it is his birthday after all

[shrubbery]

My other half works away from home all week and comes home at the weekends. It is his birthday tomorrow.
When he got home on Friday evening, we were all really pleased to see him. After I'd put our son to bed, we were talking and he said that he would not be going away for work again until Thursday, particularly because he had got tickets for a concert we had talked about going to on his birthday.
He then said that he would be going away to London tomorrow and going to the concert and spending his birthday evening with an old school friend, (female), and that he'd be back Wednesday evening.
I was so upset that I went and cried in the shower for ages so he wouldn't see that I wasn't happy with his plans. Today though, I got quite angry with him about it all.
I am upset that he does not want to spend his birthday with his little boy and me. I am also upset that, yet again, he is going out with someone else, when he and I have not been out anywhere together for 5 years.

Get yourself a babysitter and a social life or better still next time he walks in the door you walk straight out of it leaving him with the baby whilst you go and have done fun.

You need to tackle this with him though. Don't be concerned about hurting his feelings or causing discord because he doesn't care bit to upset you.

Please sit him down and explain you understand how things seemed to have developed they he goes off and carries on life as it was pre DS because you never said anything to start with and he assumed it was fine, but its not fine.

Tell him how it hurts you, explain that you look forward to seeing him when he comes home and for you all to be a family, a team, together for the fun as well as monotonous bits.

Ask him to start planning his weekends around the 3 of you as well as a few romantic ones where all these friends he usually goes out with can babysit DS.

If you can't say it, write it, tell him how you want your life together to be, shared. Include goals like that in X months he will work locally or you will move to where he works (assuming he isn't roaming) or perhaps his job could change slightly so he moves home ft? By writing it down you can say it all how you want it explained and he can keep and reread it.

Think about how you want your life to be. Is he still part of that picture? You would get lots of support and advice on here if you wanted to explore your financial options alone.

Speak to a friend in real life, don't hold it all in, it's not healthy.

Big hugs

What have you got to do ??

Leave the bastard.

When have you got to do it ??

On the fuckers birthday !

Come on op, llife's too short to be putting up with shit like this, you and your boy deserve so much more.

We all read so many threads on here similar to this OP.
THIS IS NOT OK!
Just think how happy you could be with someone that actually put your feelings first for once.
The financial side can always be sorted. You are worth more than this. I'm in the LTB camp. You will need strength but I do believe it will be the best decision you could make for you and your ds.

shrubbery as I said in my previous post, I've been where you are at now. I wasted years of my life (the best years) on someone who didn't care for me but couldn't be arsed to let me know that.
I would never ever say LTB, that's always got to be your choice, but please think about what is best for you and your child. Incidentally my eldest child (the one I was trying to hold things together for and staying for) despises his dad now, in fact he has no contact with him.
If you can't or don't want to leave him then at least try to build a life for yourself that doesn't consist solely of waiting for him to come home. Think of further qualifications, retraining, developing a hobby that you enjoy, and socialising, especially as your son gets older.