Aibu re smoking under our bedroom window

[londonrach]

This weekend new lady moved in to our block. Shes taken to smoking under our bedroom window. Our bedroom is on 1st floor overlooking the entrance door. The smell is awful. We usually have our windows open. Ive had to close them today but still the smell creeps in. Old ash tray smell that gets into you. It just makes you gag. My clean bedding smells awful now. I used the last of my blue lenor as well. Today i had to phone up the managing agent as shes a chain smoker. The butts under our window are now a considerable pile but that doesnt bother me. Its the smell. Is there anything else i can do until the managing agent writes letter to everyone reminding people they need to smoke away from the building. (Trying not to be sick due horrible smell).

Hmm, as you're over the entrance door my normal suggestion of putting a pot plant on the window sill and making sure it's dripping water won't really work, will it?!

Don't know if you've already done this but could you explain situation to smoking lady and ask if she could smoke elsewhere, without sounding like you're having a go. Yanbu at all but unfortunately I don't think there's a law against what she's doing, I think the best way is to try to stay friendly and maintain good neighbourly relations yet put your point across and appeal to her better nature . If it was me I'd definitely go and smoke somewhere else for you

No window ledge. Have tried the closing the window loudly with a loud comment it smells. Really dont mind if she smokes just not where that smelll gets into the building. Am laying in bed thinking of signs to type and put out at moment, sone nice sine rude... (Passing the time...)

Thanks sunshine. You a lovely person. Dont mind the smoking bit. Its the smell. Its just makes you feel dirty.

Definitely talk to the lady first, in a polite way. She may be really lovely and not realise you've got your windows open and hate the smell. Smokers never realise how much cigarette smoke stinks.

Honestly try and talk to her before notes/letting agent etc. would love to be assertive enough to take own advice

Really? You tried closing the window loudly with a loud comment that it smells...and you're thinking about signs to put out instead of actually speaking to her?

At try and have a polite word first, before resorting to passive aggressive behaviour.

She might be mortified and apologise immediately for all you know.

at *least

View from bedroom window. She smoking by light... Come on need ideas

Yes she might be mortified she's made you feel like that in your own home. I bet there's no way she's thought of the possibility of there being a bedroom that her smoke's getting into. She needs a nice chair and ashtray somewhere where no-one's windows are.

You could try a polite word.

Yes that's my idea actually. Set her up a lovely smoking place somewhere else. Plastic chair with lighter blu-tacked to arm and little umbrella by the side. It might work

Will try tomorrow talking. Cross i was very busy at weekend o havent spoken to her. (Ok im scared) We got a lovely block and really great neighbours but she the first smoker.... Its a new area...

You could try a polite word.

We could set up a nice area just across the car park. The foxes hang around there. Its very safe, enclosed but no windows..

I really feel for you Ive had the same problem before in my old flat luckilly I knew I would be moving so just tried ignore but it was horrible in Summer having to keep windows closed, I had the guy on one side smoking out of his window and blowing straight into mine and then the old man under me would smoke at his door and would blow straight up onto my veranda where my washing was if door was open would come into my hall way and work its way round flat... YUK

Just around the side of the building a bit should do

Mind you, after the window/comment incident, she might be a bit defensive.

I second asking nicely. When I was a smoker I'd have had no problem smoking somewhere else, especially if I was asked nicely. The smell probably wouldn't have occurred to me since I never noticed it until I quit.

She didnt hear (im a scared mouse) and she playing on a mobile phone with head phones on

Oh right, so what was the point then?

Thing is if she moved just around the corner the smoke then goes into a 4 year olds bedroom window. She really is the first of 20 flats to smoke so new problem....

I know worrel. Made me feel better for 2 seconds. Dh closed lounge window with same comment. We both moved quick to close window when smell appeared.

That's the thing about living in close proximity to people...you will have to put up with smells.

The house at the end of my small garden emits a stench most dinner times of what can only be described as fried B.O and garlic!

I have no idea what they cook but it smells disgusting.

Anyway, I hope the problem goes away for you after a quick word.

I prefer fried bo and onion to this....

She is massively rude to leave her mess behind her but probably hasn't realised it's going into your room. Tell her and if she continues put a big massive planter in the way.