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Only one not invited to wedding

31 replies

Jashley398 · 13/09/2014 19:04

A couple at my church that I thought were my friends recently had a wedding and when I saw the pictures on Facebook it looked like I was the only one not invited. I even saw this a pic of this girl that they just met three weeks ago that just started coming to my church at the wedding. Did they really invite someone they had just met three weeks before their wedding to their wedding and not me? I have been going there a year. Also, I saw that they just added this person on Facebook three weeks ago.

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Rivercam · 13/09/2014 19:05

Maybe they thought you had been sent an invite, and it hadn't arrived.

holdyourown · 13/09/2014 19:06

did they know her prior or is she going out with one of their friends maybe? all sorts of reasons. Try not to take it personally, you know what weddings are like, people are limited with numbers

WeAllHaveWings · 13/09/2014 19:08

If you really have no idea why you were not invited (past disagreements with bride/groom or another of their guests) I would assume invite got lost in the post.

gordyslovesheep · 13/09/2014 19:08

honestly you cant be that close to them if they never once mentioned it!

backbystealth · 13/09/2014 19:10

Oh weddings.

Tons of reasons why they didn't invite you. Don't sweat it.

Even if they like other people more than you and that's the reason, so what? It's really no big deal and nothing to be upset about.

Unless you feel left out in other ways or at other times by other people?

Floop · 13/09/2014 19:10

I think this is one you've just got to let go and not get worked up about.

MrsCumbersnatch · 13/09/2014 19:11

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SockQueen · 13/09/2014 19:13

How many forums have you managed to post this on now OP?

feathermucker · 13/09/2014 19:16

You may be friends, but they have no obligation to invite you to their wedding, I'm afraid.

Maybe they knew this person before, maybe they made an instant connection with her, maybe they had limited numbers.....

But if they didn't even mention it, it sounds like they don't consider you close enough to ask.

Sorry to sound harsh.

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Jashley398 · 13/09/2014 19:17

Yes, I feel left out all the time by other people. They are always getting together and having weddings and parties and never inviting me.

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feathermucker · 13/09/2014 19:17

Yes, have I seen this before?!

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted · 13/09/2014 19:18

If you weren't aware that this wedding was being planned you are not a close enough friend to them to have been invited.

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Jashley398 · 13/09/2014 19:18

They mentioned it to other people where I could hear and I asked where and when it was and they told me a general location and a day but never went into detail more than that.

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Jashley398 · 13/09/2014 19:19

I was aware it was being planned I just didn't know everyone in the church was invited or that this girl was

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BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted · 13/09/2014 19:21

"They are always getting together and having weddings and parties and never inviting me."

Maybe the fault isn't with other people. They don't like you enough to invite you to stuff. Maybe you should try inviting them instead of waiting about to be asked.

TheHouseatWhoCorner · 13/09/2014 19:21

Do you ever socialize with them away from church?

Viviennemary · 13/09/2014 19:23

I agree that it's best you forget about it. But you could kind of do a bit of fishing in casual conversation with other people to see if you can find out if there was any reason why you didn't get invited. Unless it was a misunderstanding and all the people from your church went to just the ceremony without an invitation as I think they would be entitled to do.

OhMyArsingGodInABox · 13/09/2014 19:23

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littledrummergirl · 13/09/2014 19:26

Dh and pil had been members of a church for all his life(and before in pil case).
When I got married in the church our guests were seated, the rest of the church community stood at the back. When we left the church it felt as though half the village were there.

Although not strictly invited it was lovely and loads of them are in pics.

Yabvu to think that their day was all about you.

hormonalandneedingcheese · 13/09/2014 19:32

"They are always getting together and having weddings and parties and never inviting me."

If it's multiple people it suggests that either they are an unpleasant clique or it's yourself OP. You are the common denominator. One who could be being snubbed for whatever reason.

hormonalandneedingcheese · 13/09/2014 19:33

I don't mean that to sound so blunt OP, but if they are all doing it then something is up- especially if you directly ask and they are evasive.

DeWee · 13/09/2014 20:06

Much more likely they did a general invite at a time you happened to miss.
Or maybe they specifically invited the person that had been only going 3 weeks simply because they thought it would be nice to invite them and give them a chance to get to know others.
Or maybe they knew this person before-indeed they might have invited them along.

gertiegusset · 13/09/2014 21:20

Sometimes people just don't like other people, maybe this is one of those times.
You'll survive, make other friends, move on...

gertiegusset · 13/09/2014 21:25

And meant with kindness, you do sound like a bit of a moaning Minnie.

Fabulous46 · 13/09/2014 22:05

Just be happy for the couple that got married. There's probably numerous reasons they couldn't invite everyone.

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