I have been a single parent for most of my children's upbringing. Their father and I split when they were 4 and 2 years old. I have had brief relationships since but primarily I have always been a single parent. They're now 13 and 15.
Despite being a single parent I was always obsessive good with money and managed to take the kids on 3 foreign holidays during their childhood and paid for my eldest to go abroad with school twice, both times to Germany. My youngest has never been on a school trip other than the local area.
I'm now living with a new partner, money is better than it ever was for me so thearetically, if youngest comes home with a school trip letter abroad (which he is likely to in the next few months as he's just been told that Spain is on the cards for all year 9s) then it shouldn't be a problem right?
Well no, DP said he doesn't want us to let him go, his kids never went on school trips as they were growing up and neither did he. My argument is that as my eldest has always been allowed to go and we're not short of money, he should be able to go! imagine the conversation ... "sorry son, I know your brother got to go away loads at your age back when we had less money but you can't go, no real reason other than life is a bitch sometimes."
AIBU to tell DP that it isn't our fault that he was too tight to let his kids go on school trips (they had the money, they had more than I did anyway!) and I have always brought my kids up knowing that school trips, within reason, will be paid for and I don't want that to change?