to think thin comments should be just as unacceptable as fat comments

[sarahighseas]

It seems to be perfectly acceptable for people to say to someone thin, you should eat some more pies but not telling someone fat to eat less pies in not acceptable.

Aibu to think thin people have way more discrimination?

No I don't think it's way more, I think it's somewhere between less than and equal to.

Don't be silly. 'More' discrimination, really?

No one should be making personal comments but frankly thin rules, if you're thin you look fabulous in designer clothes as they're made for you.

I'd put up with a few more 'eats some pies' comments to be actually thin.

Personal comments are never acceptable.

I think you are right though that it is seen as ok to make comments about how slim someone is.

I would guess that this is probably because thin people are not generally sneered at, ridiculed or loathed in the same way fat people are. There isn't the same underlying disgust delivered in the word thin as in the word fat.

I think all personal comments about people's size, or looks, etc should be seen as unacceptable. It is never ok to sneer at, hurt or upset someone or make them feel bad about themselves.

I don't know why anyone feels they have the right to do that. Someone else's size or looks doesn't change anything in a person's life one little bit, so it beats me why they give a shit.

The only thing I can think of is that they enjoy the feeling they get when they upset someone.

YANBU

You never know if somebody has/had an eating disorder, comments about being either under or overweight are totally unacceptable and could severely damage or worsen somebody's confidence.

You look well = you've lost weight

You look tired = you need to eat regularly and proper meals.

I don't think there's way more discrimination

But a lot of people seem to misguidedly think "skinny cow", is a compliment.

To someone who is constantly used to remarks like, "You've got no boobs" or "Why don't you just eat lots of cream cakes?"...the words "skinny cow" really won't be received well.

YABU to think there is way more discrimination against thin people compared to fat people. There isn't.

YANBU to think that thin comments are as unacceptable as fat comments.

YANBU.

I am of the, ahem, sturdier, build, but am always irritated about how it seems to be ok to say to thin/slim people that they are too thin/skinny cow/what have you got to worry about, etc.

It's just horrible, and should not be seen as ok at all.

Fact is, people should just not be mean about the appear of others in general, whether that's fat, thin, pretty, big ears, whatever.

I was told once that I would be too thin to be able to give birth. I'm a size 10 .

That was one of many many shit comments from people about being too thin. All dressed up as 'concern'. My BMI was 20 FFS.

YANBU

No, definitely not more.

"but frankly thin rules, if you're thin you look fabulous in designer clothes as they're made for you"

Aye, fuck that it's an unwanted comment on my appearance, I looked great in clothes I can't afford. Lucky me.

"but frankly thin rules, if you're thin you look fabulous in designer clothes as they're made for you"

I disagree

If you're slim you'll probably look good but thin can be quite different.

Yanbu op

Judys - thanks for quoting me and missing the bit where I said 'no one should be making personal comments'

And then bloody agreeing with me ...

How irritating is that

I wouldn't say there is way more discrimination, but I did once have half a big mac and some fries thrown at me from a moving car while the passenger shouted "looks like you need a good meal" I'm a size 8 and while I know many women would love to be that size, I absolutely hate it. My bum is pretty much non existent and my jeans always go saggy around my bum/thighs/knees. Peoples comments make me feel so self conscious.

People need to think before they speak. I've been with my sister who is in the process recovering from a decade of various eating disorders (beyond proud of her) and heard women make comments numerous times. Engage your brain before you pass comment on anyone's appearance, whether they are big or small, you don't know what damage your words can do.

As a fat woman, I agree.
Any negative comments about another persons body or appearance just feed into the same culture that allows fat people to be mocked and shamed.

Not more discrimination, but I think it is seen as more acceptable to comment on someone's size when they are thin. I lost a fair bit of weight from being poorly (size 8 at 5' 3", my BMI was just around 20 so not officially underweight even). And people would say things like 'I wish I could eat what I want and stay slim like you'. These were people who knew how ill I'd been- work colleagues who had sent me flowers while I was in hospital.

So really? You'd really like a dose of Crohn's? Just so you could lose a bit of weight?

I lost count of the number of people telling me rather forcefully I'd lost weight in my first year at uni. Some of them even demanded to know if I was anorexic. I wasn't, but it didnt help my confidence and depression. Even if I was anorexic, I certainly wouldnt have told someone who was shouting in my face about it!

As others have said, discrimination YABU. Rudeness YANBU.

I agree MrsDeVere. It's as though other people's jealousy, is supposed to bring comfort

It is not acceptable no but I don't think thin comments are as frequent or as nasty/malicious as the fat comments get. So neither acceptable but what thin people in general/on average experience is likely less frequently and less upsetting/nasty than overweight people.

I think all weight comments are inappropriate as weight is usually a personal thing.
I'm a 12-14 and HATE comments like 'ooh you're looking skinny' - no I'm not. They know I'm not. We all know I'm not skinny.
I don't aspire to be skinny either. I'm fine the way I am. Why has weight become a topic for conversation?
It really annoys me.