sick to the back teeth of their independence posts

  • one person posted 27 links in one day!! I still like them were still friends i just don't want to see all their posts. It's nothing personal
Pobblewhohasnotoes · 17/09/2014 01:43

I get bored of political postings. I have one fb friend who rants on about the government all day, I've considered deleting him as it clogs up my news feed.

Nancy I'm friends on fb with my DH and I can assure you we still talk to each other.

Bulbasaur · 17/09/2014 02:45

I have a friend that posts political crap. I keep meaning to hide him, but I forget to among all the baby photos, cute cats, funny pictures and so on. Until he posts again.

AdmitYouKnowImRight · 17/09/2014 02:52

I hide everyone that bored me too. Fluffy kitten pictures, endless 'post cards', politics. I don't have DH on FB as his endless sports drivel would annoy me and my endless game play would annoy him. Besides I live with him, I don't need to share cyber space with him. I'm not that needy

TanteRose · 17/09/2014 02:56

"I live with him, I don't need to share cyber space with him. I'm not that needy"

^^ this!

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