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AIBU?

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to think she was being a little bit unreasonable?

51 replies

extremepie · 13/09/2014 13:29

I have a facebook friend (ex work collegue) who was showing off a new tattoo in a picture. In the picture she was wearing lacy black and red pants and nothing else!

One of her male friends posted a comment on the picture, something along the lines of 'hey, sexy pants lol'. She then got all offended and started posting back stuff like 'yeah my BOYFRIEND thinks so too, you can't be posting shit like that when I have a BOYFRIEND' (including the capitals) and then loads of her friends started piling in too calling him a pervert and telling him to grow up because the picture was about the tattoo not the underwear etc.

He responded by saying something like 'calm down I was only having a laugh, we do it all the time at work!' and people were still responding saying things like 'well obviously she doesn't find it funny' and getting all angry with him.

AIBU to find it a bit weird that you would post a picture of yourself practically naked on facebook and then get all angry and indignant with someone who comments on the fact? The tattoo in question was on her ribs so in fairness if she wanted to show it off then showing some skin is necessary but aibu in thinking she could quite easily have just pulled her top up rather than being naked except for pants?

Just find it weird that she would post a picture of herself in underwear then call someone a childish weird pervert for looking at it!

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MrsMarcJacobs · 13/09/2014 13:34

She's an attention junkie. how annoying - HIDE hide hide.

Pheonixisrising · 13/09/2014 13:38

She was wanting a reaction
YANBU

LadyLuck10 · 13/09/2014 13:41

Yanbu, she expects respect but doesn't behave like she respects herself. Attention seeker.

Alisvolatpropiis · 13/09/2014 13:42

Yanbu.

People like that are so tedious.

Sirzy · 13/09/2014 13:43

Yup attention seeker!

Annarose2014 · 13/09/2014 13:43

LOOK AT ME! LOOK AT ME!! LOOK AT ME!!

............

HOW DARE YOU LOOK AT ME!!

extremepie · 13/09/2014 13:46

I felt quite sorry for the bloke! I don't know him or anything but he was getting all sorts of abuse thrown at him for making a jokey comment, I'm not sure that a man looking at a photo of a woman he knows that she chose to share with him makes him a pervert either..

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extremepie · 13/09/2014 13:47

Ha yes exactly Annarose!

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Nomama · 13/09/2014 14:45

Post back in support for him - he was only seeing what she had put there to be looked at. He doesn't deserve any kind of bashing... but you could make a difference for him, maybe even turn the tide of comments, if you post something...

Aeroflotgirl · 13/09/2014 14:46

Well don't post semi nekkid pictures of yourself on social media. I wonder what your boyfriend will think.

Aeroflotgirl · 13/09/2014 14:47

this is to your ex collegue by the way.

Aeroflotgirl · 13/09/2014 14:48

I would defriend her for treating that poor bloke like that, attention seeker

Explored · 13/09/2014 14:57

The really odd thing is all the people siding with her and abusing him. She got exactly what she deserved/wanted. Why is no-one telling her that but attacking him instead?

MrsWinnibago · 13/09/2014 15:02

HANG ON. What the fuck do you mean she "got exactly what she deserved"

HelpMeGetOutOfHere · 13/09/2014 15:05

Yes be brave and stand up for him. Things like this is exactly why I closed my Facebook account.

Explored · 13/09/2014 15:07

She was asking for someone to comment on her sexy pants and that's what she got.

MrsWinnibago · 13/09/2014 15:09

Your wording suggests she deserved to be humiliated....because she chose a certain pair of underwear.

MrsWinnibago · 13/09/2014 15:10

And she didn't ask for someone to comment on her underwear I don't believe.

Nomama · 13/09/2014 15:10

Maybe....

She flaunted her knickers and got comments on them... just as she deserved. Nice knickers always deserve comment.

or

She flaunted herself in her undies and some people told her she looked lovely. As she did indeed look lovely she desreved the nice comments.

or

She posted a picture without thinking and it caused a bit of a stir.

You can read all sorts into that comment.

My opinion is that she was daft enough to post a picture that made her feel uncomfortable... because her boyfriend may not like the comments it attracted. Nothing to do with the poor bloke who posted a 'witty' comment, just her own take on what her boyfriend would say if/when he saw it. Says more about her than the bloke getting shredded.

And no, I don't think you should be able to post a picture of yourself in your underwear and not expect to get such comments. I live in the real world.

SpringBreaker · 13/09/2014 15:14

She shouldn't have posted a photo of herself in her knickers then..

MrsWinnibago · 13/09/2014 15:24

Why?

SpringBreaker · 13/09/2014 15:30

Well if I posted a picture of myself in lacy knickers, I would not be surprised at comments being made. If I didn't want people seeing my knickers I would have cropped them out of the photo, which is very simple to do.

Alternatively I would have responded with "thanks but it's the tarot you are supposed to be looking at", not behave like a shrieking twit

SpringBreaker · 13/09/2014 15:31

Tattoo not tarot

extremepie · 13/09/2014 15:47

Yes I did get the impression she wasn't happy that her boyfriend would see the comment, hence her 'my BOYFRIEND' comments in response - she could quite easily have been wearing jeans rather than just underwear imo and saved herself the bother of people mentioning what she was wearing rather than the tattoo iyswim :/

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Nomama · 13/09/2014 15:55

I suppose we should have asked, where is the tattoo? Did she need to be in her underwear to show it off?

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