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I'm still cringing, AIBU???

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PrettyPictures92 · 13/09/2014 11:43

So long story short - I suffer from social anxiety/depression (which is getting better) and a general lack of social skills.

My DD is in primary 1 now and I don't know any of the other parents and am way too shy/nervous to say hi to anyone other than the odd smile and greeting as I pass by.

But there's this mum who waits for her daughter at the gate closest to my home and any time I pass her by I smile and say hi then carry on walking hoping she doesn't notice I've turned bright red, she seems really lovely too.

Anyway she stopped me yesterday as I was passing and said hi and told me to watch out for lice as they're going about the p1 class that her and my daughter are in. I sort of went on about how much I hate them and how they'd been in my daughters nursery class before we'd moved here and what a nightmare they are, and then forgot the name of the nursery my daughter went to. Spent a few minutes trying to recall it before she suggested the name (not in a mean or condescending way, she really was lovely). Anyway I then went, "I'm sorry I don't know you, I'm pretty pictures" and stuck out my sweaty hand for her to shake! (Is that even normal?!) Anyway she told me her name and then I kind of laughed and went "sorry I'm really awkward in social situations!"

By this point even my complete social ineptness knew how weird I was being. We chatted for a few more seconds and I went to get my daughter, completely cringing at myself.

She's going to think I'm a total nutjob right? ! Wibu to never leave the house again??

Think this was all made a 100x worse by the fact I was standing there really needing a shower (not smelly, had went for one the previous morning but the hot water was on the blink and my hair gets yuck quickly) so i was already feeling a bit embarrassed anyway.

How weird would you find it if someone had done/said that to you? Would you completely avoid them in the future? And should I just stay at home forever now to avoid inflicting my social ineptness on everyone around me??

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backbystealth · 13/09/2014 20:00

Totally agree with everyone else.

I'm a very odd mixture of very confident, sociable, popular, funny... and a socially insecure nutjob who can't think of anything normal to say at all and comes out with total shit!

To be honest I never know which 'me' I'm going to be!

Most people are nervous or self conscious honestly - even the ones who appear to be the opposite.

Littlefish · 13/09/2014 20:03

I think you sound lovely. She obviously wanted to get to know you, hence the regular smiles etc. The next step is to suggest going for coffee after the school drop off one day. Have a few more chats first (threadworms is always a good topic. Grin) and then just jump in feet first and suggest the coffee.

Lagoonablue · 13/09/2014 20:06

You sound lovely. I would be your friend. You sound a bit quirky and I like that in people. Don't worry, you did nothing embarrassing at all.

MyFirstName · 13/09/2014 21:26

I am with everyone else, I think you sound lovely and what happened/what you did/said would not have put me off being friends, more likely to make me like you even more!

Purplecircle · 13/09/2014 21:32

I wouldn't have thought anything of it at all, just that I'd be happy I'd chatted to a new person.
There nothing wrong with saying you're a bit awkward at meeting new people, lots are
You sound lovely btw

tobeabat · 13/09/2014 21:42

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PrettyPictures92 · 13/09/2014 23:23

Thanks everyone, has made me feel much better. I had literally spent the past day worrying myself mad about it lol, glad that I've not potentially made myself look like a nutjob! (And even if I have it's not in a bad way Grin )

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NinjaLeprechaun · 13/09/2014 23:36

I think that "I'm not good in social situations" is probably the most useful phrase I have ever learned. It explains so much.

Assuming it comes out the way I mean it to, of course - I once told somebody that 'I don't do people very well'. Confused

Bulbasaur · 13/09/2014 23:58

How weird would you find it if someone had done/said that to you? Would you completely avoid them in the future? And should I just stay at home forever now to avoid inflicting my social ineptness on everyone around me??

Actually, I'd probably think you were cute and want to talk to you again. Also, I'd be happy I found a kindred spirit. You were socially awkward and owned it, that's pretty cool. Everyone has been a dork at some point.

I can name hundreds of times I've just impulsively blurted out the stupidest shit that's popped into my brain. Grin

There's no such thing as a person that is perfect at every social interaction and knows exactly what to do. Those that think they are, most likely are lacking any social awareness.

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