To request advice on periods for my fiancee

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(I am male and a long time reader of these wonderful boards. I previously posted under the name "Milkybar28" for advice regarding my engagement - but now can't remember the login details!)

My fiancee and I are marrying in the middle of next month. Her period has just arrived a week early and thus will probably do the same next month (so I'm told), meaning she will be starting her period in the days before the wedding.

She is intensely worried about bleeding onto her dress and her already high stress levels are now through the roof so I'm asking for advice on delaying periods. She is not on the pill so merging packets is not an option.

We have done some research and Noristhisterone seems to be a solution (we know it's not a contraceptive).

Can anyone advise whether this is a reliable one off solution? And if so any potential side effects?
If not does anyone have any alternative suggestions- would a Mooncup be of any use?

Thankyou in advance for potentially saving my soon-to-be Wife's sanity!

Why doesn't she post about it?

I do believe there is something she can take I know people p l e w/o have taken it. Probably best to speak to her gp. SIMPLES!

Erm...she wears clothes presumably through every other period so just do the same as she has been doing since her periods started.

Or are you more worried about the after wedding shagathon?

Ahh I can understand her worrying, do you know if she's wearing a tight, fitted skirt or is it a 'big' dress?

If she has a roomier skirt there are loads of things she can do to help, mooncup or tampon with extra large sanitary towels lining her underwear, wear another pair of pants on top etc.

It would do no harm to ask a pharmacist or your GP for advice if she wants a way to try to delay it.

Congratulations! I'm sure it will be fine

Noristhisterone is great I took it last month bunt I found within 30/45 of taking it I MUST eat my stomach would start to grumble very very loudly and if I forgot to take them I would start to get stomach ache, which reminded me but I have taken the tablets quite a few times and first time this has happened.

Pretty much after 3 days of not taking them her periods will return - so may be worth having some for the honeymoon (if your having one)

If take more then 2/3 weeks I can also feel slightly more hormonal too not sure if it's the tablets though

Mooncups are brilliant. BUT a mooncup wouldn't work in the day in my experience with them as basically you have to go to the loo halfway through the day, lift your wedding dress up, pull it out with your fingers (so your fingers do get blood on them) and tilt the contents out into the pan. Then you have to re-insert.

In other words, if she's gonna get blood on her dress, it'll most likely be during that palaver. I never had any problems with leakage onto clothes, but I'm always wearing jeans which were around my ankles, not a big meringue!

I would recommend Always Ultra Nights. They're the biggest pads on the market whilst still being thin and fairly comfortable. They have wings and stretch halfway up your bum towards your back. Nothing gets through them. When I had a lot of period problems and was haemorraging a lot during the day, they were the only thing that would spare my nerves.

Maybe she wouldn't want to worry about it though, if she has a big dress maybe someone would need to help her go to the toilet and maybe she doesn't want to change her tampon in front of them?!

I take it when I'm on holiday/can't be bothered to "deal" with periods/when I know I'm in the middle of no where and working etc

I suffer from incredibly heavy periods and no way would I fancy being stood up in a white wedding dress at that point so yes I can understand the worry the best thing I can advise is that she discusses it with her gp and see what they recommend.

I used Northisterone to fend off my periods during my A Level exams. I was concerned that writhing on the floor in agony and extreme exhaustion would not assist my performance at writing essays.

Maybe the OP's fiancee isn't on MN, or maybe she doesn't speak English?

To be fair, I do think she could probably get better advice from her GP than on here. I'd imagine the doctor might suggest starting the pill so she can merge two packets as you say.

I totally get where you/she are coming from - I don't usually leak on my clothes, but then again, I don't usually wear a white dress and sods law can apply to weddings as much as any other area of life.

As it happens, I have a similar dilemma, but not entirely sure what I am going to do about it myself!

I used northeisterone to delay my period for exactly the same reason and it worked fine, she just needs a prescription from the docs and needs to remember to take it 3 times a day.... sorted :)

It can make her period longer and more painful after so just something to bare in mind if going on honeymoon straight away

To answer:

No she doesn't usually "bleed on her clothes" and she uses Tampons normally. However she's wearing a close fitting dress on the day, in ivory and is obviously hyper-concerned.

My fiancee is not posting because she's not a member

No we're not concerned about the honeymoon - both perfectly happy to carry on as normal during her period.

Thankyou AllthatGlistens, Sleepy, Annarose & others for your useful advice which I'll pass on.

She has already booked an appointment with the GP but I thought some real world advice might be of use regarding people's experiences of Northeisterone. Did it cause any mood swings or excess sweating - 2 things she's concerned about?

Mooncup - really would depend on how heavy her flow is, they're great but take some getting used to.
Night-time pads same as above
Noresthisterone - whenever I've taken it, I've gone up two dress sizes within days through the bloating, had terrible indigestion, and suffered insomnia. Then once I've stopped taking it, I get the period from hell. That wouldn't be much fun on honeymoon.

(I've not really helped have I?)

Abigamarone - Au contraire! Best to have honest advice and the last thing I'd imagine she'll want is to feel bloated with indigestion.

This might be a stupid question - I am a man - but if she got a prescription from the GP and took it either midway through her current period or after it's ended, would the side effects still be the same? Thinking of it as a sort of test-run.

I'd probably take the minipill, as it gives me very light or no periods.

Taking large dosages of ibuprofen before the bleed starts may also help reduce the flow quite a lot, but only if she doesn't have (and never had) stomach problems).

www.boots.com/en/Softcup-12-Hour-Period-Protection-8-Pack_1279144/

These are actually more effective ime (less sustainable as they are disposable) than a mooncup and are also ok during sex. They are not great for very heavy periods but you've not said if that's an issue (can always combine with pad if necessary).

Also pointing out that I was on the ring thread (half way through a slight name change). Where's the invite?

From what others have said they don't suffer the same side effects as me. I've taken it for a few months and again for a much shorter length of time, both occasions it's left me fatter and I have been more irritable. On the plus side my hair grew much faster and thicker.

I didnt have mood swings - just if I took it to long I felt slightly more tearful/angry but couldn't work out of it was the tablets or just me in general being like that! Haha

I never got bloating - it all depends I guess but you take it 3 days before period is due, and then as soon as you stop it period arrives 3 days later pretty much so she could stop taking a day before the wedding too

I wouldn't start using a Mooncup if she's never used one before. It takes a while to get the hang of them, and you don't want to be grappling with a bloody (pun intended) Mooncup in a wedding dress.